For fellow Catholics I dont know what I should to with ERP because of my OCD I always made promises to God but I dont know which of them are valid and which are not. So my OCD keeps telling me that when I am doing ERP that I commit a sin. How can I go to confession properly? Because if I am really sinning by doing just normal things then my clnfession wouldnt be valid. And with normal things I mean things that objectively are not a sin like eating pizza or hiking...

I grew up Catholic and strayed away from the religion for many reasons. ERP is not a sin. It is help for you to get back on with your life being able to manage your OCD. You think God would want you unhappy?? No he wouldn’t. Although I’m not Catholic anymore, I love God and have my own relationship with him and he has never steered me wrong. Don’t let a religion dictate your recovery. God wants you to recover. He wouldn’t put harm in your way. The devil does that. And to clarify, I am not trying to disrespect your choice of religion. I’m just telling you my point of view. God works in mysterious ways and he also did not write the bible, others did. So stay strong and trust in God to guide you. He’s not going to punish you for doing ERP. God doesn’t punish. The devil does.

God is the only one who can judge anyone. Not priests, not anyone but God. Trust in him.

So. Not to give reassurance Bc you shouldn’t do that. But the Bible also states that God loves everyone and that anyone can be forgiven. Do you think that people who die before their last rites go to hell Bc of the sins they couldn’t forgive before they pass? No, and if you do you might want to reevaluate some of the messages you’ve internalized. But if the aforementioned people are forgiven then you too would be forgiven for not confessing things that you didn’t rhink were sins.

I get what you mean when I dont know if something is a sin I should just do it. But the problem I have is that I see myself bound by some promises and I cant really say which of them I made because of OCD and which not ( because there was a time when making promises was my tactic to have security) so I am afraid I sin.