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hey! for a while ive seen you posting about your worries, and each time you describe what must feel like youre holding onto a branch and your fingers are slipping away one by one. i know the feeling, its horrible. like your worst nightmare is coming closer to being reality, all the time. but i can assure you, youre actually at the exact same place, and youve been the entire time. hell, when i look at what ive written down about a year ago about my worries, they havent changed one bit. its the same. im not going anywhere, nothing has changed. and the same goes for you. youre safe

oh and no, wouldnt say i have hocd but have definitely had the thoughts, im just not as bothered by them in comparison to my other intrusive thoughts. i too am a man addict, so getting those “wait hold up what if im secretly a lesbian” and yes, they bother me, but i have so many other thoughts that feel more urgent to me, so i barely have time to give a shit

Everything you describe is OCD. I know it’s scary and it feels so real but it’s not real.

Just take a deep breath, and try to live with uncertainty of it all.. I HOPE THIS DOES NOT TRIGGER YOU BECAUSE IT HELPS ME — but I always say when these thoughts come up ( which we have VERY similar thoughts and I suffer from hocd I think ) I always say “yeah that could mean I’m gay, who’s knows!” The less meaning you give your thoughts the less feelings and anxiety you will associate with them. Could you be gay? Hell anyone COULD be, but just because you can doesn’t mean you are. You see?? There is so much uncertainty and that’s okay! To fight this you have to be okay with the uncertainty.

Oh I am bi so I cant give you any advice sorry

Nah because i wasnt worryin about it If it is bothering you then it is OCD

wouldnt say im bi or a lesbian, but whenever i see someone hot, girl or boy, i’ll admire their beauty. not necessarily in a sexual way, just going “damn! you’ve been blessed!”

if it was an actual crush your thoughts wouldnt be so worrisome, all “oh no what is this, what if its a real crush” and all that. if it were a real crush you’d be drooling all over her and very much enjoying thinkinh about it and gladly letting it exist in your mind all day. if your facial expression goes “argh!” everytime you get a thought about it, its fear, not infatuatiob

i get it. i can obsess a little over other girls beauty, but thats because i wish i had that kind of beauty too

oh yes i know! but youve expressed these same worries for some time now. you feel like youre being pushed down the lesbian lane, but actually youre standing in one spot, and have been the whole time. ocd puts lies in your head, and will find any way to convince you that its not ocd, youre in denial, youre the case that uses ocd as some kind of mask to cover up some unacceptable truth. my ocd does EXACTLY the same, just with different themes.

Oh I just looked at a dude and thought wow he is preety hot and then I saw a girl later that day and thought hmm she is pretty hot to and then I put 2 and 2 together and then I knew I was bi

Yeah I like them in a sexual way