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- 6y
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hey! for a while ive seen you posting about your worries, and each time you describe what must feel like youre holding onto a branch and your fingers are slipping away one by one. i know the feeling, its horrible. like your worst nightmare is coming closer to being reality, all the time. but i can assure you, youre actually at the exact same place, and youve been the entire time. hell, when i look at what ive written down about a year ago about my worries, they havent changed one bit. its the same. im not going anywhere, nothing has changed. and the same goes for you. youre safe
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oh and no, wouldnt say i have hocd but have definitely had the thoughts, im just not as bothered by them in comparison to my other intrusive thoughts. i too am a man addict, so getting those “wait hold up what if im secretly a lesbian” and yes, they bother me, but i have so many other thoughts that feel more urgent to me, so i barely have time to give a shit
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- 6y
Everything you describe is OCD. I know it’s scary and it feels so real but it’s not real.
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Just take a deep breath, and try to live with uncertainty of it all.. I HOPE THIS DOES NOT TRIGGER YOU BECAUSE IT HELPS ME — but I always say when these thoughts come up ( which we have VERY similar thoughts and I suffer from hocd I think ) I always say “yeah that could mean I’m gay, who’s knows!” The less meaning you give your thoughts the less feelings and anxiety you will associate with them. Could you be gay? Hell anyone COULD be, but just because you can doesn’t mean you are. You see?? There is so much uncertainty and that’s okay! To fight this you have to be okay with the uncertainty.
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Oh I am bi so I cant give you any advice sorry
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Nah because i wasnt worryin about it If it is bothering you then it is OCD
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wouldnt say im bi or a lesbian, but whenever i see someone hot, girl or boy, i’ll admire their beauty. not necessarily in a sexual way, just going “damn! you’ve been blessed!”
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if it was an actual crush your thoughts wouldnt be so worrisome, all “oh no what is this, what if its a real crush” and all that. if it were a real crush you’d be drooling all over her and very much enjoying thinkinh about it and gladly letting it exist in your mind all day. if your facial expression goes “argh!” everytime you get a thought about it, its fear, not infatuatiob
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i get it. i can obsess a little over other girls beauty, but thats because i wish i had that kind of beauty too
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oh yes i know! but youve expressed these same worries for some time now. you feel like youre being pushed down the lesbian lane, but actually youre standing in one spot, and have been the whole time. ocd puts lies in your head, and will find any way to convince you that its not ocd, youre in denial, youre the case that uses ocd as some kind of mask to cover up some unacceptable truth. my ocd does EXACTLY the same, just with different themes.
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Oh I just looked at a dude and thought wow he is preety hot and then I saw a girl later that day and thought hmm she is pretty hot to and then I put 2 and 2 together and then I knew I was bi
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Yeah I like them in a sexual way
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- 15w
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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- 14w
As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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- 8w
Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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