Retroactive Jealousy

Guys i’ve been diagnosed with OCD for a long time now, and I got into a relationship about a year ago. My girlfriend had a boyfriend before and lost all of her “firsts” to him. I lost all of mine to her and ever since around march i have been experiencing extreme retroactive jealousy and I hate it because I know I am much more important to her then he ever was, but I still can’t get intrusive thoughts about him, about them, and about that he was “better”. Anyone have any tips or advice?

Jigjon99

Date posted: 3y

I struggled with this theme in the past so I know how your feeling. I think the best thing I did was work on my self compassion and self esteem. Try to remember that these thought are not you and not what you believe.

chantie

Date posted: 3y

Maybe you are more important, maybe you aren't. But you don't need to know the answer right now and you can choose to focus on enjoying your relationship instead of worrying about it! That's the whole point of being in one, right? To enjoy it!

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