Excessive guilt?

Does anyone else have excessive guilt about doing something that is literally not even bad or in the wrong? When I get this feeling of excessive guilt it totally takes me on a fast downward spiral into perfectionism OCD and also some false memory OCD because I feel like I have to mentally go back in my mind and check every little detail like to make sure that I did not do anything wrong or bad to anyone. The main theme of my most recent OCD episode that I am currently in right now, is, if I am considered a cheater because I went back after two months and tried to make things work with my ex-boyfriend. It's super confusing and brings up a lot of tough emotions to deal with but deep down I don't think I did anything bad or wrong. I think that honestly my brain gets a bit confused and I get triggered with OCD episodes when I am talking to two different people that I care about and love. It doesn't make me a cheater, right guys? 😰 ugh.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

You are with someone currently and tried to go back while with that person and make things work with your ex? It was hard to understand in your message

T.D.

Date posted: 3y

Hi. No I am not with someone currently I had reconnected with an old ex boyfriend and well we were friends for about 20 years but we reconnected when he was in jail and we have been talking just over the phone on and off since January. I have not seen him in person or been in an actual physical relationship with him since 2020

A23

Date posted: 3y

Ocd and guilt is common, excess is part of OCD

T.D.

Date posted: 3y

What are your guy's thoughts on this situation? If anyone can offer me some honest advice or insights to this situation then I would be happy to hear out your current struggle/story and input my advice. 🙏🏼♥️

Worry24

Date posted: 3y

@CreativeTD Hi, sending love and healing your way first of all. OCD does a good job of making us feel bad about things that normal people don’t give any thought too. The confusion your brain feels is relatable, I get confused and then it triggers a whole episode of OCD. I don’t think you’re a bad person, or a cheater. You clearly seemed to be in-between relationships at the time from what I understand from on and off, but even so, reconnecting with an old ex doesn’t make you a cheater. OCD will make you obsess on everything. But even if you were a cheater, it is okay. The sun would still rise tomorrow, it’s the OCD mind making you obsess over thing more than needed. Much love x

T.D.

Date posted: 3y

@Worry24 Thank you so much hun. You really brightened my day. 🙏🏼 I don't know why the thought of being a "cheater" scares me so bad.

T.D.

Date posted: 3y

But it sucks because I still feel that unnecessary and excessive guilt just because I went back to my most recent ex and my most recent physical/intimate partner and tried to make things work

T.D.

Date posted: 3y

"N" is the long-time friend/love that I have not seen in years, but we reconnected when he was in jail. "J" is my most recent ex, that I went back to & we tried to make things work again. But even when I have been on and off with J and trying to make things work with J, I have still been answering the phone calls from N (in jail).

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