- Username
- Charlie
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Dude wow, we are literally going through the same thing. I always feel like, what if i see her and dont hug her, or dont like her company. What if she texts and i dont like it. I even dont like it when she texts sometimes. Its almost like, oh god why is she texting. The only thing which has helped me in past 2 days is something similar to what Keliz said. Just accept the thoughts and see ur anxiety go down. Like when u get a text from her. Just accept the fact that oh god its causing me anxiety and i dont like it when she texts. Trust me i didnt want to accept them at first either but after i started i just felt a lot more better and in control.
So me and this girl have been friends since we were kids and in the last six years we've grown extremely close we liked each other three years ago but nothing happened and this year I told her I liked her and she said she liked me back, we decided to wait until September because it was a better time to start going out, I haven't seen her in ages because she's been away and has work but recently things between us have been off, we can't keep a conversation going we tend to fight a lot more now and recently rocd has hit me hard saying things like "what if I don't like her anymore" "what if I don't want to be with her and want to be with any other girl" "what if the next time I see her I'm just going to be thinking I want to leave I don't like her" and these thoughts make me extremely sad and anxious and I just feel sick because I can't lose this girl she means so much to me
I hear ya! I too struggle with ROCD so this sounds incredibly familiar to me. It sounds like she is important to you. It also sounds like you don’t have the answer to those thoughts you are having. My therapist has encouraged me to respond to similar thoughts (similar to what you are describing) by saying something to yourself like - “I hear you. Thanks for bringing that up, mind, but I don’t have that answer right now. I’m going to return to doing what I am doing right now”. I could be wrong but it sounds like you want to explore things with this person. So each time you worry, remind yourself that you are choosing to explore this right now. You are choosing commitment to this option right now. And that is all you need to know. I hope this helps and pls choose to dismiss if it doenst :)
She means so much to me and now I've developed rocd with her I've realized that more than ever, I've had it before with a girl but the only reason it went away was because we broke up, but with this girl it's so much different because I hate this I want things to go back to the way they were
Don’t give up :) you got this! I always had a reason to break up with people I was dating in the past so I didn’t realize what I was dealing with was ROCD. My current partner made me realize I needed to get better because I still feel the same way with him even tho he is the best person I have dated. I’m working on this with you! It’s hard work but my guess is that it’s completely worth it
It will be, I want to fight this for her
Those thoughts are gonna be there sometimes. As hard as it is, maybe you can respond with - maybe I care maybe I don’t, and then try your best to return to your true values which is getting back to doing whatever it is you were doing. And returning back to being present with exploring you and her.
What’s goin on?
We text everyday so now when we're talking or her name shows up it used to be pure excitement and joy and now it's guilt and anxiety because I feel like I'm lying to myself and her
I was just thinking that we agreed to become official in September but now I'm thinking mhm well we don't really see each other a lot so maybe it isn't a good idea and I thought "I wouldn't care if we did or not" so now I'm panicking
No one really listens No one is there for me People are all minding their owns I don’t have a loved one. I feel alone I wish someone would really listen. Really understand this messed up mind of mine. I can’t talk to anyone I am afraid they don’t wanna listen. I am afraid i will act like a burden. Thought about texting some people i trust. Like mr. ***** or dr. *****. But I’m scared they will be like: “what’s wrong with this girl??? What on earth is going on??? We don’t care! Why did she text us??? What have she thought??? “ No one is here for me. Not even me myself. I had enough and life is being really tough lately The more goes on, the more i feel alone I admit i got no one Guess no one is interested in knowing what the hell is going on in my mind. Who cares?? Really? You know what?! Why talking to my therapist? What will she say? Just like classes Just like teachers She would say: do what i told you. Do your CBT sh*t. But i am tired of that I hate it. I love (loved) to be independent but.. I have to admit this: I really Really Need someone to rescue me Outta this thing. I am having suicidal thoughts And I can’t let them go I scratched my wrist. Help please
I'm really hurt. Can I talk to someone please?
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