Please Listen

Dude wow, we are literally going through the same thing. I always feel like, what if i see her and dont hug her, or dont like her company. What if she texts and i dont like it. I even dont like it when she texts sometimes. Its almost like, oh god why is she texting. The only thing which has helped me in past 2 days is something similar to what Keliz said. Just accept the thoughts and see ur anxiety go down. Like when u get a text from her. Just accept the fact that oh god its causing me anxiety and i dont like it when she texts. Trust me i didnt want to accept them at first either but after i started i just felt a lot more better and in control.

So me and this girl have been friends since we were kids and in the last six years we've grown extremely close we liked each other three years ago but nothing happened and this year I told her I liked her and she said she liked me back, we decided to wait until September because it was a better time to start going out, I haven't seen her in ages because she's been away and has work but recently things between us have been off, we can't keep a conversation going we tend to fight a lot more now and recently rocd has hit me hard saying things like "what if I don't like her anymore" "what if I don't want to be with her and want to be with any other girl" "what if the next time I see her I'm just going to be thinking I want to leave I don't like her" and these thoughts make me extremely sad and anxious and I just feel sick because I can't lose this girl she means so much to me

She means so much to me and now I've developed rocd with her I've realized that more than ever, I've had it before with a girl but the only reason it went away was because we broke up, but with this girl it's so much different because I hate this I want things to go back to the way they were

Don’t give up :) you got this! I always had a reason to break up with people I was dating in the past so I didn’t realize what I was dealing with was ROCD. My current partner made me realize I needed to get better because I still feel the same way with him even tho he is the best person I have dated. I’m working on this with you! It’s hard work but my guess is that it’s completely worth it

It will be, I want to fight this for her

Those thoughts are gonna be there sometimes. As hard as it is, maybe you can respond with - maybe I care maybe I don’t, and then try your best to return to your true values which is getting back to doing whatever it is you were doing. And returning back to being present with exploring you and her.

What’s goin on?

We text everyday so now when we're talking or her name shows up it used to be pure excitement and joy and now it's guilt and anxiety because I feel like I'm lying to myself and her

I was just thinking that we agreed to become official in September but now I'm thinking mhm well we don't really see each other a lot so maybe it isn't a good idea and I thought "I wouldn't care if we did or not" so now I'm panicking