- Date posted
- 2y
i genuinely hate myself
i can’t understand why i’m like this and why i do the things i do
i can’t understand why i’m like this and why i do the things i do
It's okay to feel like that. Sometimes it happens to not understand, and it's absolutely normal to feel angry at not understanding. Here's the thing: we try to understand things with the mentality that we used in past/that our parents/experiences teached us. (It's called projection, when we try to understand others by "projecting" ourself in their experiences.). And that is normal too, but it can lead to traps that block us. Sometimes, the mentality that you have can't understand yours problems, or problems of others. And it's hard I know, but in that situations the best thing you can do is listen.
For example: if a friend of yours have a chronic pain and you don't, you can't understand how some things works/ how he feels, because you never experienced it before! So you would probably have an hard time understanding him. It doesn't means that his chronic pain doesn't exist, that it is all in his mind or that he is "built wrong". What would you do in a situation like that? I am preatty sure, that you would try to help him the best you can! You would stay; and help him to feel better! In order to understand, you need to listen at him, and validate his feelings even if you can't understand them at the moment. Search for solutions, and making him follow them! And with time and effort, maybe one day together after a lot of trying, he would feel better! It's the same with yourself. Inside you there is a "little you" (metaphorically speaking) that is suffering and needs help. It's hard to understand why, or how. But you can search for solutions. You can "listen" your feelings/your fears, and search for solutions. There alre a lot of professionist and healing process out there. And maybe, with some trying, effort and time, you will learn more about yourself and heal a little more!
I’m really down and don’t have anyone i feel i can turn to. I’m just so tired of living as myself. I hate who i love with including myself. I feel so worthless. Having ocd on top of it makes me feel like im just a waste of space. I dont know how to stop feeling this way. Or if i deserve to. That’s all :(
Everyday I wake up, all my mind makes me think of is the stuff I’ve done in the past, like all day I’m in a constant cycle of judging who I used to be and it hurts so so much. I wish I never thought to do those things, I wish I had been more mature than how I was before, it’s really lowering my self worth and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this miserable before, like last summer was the worst because I was dealing with this shit, I about almost ended my life over it, and I thought it would get better, which it did, but it didn’t last but for a while. As soon as it became 2025 I was going through it again, having constant cycles of “I’m a good person” to “I’m the worst person imaginable” and I’m so sick of it because I just want to feel like the good person l like to imagine myself to be, but I can’t because of shit I did in the past that I obsess over. I’ve cried and screamed so much over it and it seems like it will never leave me.
i feel miserable, i don't know who to turn to anymore. i had very bad periods in my life where i felt depressed and suicidal for years but nothing compares to this, not only i feel depressed but my ocd is at an all time high. idk what to do i Just want to cry. i feel like I'm a monster and it feels reasonable to see myself this way. im a horrible person who doesn't deserve any of the good things in my life
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