Struggling to cope

Really really struggling I feel like I need to scream cry run and hide I cannot stop obsessing about my husband he makes me feel anxious uncomfortable etc He cuddled me last night and I felt weird I don’t get it I’m so confused and worried to death I had an appointment at work today I cancelled couldn’t bare the thought of going somewhere and pretending to be present I’m not enjoying food doing anything going anywhere physical contact with my husband and being with him is making me question him constantly I’m dreading the weekend at home with him I just don’t know what to do Do I love him anymore should I leave should I run away I cannot cope with these feelings any longer I’m seeing a counsellor Monday had my meds increased and not drank alcohol in 11 days and I drank very regular This episode all started from a panic attack non related 3 weeks ago

Username: Devon GarzaDevon Garza

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 2y ago

Hi xmas, I'm sorry you're going through this. OCD makes us doubt the things and people closest to us, and the best approach we can take is to say "yeah, maybe that fear could come true, that's really uncomfortable and I feel a lot of anxiety saying it, but let me sit with that feeling instead of trying to argue with the thoughts or DOING something about my feelings." Compulsions feed the OCD cycle and keep it going. Refrain from compulsions and tolerate the distress, you're already anxious so you might as well let the anxiety serve a purpose (fighting OCD) instead of only driving you nuts with no benefit. Between now and your counseling appointment on Monday, I suggest you try using the SOS feature on the NOCD app. It should be at the top of the "Community" page, if you can't find it let me know what type of device you use and I'll get better instructions. Best wishes!

Username: McDuckoMcDucko

Date posted: 2y ago

You may need to ramp up your meds. Do not cancel anything on OCD's account, this will destroy you if you let it. Do the opposite it is telling you to do.

Username: XMASEVE2008XMASEVE2008

Date posted: 2y ago

@yup_its_ocd Sorry what do you mean ? Could you explain more

Username: XMASEVE2008XMASEVE2008

Date posted: 2y ago

@yup_its_ocd Thank you I’m worried how I feel off with my husband ? Like feeling weird round him and question him etc This all stemmed from a panic attack non related 3 weeks ago now my brain is thinking about things constantly

Username: XMASEVE2008XMASEVE2008

Date posted: 2y ago

@yup_its_ocd Sertraline 50mg Had it upped 100mg 6 days a go

Username: Dj-is-livingDj-is-living

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

@XMASEVE2008 I was in the same boat late June early July. I stopped eating all I wanted to do was sleep I didn’t want to go home I was confused about everything and it all stemmed from one panic attack. It took me a few weeks but I found NOCD and now I’m also on meds. I’ve been on meds for two weeks and they DO HELP. Exposure therapy is scary however it needs to be done. I can’t give you any reassurance but for me things are slowly getting easier. I do still deal with it as I am currently struggling with it right now. But it’s very low.

Username: McDuckoMcDucko

Date posted: 2y ago

@Dj-is-trying This is how you want to go about it, XMAS. Take the appropriate amount of time for recovery and make the right changes to your lifestyle. Eat right. Exercise. Socialize. Just don't let OCD echo in your head for longer than its alotted time. Your time is too valuable.

Username: Anonymous<3Anonymous<3

Date posted: 2y ago

I’m not trying to give you reassurance because in therapy we’re told not to seek it but I wanna give you hope . I’m currently on my fourth month with rocd . With everything you just described and believe me it does get better . It’s not like it used to be but Im getting through it and so can you. Don’t give up and remember that if you didn’t love your partner you wouldn’t be feeling so upset over it . We will get through it and I’m thankful to be able to hear other stories on here and share mine :)

Username: XMASEVE2008XMASEVE2008

Date posted: 2y ago

@Yali<3 Thankyou I’m just so worried why I am so disconnected from him and want to be on my own and the closer he wants to be with me the further I want to run away

Username: Dj-is-livingDj-is-living

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

@XMASEVE2008 I feel like this is the worst part. I was here in a really dark place in July. But with medication and erp therapy it’s definitely gotten better.

Username: mirbrach

Date posted: 3y ago

I literally feel like I can’t be with my husband of almost 18 yrs anymore. I have feelings I should leave him day and night, 24/7 which are torturous. My psychiatrist said he should leave for a couple of weeks to see if I miss him or have a desire to be with him. My girls are very attached to him and I can’t see that working out for them. My older daughter already has anxiety issues and it would just get worse if he leaves. He takes care of so many things such as bills. Even when my husband goes away I have awful feelings against him. I just want to feel better towards him. Don’t know what to do anymore. These thoughts have been really bad for over 3 years straight. I can’t take it anymore.

Username: elafever@uus...

Date posted: 2y ago

Struggling

I feel really scared. For the past 3 months I’ve been having these thoughts that I don’t love my husband and I can’t stay with him. It’s gotten to the point that I have a hard time even being in a room with him because it causes me so much anxiety.I don’t want that to be true at all. I want to feel about him the way I used too. We have built a life together and have been through a lot. I am so scared I am going to lose everything. My husband, my pets, my house, my job. I can’t tell if this is rocd or if I truly don’t love him anymore. I probably shouldn’t even be posting this because it’s reassurance seeking.

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Username: catzilla

Date posted: 1y ago

Feel like I am going crazy

I feel like I am going crazy. I can't calm myself down. I have barely slept since Thursday, I can't really eat because I am feeling so sick. I know I got through it before but right now I don't feel I can get better if I don't immediately break up with my partner. I know I know you shouldn't do big decisions when in such a bad state, but I am really really desperate.. I am afraid of going to the hospital for my mental health right now because I am afraid they will tell me that I need to break up if it's causing me so much stress..

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