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Is it OCD?
Is it OCD when when I’m trying to find a connection between my friend’s conversation with other guys that he wants to hook up with (his intention was only to hook up) and my conversation with a guy I went on a date with in the past (my intention was to date and get into a relationship if there’s a huge opportunity to it but I didn’t want to force it), and it did not work out between us. I was trying to see if 1) the structure of the conversation is almost similar (inviting someone on a date or a hook up, someone might have ghosted, opening up what your needs and wants, what person A wants is making person B uncomfortable or unsafe…) 2) If they’re the same or they have almost the same flow of conversation, the next thing I’ll do is to justify my actions from the past. That what I did was really valid. To see if my friend did the same thing too. Basically I’m trying see if - My friend’s convo = my conversation from the past with a guy I went on a date - friend’s action = my past action - Actions of my friend’s date = the actions of the guy I went on a date If so, then I can freely justify myself or find out if what I did was right and valid by asking questions to my friend like: - Did you say no because you felt unsafe? (Because I did that too.) - Was his communication clear on whether he just wanted to hook up or have a relationship or maybe something casual? (The guy I met did not do that, so that’s why it didn’t work for both of us.) I was trying to see if what happened was okay and that I didn’t lack in that area of interaction we had and I did everything I can, to the best of my abilities and wisdom that was given to me from Above, and I did what was best for me.