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Yeah man. I’ve had this going on in varying degrees for a long time. I used to be extremely horny and attracted to women. I’m still attracted to women but it’s not the same because there are stupid thoughts of some sort that go with it. So it’s had an effect for sure. My experience is that when this is severe, it affects every area of life
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Dont worry... that is normal. Maybe you should change of therapist. Sometimes is not the right one. And yes... you should tell them everything. So they can understand you and treat you better. As us, they are not going to judge you. With ocd, a therapist needs to know you too. And how your behaviours work, what level of anxiety you have, what happened in your past. How is your family or your friends. Maybe until the 3th or 4th month they can not give you an useful treatment. I am in my 6th month and I am getting better :)
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I think I will do. I’ve had a rough personal history but I’ve never been ashamed of that so much as what’s happened with my condition and I was much younger at the time and so scared. Nevertheless, it’s encouraging to read that you’re getting better and I hope you continue to, thank you.
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Did you try therapy? It is really effective to help with this shit...
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Your not alone maybe people with sexual obsessions have low sexual drive
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Well I’m glad I’m not totally alone. I’ve been receiving therapy recently but I think really it’s not the right type for me. Ive previously had CBT but honestly I don’t think that either I was fully capable of being honest with all my issues and the therapist wasn’t that amazing either. But I’ve been looking at ERP. However I have wondered what I need to be exposed to, to be honest. Lack of confidence, the residual thoughts? It’s almost funny because the more I feel totally incapable of a relationship old worrisome thoughts that I believed had subsided tend to appear again. Thanks for the responses though everyone.
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I’m sorry you’ve been put under pressure like that TheresaMarie. Is your therapist one who treats OCD?
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- 17w
Hi everyone I could really use some help on this topic. It’s hard to admit and talk about but after being on here I see that I’m not the only one! Still I would love some support and advice with how to deal with those unwanted sexual thoughts. For me it’s so uncomfortable and honestly gross when sexual thoughts get out of hand with normal people and also do extremely out of hand that even loved ones get involved. Like when I watch tv and all of a sudden I have these gross thoughts that I know if I accept they will go away but how can you accept something so gross? Would love some help!
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I suffer since 10 - 15 yrs from specific fears. It was years that my OCD constantly wanted to be checked if I have HIV or not. I had a lot of sex and I thought this is normal. But I ruminated in my backhead about and was testing like 5 - 10 times a year. After the test I felt everytime so relieved. In Corona I was addicted to porn and even I lost control and was watching pretty hard stuff. I was chatting with a girl and we fantasized about really disturbing things. I never wanna meet her and for me was sure it's just kinda onlinestuff. I was in a relationship 3 years now. And I lost fear of HIV. But then came Morality OCD, Real Event (this chat) and after some times POCD. This combination was knocking me out, I felt like the badest person on earth. I did everything wrong and searched for relief and reassurance. It put me to the point of suicidal. I never ever hurting somebody, but my brain was making me a monster. I had to quit the relationship because I just couldn't give her what she deserved. I was in a clinic for 3 months. And we tested medication with ERP (before I took escitalopram for years). Anafranil was working first, then too many side-effects. I tried even without meds, but was so depressed. Now on sertralin for 5 weeks, but only 2 weeks on therapeutic dose 200mg. And wow, now I really feel so confused in the brain. I feel like how big my OCD became. The specific thoughts are not anymore, BUT it sticks on EVERYTHING atm. It's delusional how it feels in the brain. I really hope so deep my brain makes finally a reset and I need to wait it out. I could live with OCD for a long time but the last 1-2 yrs it took absolutely everything. I remark that POCD doesn't stick anymore like before but my brain is now constructing a very bad future because of past mistakes (that I all discussed with family, friends for relief over and over and over again). So it's like my OCD is now Real Event (The sexchat) again. Anyone was on the same point in life?
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Ok, I’m 23 years old guy and I’ve never had a girlfriend or anything intimate with a female. There’s reasons for it I think growing up I was awkward, shy, and at times out of shape. But now I take good care of myself and though I struggle a lot with my mental health I think I could bring a lot to the table but I’ve just never been able to find somebody. I put myself out there on apps(no success) or just being out in the world hoping to meet someone naturally just nothing. I was pretty fine with this fact of waiting for the right person and taking more time than others to find love for most of my life..but everyday I get older it gets more embarrassing. Seeing friends and peers in relationships and talk about intimacy feels like I’m missing out on such a core fundamental part of the human experience. I try not to compare myself to others and have my own journey but I feel kind of pathetic honestly. I’ve been a hopeless romantic for my whole life I think it’s such a beautiful part of life and I’ve been dreaming of the day..that might be a problem honestly because I have such a romanization of it and idea of what it should be that the few chances I might’ve had I overthought or dropped because it didn’t fit that image I had…love at first sight, sparks flying etc..maybe I should be more open..And on top of all of that I do struggle with the fear I’m far to broken or far gone mentally to ever be able to maintain a relationship which hurts because as I’ve expressed it’s what I want most in life. Thank you for reading it might not be 100 percent ocd related but I needed to express this somewhere and I love this community helps me a lot, if anyone in my age group struggles with something similar feel free to share.
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