I’m going to talk about something that makes me deeply ashamed and something I hear very little about. Maybe something that scares some people. I’ve suffered with Sexual OCD for about ten years and really the main issue for me was how much it had an effect on my sex drive, I feel like I’ve been neutered. Over time, I feel I’ve more or less overcome the thoughts but I still feel incapable with sex. This has killed the fun out my twenties. I don’t know if it’s the trauma, the drugs, which I avoided with this ocd theme I’ve had because of the side effects warning but took before when I was a teenager suffering from some whacked out religious worries. I’m now more worried than ever I’m going to die alone and unloved. I lost a girlfriend really over this. And on top of that I don’t hear many guys talk about this and I can understand why, but I just feel as if I’m really lonely with a condition no one can treat.

Yeah man. I’ve had this going on in varying degrees for a long time. I used to be extremely horny and attracted to women. I’m still attracted to women but it’s not the same because there are stupid thoughts of some sort that go with it. So it’s had an effect for sure. My experience is that when this is severe, it affects every area of life

Dont worry... that is normal. Maybe you should change of therapist. Sometimes is not the right one. And yes... you should tell them everything. So they can understand you and treat you better. As us, they are not going to judge you. With ocd, a therapist needs to know you too. And how your behaviours work, what level of anxiety you have, what happened in your past. How is your family or your friends. Maybe until the 3th or 4th month they can not give you an useful treatment. I am in my 6th month and I am getting better :)

I think I will do. I’ve had a rough personal history but I’ve never been ashamed of that so much as what’s happened with my condition and I was much younger at the time and so scared. Nevertheless, it’s encouraging to read that you’re getting better and I hope you continue to, thank you.

Did you try therapy? It is really effective to help with this shit...

Your not alone maybe people with sexual obsessions have low sexual drive

Well I’m glad I’m not totally alone. I’ve been receiving therapy recently but I think really it’s not the right type for me. Ive previously had CBT but honestly I don’t think that either I was fully capable of being honest with all my issues and the therapist wasn’t that amazing either. But I’ve been looking at ERP. However I have wondered what I need to be exposed to, to be honest. Lack of confidence, the residual thoughts? It’s almost funny because the more I feel totally incapable of a relationship old worrisome thoughts that I believed had subsided tend to appear again. Thanks for the responses though everyone.

I’m sorry you’ve been put under pressure like that TheresaMarie. Is your therapist one who treats OCD?