- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Yes definitely don’t have a person who is a life coach treat you for OCD that is the first step. And Also ignoring your OCD to treat the root cause doesn’t make sense. I meant it along the lines of it isn’t something to be avoided. I know what my root cause is as well, but therapy to overcome how you feel because of the root cause is what’s important. The people in my life growing up, family, friends, people who are supposed to care about you, did the opposite for me. And the root of most OCD is believing you aren’t good enough and trying to find a reason to hate yourself. When you work through those issues it becomes easier to work through OCD as a whole.
My advise is consult with an ocd specialist. People who are not trained in treating ocd arent usually helpful and can even make things worse if they give the wrong kinds of advise or reassurance. There is value in getting to the root of what you are afraid of so you can design treatment program around that. But trying to find out what caused your ocd wont make ocd go away. How can you even say what caused it? Genetics, childhood, a bad event, enviroment? Its not a question that can be answered really in most cases.
Thank you for your advices ❤ I agree that the root is important but it doesn't make the symptoms of OCD go away. And most importantly he's ignoring the OCD diagnosis. I will definitely try to find specialist cause work with that person is going nowhere and it costs me a lot of money.
Thank you for your advice! Yes, I noticed that! I thought if I find a root the OCD will stop, but it didn't. I will definitely try to find someone else. I think he doesn't have any experience with OCD and most imortantly he doesn't know how serious it is since he constantly ignores it.
Actually finding the root cause DOES work. It’s the reason you have these issues in the first place. It’s the only thing that will make your ocd go away permanently otherwise we will be fighting it our entire lives and every time we think it’s gone an event will happen that will trigger stress and old trauma old anything and bring it right back and you’re right where you started.
Hey I'm feeling pretty hopeless right now. Before I get to the main point I'm gonna give some background info: I'm going into my third year of University and it took years of constant denial to get treatment . I originally came in for my skin picking but after multiple appointments I was told I have OCD. I never thought I perfectly fit into having it because I was never organized nor am I a "germaphobe". I later learned everything made sens From being afraid to interact with little children (afraid I would assault them just from staring too long), all the way to staying up all night convinced someone would kill me if I didn't hide all the knives in the house. It took me just one month ago to sleep in my bed alone (after I stopped my rituals with my stuffed animals as a kid I was convinced they will harm me when I least expect it, and sleep beside my mother). It even explained why I had somatic rituals when I was a child (constantly balancing the right and left side of my body with repetitive touching until it felt right). Finally, after switching from cipralex (did not help) to Zoloft (currently on 150mg) I feel as thought my life is coming back. The reason I'm feeling distressed is that my main psychiatrist referred me to a CBT waitlist in a hospital. Well I just had a virtual meeting with him today... And he basically asked if I have cleaning rituals. I said no, I told him about my previous compulsions the first time I talked to him and told him the medication has SIGNIFICANTLY reduced my anxiety and compulsions that I only do two rituals a day (~3 hours). At the end of the appointment he told me that I DON'T HAVE OCD or anxiety and suggested I go off my meds. Now I'm doubting if I have OCD to begin with, even though I fully know I do as my main psychiatrist has been so caring and making sure I recover. It really sucks because I feel pretty invalidated?? Am I overreacting or in the wrong? I don't know how to feel right now. Any input would be appreciated. Thank you
Hello everyone! I am not the one having OCD, but my boyfriend does, and it is combined with depression. He hides it pretty well (he doesn't want to make me or any other person sad) and acts like everything is normal most of the time (makes everyone laugh etc. - like many other depressed people) even though I know he suffers a lot. We know each other on a very deep level and I am the only person who he has told about having OCD and depression, and I just want to help him as much as I can. The thing is that he has a lot of negative thoughts most of the time and if he doesn't do something, for example, claps his hands 8 times, he believes 100% something bad is going to happen to me, like I'm gonna get hurt or something. At the moment it is not possible for him to talk to specialized OCD therapist as there is not one in the area where we live in, but I am confident that I can help him or, even better, guide him, so he helps himself, so that he, at least, suffers less from this. What advice would you give me? I know that I shouldn't be too pushy or telling him what I think he should do. I just want him to know that I'm there for him and that, even though I cannot understand what he's going through, I can at least educate myself about OCD (I've seen some self-help books you posted here) and talk to him about what I've read, because I think it is better to talk about it rather than him hiding it and suffering in silence.. This is how I thought I could help him: When I see or when he tells me that compulsions are happening or going to happen, I'm gonna let him know that he is not going through this alone and that he can trust me. Then I will ask him to tell me what kind of thoughts are going through his mind at the moment, and if he, for example, tells me that he thinks something bad is gonna happen to me I'm gonna tell him to try not to do any compulsive behaviour and try to, no matter how hard it is at the moment, accept that thought and repeat after me: You are safe. I am safe. We are always going to be safe. Only good things happen to us and always will. I believe that if this is done constantly that it will make his OCD more managenable (and depression as well). I would really appreciate any comment, expert or from a person having a similar experience that my boyfriend has. I really want to help him. Thank you! ❤
I'm currently visiting my third therapist in the last three years and none of them have helped me so far. None of them have given me any type of diagnosis so I'm not even sure if I actually have OCD, and it's driving me mad. The last session I had, I even felt like it made things worse rather that it helped. I wanna feel that trust to my therapist that you should feel to be able to share your emotions but I don't. I feel like its not going anywhere, like it's useless. Lately I've been thinking about finding a therapist here at NOCD, I've even looked up some specific people and they all seem really nice and sweet.
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