Anyone suffered with questioning if they got a Groinal on purpose? I had an intrusive thought to “ just get a feeling” while holding my baby and got a weird Groinal.and now I think I acted!
Everyone with sexual obsessions (and even some with harm obsessions) have dealt with this - if it helps at all, the part of your brain responsible for arousal doesn't really separate excitement & fear (as in, the brain treats them the same.) Groinals happen because we don't want them to - we're scared of them, thus making them a perfect target for OCD. Try and not ruminate on it, or reassurance seek, or whatever other mind tricks your OCD wants you to play. A thought or a feeling aren't actions - we don't control our thoughts or feelings, only our actions. Remind yourself that.
@moonlights I’m trying so hard to realize what it’s my ocd. But guilt thinking you did something weird towards your baby is brutal
@Lostmama42 I'm sure it is, I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now - but know that you have nothing to be guilty for, period. There is no amount of ruminating or compulsions you can do to change that. Remember that there are TONS of wonderful moms that've gone through the same as you, and they managed to ride the wave of anxiety that OCD brings - you can do it, too. 🤍🤍
@moonlights Thank you for the encouragement
Sorry i knoe this is old but I have the same thing. I wonder If a groinal was on purpose all the time.
@Anonymousg Oh trust me it’s been months but I’m no better. It’s hard
@Lostmama42 Hope it helps you aren’t alone. I alowaus worry about my intentions with ocd. It’s awful. I completley understand
@Lostmama42 Also thanks so much for sharing this. I seriously thought I was the only one who thought I did my groinals on purpose. It makes me feel better knowing my ocd isn’t special :)
A compulsion i do is if i get a groinal or anticipate it i take a step. Adjust my legs and feet to avoid the groinals. I was carrying my daughter and worry about groinals which sucks. I had groinals when I picked her up but discarded it didnt give it attention. Then when i put her down i had intrusive thoughts about groinals worrying if i get it. I took a step to my right and just sat with the groinals and the thoughts. I do t remember if i took a second step or not but ocd hyper-focused in the groinal sensations and i feel guilty its telling me i took tbe step to get groinals and i sat with it to arouse myself but i think i took the step as a compulsion and my ocd hyperfocused on the ocd and was aware of it and just let it be but ocd is saying i acted on the thoughts and aroused myself i know thats not true.
hi does anyone ever get a random grounal response then feel aroused but you don’t want to be like before i had the thought i was feeling a little aroused then i had a random thought and it had the ground response and i felt aroused i don’t understand.
POCD I was holding my nephew, he's a newborn, and he was getting hungry so he started squirming around and grazed my chest (yes I was fully clothed). Of course, that caused anxious groinals.. It didn't feel bad in the moment just very very anxious feelings, and without thinking, I was holding his head still right there and I was moving it closer in that spot (at least felt that way) to make the feeling continue I guess. It felt like an urge because of the groinals. It was such an anxious all over my body feeling. I was so anxious and triggered by that feeling. It's like my groinals were so intense I automatically leaned into them? So I ended up having another groinal. After that I put the baby down and realized what had happened. Did I just hurt my nephew without consciously realizing it till after? Is this OCD?
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