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I’m sorry- ocd is an entire disorder of ‘looking into’ things. That doesn’t mean a single thing. People with ocd who ‘look into’ what pedophiles think, aren’t pedophiles. People with ocd who ‘look into’ what failing relationships look like, usually are not in any relationship trouble at all. People with ocd who ‘look into’ what transgender people go through, are not themselves transgender. This is a disorder of ‘looking into’ things because we have attached a 100-pound weight onto random passing thoughts that has the label ‘truth’ on it. Note- the thought itself has no truth label, it’s the extremely heavy block of cement that we put there that has the label. We can work to detach the weight from the thoughts and be free, but not with suggestions from other people that ‘looking into’ something has ANY deeper meaning. Be careful what you are insinuating to very vulnerable people on this app.
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Yes thankyou I understand it's just so confusing its like I have 2 Brains constantly fighting 1 is rational and the is irrational
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Plz someone help I'm dying inside I can't even focus on my exams
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I previously had an ocd themes when I was 10 years old I was somehow obsessed with rubbing my hand on doorknobs and always checking the locks more then a dozen of times, I had minor scrupulosity the worst thing was when I was asleep I had the urge to count something I thought I was crazy because I was so young I had no idea what ocd even was I thought my ocd went but it turns out it just went asleep I no longer obsess about touching and counting but now it's hocd
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I so feel you. It makes sense that you simply can’t ‘stop’ obsessing- we wouldn’t have ocd if we could just ‘stop’, right? That used to happen a lot to me too, the second I woke up, and I used to think that meant something. Until I realized that *thinking* something, has no true purpose. No deeper meaning. Because of how you’ve reacted to the thoughts, your brain has tagged them as *dangerous, needs assessing*, so of course they will be thrown at you to figure out the second you wake up. You’ve convinced your brain that they are something to be afraid of. Beating ocd involves changing your relationship with your thoughts. Thoughts by themselves are just action potentials, neural noise, and by products of being alive. They don’t have a deep rooted meaning. Ocd recovery looks like identifying thoughts for what they are, letting them be there (cause you can’t fight your thoughts), and then moving towards everything you want for yourself in your life. I hope your appointment tomorrow is everything you need! Thinking of you!!
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*Sorry, realized I should clarify that an action potential is what happens when a neuron in your brain fires. No big abstract idea- just science:)
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You're afraid you will go to hell if you're a lesbian? So God's intention was to make you lesbian so you can go to hell? Anyway, just accept who you are. If you're a lesbian then that's the way it is. If you're not, you're not. Most important thing to do in this world is to accept yourself, to love yourself. Don't let anyone think you shouldn't. Stop looking into the whole lesbian thing. Don't read about it, don't look for it. Just focus on your life. Do things you love.
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It's sooo irrational I can't imagine myself making out with a girl though
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You're still looking into it... :-)
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What's that supposed to mean
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That just made me spike
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Lina- that doesn’t have any meaning at all. He should honestly delete that comment. I don’t want to be repetitive, but just try to focus on my comment before!
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Seems my words have a big impact on you. What i meant with "looking into it" is a compulsion that one should avoid doing as much as possible. The more you act under compulsions the more intense the obsession will be. My goal is to set her free from her obsession.
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Yes I understand
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I should delete my comment? She should focus on your comment?
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Don’t fight with the irrational one. That gives it importance. By arguing with it, you are giving it some ounce of truth that you then have to deny. It’s not something that needs to be denied because it has no real basis. You need to treat your obsessions like nagging, repetitive children that you just say ‘yes okay sure’ too, not because it has any truth, but because you want it to be quiet. Indifference is ocd’s kryptonite.
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She can decide for herself.
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And what about the people that have obsessional thoughts about being pedophiles? Or about their relationship? Should we all listen to our thoughts and change our lives depending on what they say? Listen, I don’t mean to be rude at all and I understand where you are coming from. But as I’m sure that you know, ocd is a deceptive monster. Bartering with it, acting like it has truth to our lives, is what keeps us in a repetitive loop for forever. We need to treat these thoughts and obsessions correctly for them to subside. Indifference to the uncertainty it causes. Hope you are well though!❤️
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I’m so sorry!:/ I have a very similar story, but with things like body symmetry! Also had sexually intrusive thoughts that I didn’t know had anything to do with a disorder. I just thought I was ‘troubled’. Sad for my younger self, I was so scared:(
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Actually you do not understand where I'm coming from. OCD is often if not always the cause of (read: its development) unhealthy conditions, circumstances. The lower quality of life is, the harder it will be to deal with obsessions. So i always advice people to make changes that contribute to the quality of their lives.
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What changes
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Lina, I had the same years ago, having thoughts of being gay or having those instincts. Those were totally not true (5 years passed already and im still not gay :) Once I heard one psychiatrist explained the situation “mostly these ocd sufferers’ brain tries to hit them from the most valuable concepts they believe” It sounded very logical and real to me. Probably, you are a person who values to be a woman very much. And thats very nice of you. Another thing is, probably you are in stressful these days because of exams and etc. And your mind tries to find an escape from this situation. Thats why hitting you back. So, most important thing you should do is to give time to yourself, slowly try to heal and relax. OCS tries to tell you, find other things in your daily life to relax your mind. Dont think too complex, be simple.
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Tommrow I'm going to a cbt therapist we'll see what happens I just feel numb
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But when I wake up I feel soo anxious since the moment I open my eyes thats all I think about
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I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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- 22w
Im a 21 year old female in a straight relationship with the best guy a girl could ever ask for. About 2 months ago, I went to get coffee with a friend and as I dropped her off, I got a “weird” vibe from her and the look she gave me which lead to the thought of “should I kiss her”….Ive never had a thought like that before and I never have ever wanted to kiss another girl. I have also never had a desire to be with another girl (sexually or romantically). Now though, I have had one other experience of being with a different friend going to get lunch and it felt weird. Ever since then I have been on google non stop with hundreds of different searches, questioning if im lying to myself of my boyfriend, wondering about my past relationships even though Ive only dated boys, been attracted to boys, crushed on boys, etc… boy crazy! Reading on other forums has been a big thing too or doing quizzes. I believe its SO-OCD but im so scared that what if its not. I am in therapy and actually had two weeks of not even thinking about it or googling it until yesterday. I dont know what to do.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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