Givenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
What is there to be happy about?
Someone please give an honest reason to actually think life is somewhat worth it.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Hi. You are a unique creature. There is no one like you and there has never been anyone like you. You have your own gifts and you can use them to make a difference in your life as well as the lives of others. I wish you the best!
thrutheweatherthrutheweather
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Look to the little things. Look to making little differences. All contributes to the bigger picture.
GivenupGivenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@thrutheweather There isn’t a bigger picture for me. Just deceasing cold, alone, and with no one.
thrutheweatherthrutheweather
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@Givenup You make the bigger picture. You put in the work and do the little things and make the bigger picture. You need to get better yourself, look after yourself and love yourself first. Maybe somebody will come along romantically, maybe they won’t but we all need to be comfortable with being alone. Feeling lonely is different… again focus on getting better and look at doing things in your local community that you enjoy. There are loads of nice people out there.. you just have to put yourself out there to find them.
GivenupGivenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@thrutheweather I did. She isn’t talking to me anymore for some reason. Not even an explanation. Despite saying I did nothing wrong she goes with her friends to talk in the restroom when I’m around…
LacedSirynLacedSiryn
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@Givenup Then she isnt good enough for you. That is an immature girl you are talking to, not a woman. You should raise your standards when it comes to potential partners. If she acts disinterested, let her be. You don’t have to waste your time on pathetic disloyal girls like this. You are better than that.
Mindy1210Mindy1210
- Date posted
- 2y ago
There is a lot to be happy for. Food, water, shelter. Appreciate the little things in life and don’t look on the things that you don’t have. Get into gratitude journaling, going to the gym. I’m sure there’s people that care about you don’t give up
AnoymousAnoymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
At times like this, I find it helps to detach from our thoughts and observe - and feel the compassion you would feel for a fellow human feeling just as you are. And just hold on to that…the darkness looses its intensity and we find capacity to *do* more to love ourselves. I like to remind myself I belong to nature, I’m here because the energy of this universe decided it so, like the trees and all living this. And so I find comfort in the woods the trees haven’t forgotten their essence, they don’t wonder about worth they just are. And sometimes we just need to do the same - hold on, nothing stays the same forever. Sending you love. You’re not alone.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I can relate. I am going through the same. No girlfriend, struggling with OCD and depression. Break ups can affect us on a chemical level, and depression can affect your ability to think clearly. Right now your mind is like a bad neighborhood - bleak, scary, and definitely not somewhere you would go to alone. Well, guess what, there are therapists and doctors here to accompany you, and they will help turn that bad neighborhood into a habitable place. It's difficult, there are going to be days where you won't feel much of anything, much less happiness. That's okay. It's not your fault. It's like that sometimes. Despite what your mind is telling you, change is possible. The depression won't go away by finding a reason -- no one reasons their way out of depression -- but by taking as small a step as possible so as to continue moving forward. If you can't get out of bed, then maybe you can sit up. If you can't sit up, maybe you can hang your legs off the bed. If you can't do that, maybe you can wiggle your toes. I try to remind myself of this and it usually builds enough momentum to do the trick.
LacedSirynLacedSiryn
- Date posted
- 2y ago
All the pain you experience throughout your life causes those occasional rays of joy to shine that much brighter. Also I like to remember that money and “stuff” only makes you happy for as long as the infatuation for those things lingers (usually doesnt last very long - you could be given everything you’ve ever wanted in life, but like always, you’ll eventually get tired of those things and want something new.) I truly believe that the only thing that is worth living for is relationships, whether platonic, parental, romantic, and even your relationship with yourself; in addition to living out your life with the purpose of helping others through their struggles. At the end of the day, we’re all fighting something. We’re all suppressing memories, we’re all inherently miserable because the one thing people take for granted in life, is love. If love did not exist, neither goodness nor joy would not exist. Also, if your heart and your life is fueled by love for others, you will never feel empty, and that love you share with others will bring you great joy and you’ll leave your mark on the world (even if you believe that mark would be so small that it would be insignificant, it’s still a mark, and it’s still there. Even helping one person overcome something is enough, because you could be the reason their life turned around for the better). I believe that alone is a great reason to live.
GivenupGivenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@LacedSiryn I have no woman who loves me. No one who cares for me. And if I was off’ed right here and now, people would either not care, blame me for my own death, or laugh in my face. Nothing is worth it because there is no one.
LacedSirynLacedSiryn
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@Givenup You have yourself, which is more than enough. I was dealing with very serious suicidal thoughts about a year ago, and I too was all alone. I felt my family abandoned me and didn’t care, I felt that I had no friends, I had no love life. In my mind, I perceived my life as meaningless and thought I was a waste of space. But then I realized that my perceived reality was completely manipulated by my brain. It is never true that nobody cares about you. If you were here with me now in my kitchen, you would see how true that is. And i’ve never even met you, but I would never leave you in this place of depression. I would stand by your side and lift you back to your feet, and prove to you that you are worth something. I would dig out all the demons in your mind one by one and would help you destroy them for good. You see? I am just a random stranger to you, but I care for you greatly, along with anyone and everyone I come across in life. There are more people out there like me, and they care a great deal for you too. Do not give up on yourself. You and your life are worth so much more than you let yourself believe. I thought I was a nobody until I decided to make myself a somebody, because nobody was going to do it for me.
GivenupGivenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@LacedSiryn Like I said, if you read my previous posts about my POCD, HOCD, and real events OCD posts, my real events OCD posts especially for extremely horrible real events when I was 13, then you would be telling me to go straight to hell. In UofA I have no one. No one who actually gives a shit, and would shrug his/her/their shoulders at the thought of me being deceased, or laughing at my face. My reality is this. If I were to be deceased right here and now. In this empty classroom, no one would care. They would make a social media post, then move on. It’s human nature. You would forget me within a few days, or a few weeks, because I am at the end of the day, a stranger.
LacedSirynLacedSiryn
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@Givenup There is nothing you could have done or experienced that would ever justify telling you to go to hell. And yes it may be human nature, but who says you can’y break out of that? I have never abandoned anyone I’ve ever come across who needed someone, not once. There is nothing about you or your life that is too much to handle for people like me. You need to find someone with iron bones and unbreakable goodness and generous love. You claim that I would forget about you, but then again, you don’t know me. I am unable to not help people until they are completely healed, it is not my nature to abandon people. Human nature is only primal, moral nature however is generated from self-respect and a good heart (which very few people have.) You may be a stranger, but you are still a person with a heart and a mind and a conscience. That alone makes you incredibly valueable to not only me, but to anyone who hasnt allowed the terrors of life to poison their good spirit. Then again, I am also a Christian so I get all of my strength and happiness from God.
GivenupGivenup
- Date posted
- 2y ago
@LacedSiryn Alright. I’ll believe you. j00_kang is my insta name. If you want to talk to me more, this is my social
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