sunshineforest

Date posted: 2y

Can intrusive thoughts kind of attach themselves to actions?

I am terrified of cheating on my boyfriend. I was going up a flight of stairs, which led to a narrow passage. A man I find attractive was stood on one side, so there wasn't much space to get past. This stressed me out on the way up. However, when I got to the top, it's like something changed and all of a sudden something in my mind switched. I remember saying just one word, "attractive", in my head as I got near him (which makes no sense, nobody talks to themselves like that?) and then I got a thought that goes against everything I stand for - to walk innapropriately close. I don't know if it was just because there wasn't really any space, but this did end up happening, and I freaked out as I walked past and had a panic attack afterwards and tried to confess to my boyfriend (who said it was okay, but I am doubting that I explained it properly). I'm scared I acted on an intrusive thought, was innapropriate towards someone, and have also cheated on my boyfriend (which makes no sense, as I have extreme phobias of doing both of these things). I also experienced a groinal response, but I'm pretty well equipped to deal with these now.

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

A therapist once told me “the people who are most afraid to do something are the least likely to do something” Think about it. The people who are afraid to rob a bank aren’t the ones doing it. You’d have to REALLY want to rob a bank if you rob a bank. You are fine! Thinking someone is attractive is not wrong! It’s human! What is important is the person you have the emotional connection with and that is your boyfriend! If you were going to cheat on your boyfriend you wouldn’t be afraid of the potential you may! Those who cheat don’t think about their partner as much as you do!! You are absolutely okay :))

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 On top of this, don’t put too much meaning into your thoughts!! Thoughts are not reality. Thinking “oh that person is attractive” is the same thing as thinking “I like the beach.” If the thought about the beach doesnt make you anxious no other thoughts should either bc they are all the same thing. JUST THOUGHTS. :)

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 What do I do about POCD and real events OCD about extremely horrible real events I did when I was 13…?

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 I didn’t know how horrible the real events were when I was 13… I really didn’t…

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

@Givenup The fact that you care should show you that you are not a bad person! I am not a professional but I can tell you that when you live in the past you live depressed, when you live in the future you live anxious, but when you live in the moment you live at peace. Speak to your therapist and be open and honest with them!! Dont give up! You are a good person! Be confident in that

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 I'm getting anxious from my POCD and real event OCD based on real events (3 times) from when I was 13…… I don't ever want to ever be a P at all… I don't ever want to ever be a Chomo at all... i don’t ever want to ever be a rapist at all… I was 13 when these real events happened and now I'm 20... I've asked my mom about this so many times and every time she tells me that it's not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I'm not a rapist or a P or a chomo... I didn’t realize how horrible the real events actually were… I was 13 at the time… now I’m 20… my POCD and real event OCD call me a P or a chomo because of the real events… while my mom reassures me all the time that it’s all over, that it’s not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I’m not a P or a rapist or a chomo, but when I was doing compulsive research, I remember when I saw a post on a non OCD forum about someone’s similar situation to mine and two people said to the person that they m*lested and that they needed to turn themselves in… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form… i didn’t know how horrible the real events were when I was 13… I really didn’t… and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids… I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… I don't ever want to ever harm a child in any way shape or form... I seriously don't ever want to do that to any child in any way shape or form and I seriously don't ever want to do anything like that to any kid now or in the future… I never have had any fantasies about kids and I don't ever want to... I don't ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form... I was 13….. and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids… I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… And it’s comparing me to actual P’s and chomo’s who did stuff from 12-15… and making me think I’m a P and a Chomo because of it… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way… 😭😭😭 and I get intrusive thoughts of people calling me a P and a chomo and me getting arrested… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo… the real events happened only 3 times and I really didn’t know how horrible it was… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way… I don’t want to ever be attracted to or harm kids in any way… 😭😭😭 It’s making me feel like I know I’m a P or a chomo when I don't ever want to ever be those things… I perform avoidance compulsions all the time and I don’t want to be anywhere around kids… even accidentally standing next to one makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and anxious… it’s making me feel like that I know I’m what my POCD and real events OCD are telling me even when a former ocd psychiatrist has told me that the real events don’t make me a P or a chomo… In addition it’s making me feel like I’m what my ocd tells me that I am… I didn’t know how horrible the real events were at the time when I was 13… I really didn’t… my POCD and real events OCD keeps calling me a P and a Chomo for what happened when I was 13 when I didn’t know what any of that stuff was… I truly didn’t know how horrible the real events were when I was 13… I really didn’t… It’s making me think I am a rapist because of the real events too… my POCD just keeps telling me that I’m a P or a chomo or in worst case a child r*pist when I don’t ever want to ever be those things in any way 😭😭😭 it’s giving me intrusive thoughts about more details of the real events and this feeling in my head that hurts… I don’t ever want to ever be a p or a chomo in any way… I don’t ever want to harm anyone, especially children… I don’t ever want to ever be anything my intrusive thoughts tell me I am…

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

@Givenup I suggest speaking with a professional. Remember that your thoughts are not reality. Im very sorry you are dealing with this but you will get through it!!

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 An ocd professional?

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

@Givenup Yes!! A therapist or a psychiatrist to help manage your feelings. The bottom line is your brain is going to tell you all kinds or things and always assume the worst. Unless you have a degree in psychiatry or are a licensed professional then I wouldn’t take your thoughts all that serious :) I wish you the best of luck and I believe you are going to live a very happy life free of these thoughts. Remember it is not the actions that are bothering you. It is your own thoughts about them. And thoughts are nothing but fake images created in our heads. They mean NOTHING.

Givenup

Date posted: 2y

@Matty96 But these events really happened… 😞😞😞

Matty96

Date posted: 2y

@Givenup Nothing a professional wouldn’t be able to get you through 😊. Have confidence in treatment.

cmac1339

Date posted: 2y

Ever hear of mysterio from spiderman? OCD can do some convincing shit like that

huh????

Date posted: 16w

I know this was 2 years ago but ur not alone, the brain sucks

aaanonymous

Date posted: 23w

harm ocd during intimacy

18+ i was having intimacy with my lover. i was frustrated and i had a thought like "hurt her physically", i think i Remember not agreeing with it. i didn't hurt my lover they were fine they never felt hurt physically, but im afraid i might have done some action with the intention to hurt them but maybe i wasn't violent enough? idk. i don't remember any action with that intention so that's that. it happened like a couple of hours ago and im afraid i forgot about it. also, i get anxious because sometimes when i have intrusive thoughts i kind of act on it? not as in like doing what the intrusive thoughts tells me, but something similar that is better in a way? like today i had a thought like "grope your lover in public" but instead of doing that i just squeezed their waist. so idk im afraid i might have done something similar here

Anonynmous19

Date posted: 17w

18+ Intrusive thoughts during s3x

I was having intimacy. Watching p0rn. And during climax i got intrusive thoughts a d anxious. I hate when this happens. As a compulsion whenever i get intrusive ocd thoughts i usually think of my wife or therapist (whose a man) and say their name. For my wife its because shes the love of my life. My comfort. And during intimacy of course to arouse over her. When i think of my therapist its not anything sexual its just like a comforting thought since hes the one that is helping me thru ocd. But now ocd is saying why did i think lf him during climax. And in my head i heard my voicr saying his name but this was my way of distracting myself from the intrusive thoughts. It wasnt to arouse myself over him it was tk distract myself and it wasnt a compulsion. Ocd tries associating it with my sexual experience and its making me feel very guilty and anxious. Then i worry was i saying his name. I did in my head but it wasnt again a compulsion tk distract from ocd. Then that made me anxious so i said my wifes name and thougjt kf her. I just had intrusive thought so i panicked and out of compulsive habit i usual say thr name of my wifr and therapist

Just trying ...

Date posted: 12w

I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or tips

So recently I have been talking to this guy and I really like him and for the past week I felt really good and happy about it, but then a sneaky intrusive thought popped up about what if in the future when and if the time comes to sleep in the same bed, I inappropriately touch him while he’s sleeping. Now I’ve struggled with sexual intrusive thoughts like that before so my brain just kept reminding me of how that thought felt the last time it came up, and the thoughts of sexually harming this person started snowballing and making me feel worse and worse. I spent most of the day crying and panicking wishing my brain could just shut down, and now all I want to do is hide from this person so I don’t get the chance to hurt him, which makes me feel even worse because I had been feeling so good about him just the other day. I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced this and if they might have any insight

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