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You can do this ♥️ I'm talking a lot ? But there's this one saying that really helped me and I'm paraphrasing here but it was something along the lines of you are the sky and OCD is the clouds. You came first and it can't survive without you. Maybe use that if you feel like you really have to do your compulsions.
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I’m going to delete this app because I’m definitely coming on here for reassurance. I need to get better
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Or you could just do the exercises and not talk to anyone if you think that would be better
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I hope you get better! ♥️ There's sooo many options out there and even ones for if your sexuality doesn't fit any of the others! I know it's kind of an empty saying but try not to worry about it so much. Even though your hocd might make you do it
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Well just go to the therapist. If she says something different you need to mention ocd. If she doesn’t specialize in it you need to get another therapist. They can really mess with ocd if they don’t know. Also if the thoughts are real who cares?? You’ll still be you! But I know that you don’t want those thoughts so I really think it’s ocd
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I come on her to feel better and that fuels my ocd I know it does. I deleted the app yesterday for only a little bit and I kept getting urges to get it again “just to check it” but I know this app makes me feel better and I just want to let the thoughts be there and to not avoid it
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It's obviously up to you but are you sure it's your OCD? Maybe it's a coping mechanism instead. But I'm new to this and not an expert so do what you think is best. If you stay on this app I'd love to help you though ♥️
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What do you mean? Getting on the app is a coping mechanism?
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Yeah. It could be distracting you but again I could be totally wrong.
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Yeah idk. I can’t tell what I’m doing for reassurance or just trying to feel better. This is all confusing
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I know it is lol
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I’m literally sitting outside of my work not wanting to go in. I’m so tired. I’m confused. I can’t get a therapist because none of them specialize in ocd around me. Ugh this is annoying?
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Yeah I know but reassurance is a compulsion, so I think I might be doing that to feel better
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You can go into work and come back to the app whenever you need to. Just try to wane yourself off of it and not just stop cold turkey. ♥️
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Also you can use the SOS feature instead of asking for reassurance if you feel better about that
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Thank you I think I’ll be ok it’s just all confusing right now. I think I have a lot of mental compulsions and looking things up for reassurance is also one. I’m confused because I really can’t tell anymore. I used to be so sure of my sexuality and I still know I’m straight but these thoughts confuse me. I’m just not sure anymore, like what if I’m actually gay and I’m just denying it? That right there is a hocd thought, so why can’t I get it through my head?? Ugh so annoying
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There's also a thing called heteroflexible. (Which is what I am) It means you're straight, but you like the same gender as well, but you'll probably never act on it. It has a really cool flag too lol look it up. When I found this I felt so much better about myself. I don't know if I had hocd before I found it but if I did it stopped it. I would cry because I didn't know what I was and when I found that term I cried tears of joy lol. Don't know if this is what you are or not but though I might be able to help. ♥️ Btw happy pride month! ?️?
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I honestly think a lot more people are heteroflexible than they think lol
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Well thank you for that! But it really doesn’t feel right that’s just not me. Idk it’s all so confusing because I never worried about this before. I’ve always liked boys I can remember having crushes on boys thinking their cute. I had hocd when I was younger as well just because I kid called me a lesbian what a dumb ass. He really made me so upset. Maybe it’s a traumatic experience that’s bothering me. Idk it’s weird. I wouldn’t even care if I was that way it just doesn’t feel right. I don’t have any problems with people that are that way, my brothers that way! I always ask him questions and he says I’m obviously not that way so whyyyyy ugh I can’t
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Heteroflexible means you won't date the same gender but you still think they're pretty or cute or whatever.
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Also there's abro which means your sexuality's always changing
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And there's even a flag for questioning so you can feel at ease either way ?♥️
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Yeah I don’t think girls are cute, I think girls are pretty and most of the time I want to look like them. I’m definitely not that way, but thank you so much for giving me options! That easily could have been me and I would be better. Sadly I’m still in hocd confused asf but I’m not that upset anymore so that’s good
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Have you seen a therapist?? You might need one I don’t think my ocd is as bad as yours. It might have been before but now I’m a little bit better.
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hi i’m a lesbian! and i have known im a lesbian for a really long time and i have a sweet girlfriend of 1 year. it all started when i saw this masc lesbian come out as straight, after that i had my guy friend over and he’s a sweet guy and he was flirting with me (he didn’t know i was gay) im not sure but i panicked and my brain froze and i was like “do i like him”, ever since my brain has been over worked 24/7 for 2 months now and it’s spiralling constantly. im trying to control it but all these thoughts are so disgusting and my brain tries to put him and i in scenarios that make me uncomfortable and i feel panic and i hate it. i have always been comfortable being a lesbian and i still am comfortable as a lesbian, but i dislike these thoughts i have about him and men and i want it to be over. i do not want to experiment with men even tho my brain is telling me i do, i find it disgusting and i dread it, i have a sweet girlfriend and i want to be with her forever, i do not imagine anything with any men and i hate these thoughts. im scared of becoming bisexual/straight one day and i hate hearing sexuality is fluid. its a whole mix of comphet and so-ocd
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I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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