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You can do this ♥️ I'm talking a lot ? But there's this one saying that really helped me and I'm paraphrasing here but it was something along the lines of you are the sky and OCD is the clouds. You came first and it can't survive without you. Maybe use that if you feel like you really have to do your compulsions.
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- 6y
I’m going to delete this app because I’m definitely coming on here for reassurance. I need to get better
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Or you could just do the exercises and not talk to anyone if you think that would be better
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I hope you get better! ♥️ There's sooo many options out there and even ones for if your sexuality doesn't fit any of the others! I know it's kind of an empty saying but try not to worry about it so much. Even though your hocd might make you do it
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Well just go to the therapist. If she says something different you need to mention ocd. If she doesn’t specialize in it you need to get another therapist. They can really mess with ocd if they don’t know. Also if the thoughts are real who cares?? You’ll still be you! But I know that you don’t want those thoughts so I really think it’s ocd
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I come on her to feel better and that fuels my ocd I know it does. I deleted the app yesterday for only a little bit and I kept getting urges to get it again “just to check it” but I know this app makes me feel better and I just want to let the thoughts be there and to not avoid it
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It's obviously up to you but are you sure it's your OCD? Maybe it's a coping mechanism instead. But I'm new to this and not an expert so do what you think is best. If you stay on this app I'd love to help you though ♥️
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What do you mean? Getting on the app is a coping mechanism?
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Yeah. It could be distracting you but again I could be totally wrong.
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Yeah idk. I can’t tell what I’m doing for reassurance or just trying to feel better. This is all confusing
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I know it is lol
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I’m literally sitting outside of my work not wanting to go in. I’m so tired. I’m confused. I can’t get a therapist because none of them specialize in ocd around me. Ugh this is annoying?
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Yeah I know but reassurance is a compulsion, so I think I might be doing that to feel better
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You can go into work and come back to the app whenever you need to. Just try to wane yourself off of it and not just stop cold turkey. ♥️
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Also you can use the SOS feature instead of asking for reassurance if you feel better about that
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Thank you I think I’ll be ok it’s just all confusing right now. I think I have a lot of mental compulsions and looking things up for reassurance is also one. I’m confused because I really can’t tell anymore. I used to be so sure of my sexuality and I still know I’m straight but these thoughts confuse me. I’m just not sure anymore, like what if I’m actually gay and I’m just denying it? That right there is a hocd thought, so why can’t I get it through my head?? Ugh so annoying
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There's also a thing called heteroflexible. (Which is what I am) It means you're straight, but you like the same gender as well, but you'll probably never act on it. It has a really cool flag too lol look it up. When I found this I felt so much better about myself. I don't know if I had hocd before I found it but if I did it stopped it. I would cry because I didn't know what I was and when I found that term I cried tears of joy lol. Don't know if this is what you are or not but though I might be able to help. ♥️ Btw happy pride month! ?️?
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I honestly think a lot more people are heteroflexible than they think lol
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Well thank you for that! But it really doesn’t feel right that’s just not me. Idk it’s all so confusing because I never worried about this before. I’ve always liked boys I can remember having crushes on boys thinking their cute. I had hocd when I was younger as well just because I kid called me a lesbian what a dumb ass. He really made me so upset. Maybe it’s a traumatic experience that’s bothering me. Idk it’s weird. I wouldn’t even care if I was that way it just doesn’t feel right. I don’t have any problems with people that are that way, my brothers that way! I always ask him questions and he says I’m obviously not that way so whyyyyy ugh I can’t
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Heteroflexible means you won't date the same gender but you still think they're pretty or cute or whatever.
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Also there's abro which means your sexuality's always changing
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And there's even a flag for questioning so you can feel at ease either way ?♥️
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Yeah I don’t think girls are cute, I think girls are pretty and most of the time I want to look like them. I’m definitely not that way, but thank you so much for giving me options! That easily could have been me and I would be better. Sadly I’m still in hocd confused asf but I’m not that upset anymore so that’s good
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Have you seen a therapist?? You might need one I don’t think my ocd is as bad as yours. It might have been before but now I’m a little bit better.
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- 24w
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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Im a straight man and sometimes I make the mistake of compulsively getting on here. It’s gotten better but I slip sometimes. I feel like I’m alone in this and I even read on some OCD page that Women are more likely to suffer from this theme than Men. That just makes me feel like I’m in denial of some sort. I feel alone and feel like my intrusive thoughts are different. I know that’s what everyone who has ocd thinks, but I can’t help shake the feeling like what if I’m lying to myself or what if I have some underlying secret. I don’t want to be gay. I find I argue with myself in my head over and over and sometimes by repeating “I don’t want to be gay, I want to be straight” I’ll end up saying the opposite and that would scare me even though I know that It happened because I’m constantly fighting with OCD. Just feeling a bit down today. I had a sexual dream about an ex girlfriend and it felt great and I’m not scared by it. I find and want to be with Women romantically til forever.
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