Thoughts on Sexual Orientation OCD

Seeing these posts regarding sexual orientation OCD has been really interesting for me. I didn’t know that was a thing and now I’m like… shit. I came out as a lesbian in my early 20s. I always knew I was into girls from a young age and went through the usual turmoil etc. but I was so confident in my sexuality by the time I was in my 20s. Then I developed a crush on a man a few years ago. I think? Because I don’t even know if I would actually want to date one… Is nervousness attraction? Is thinking someone is good looking attraction? For the past few years I’ve been spiralling between this is just me being in denial I’m definitely a lesbian and actually no this is really attraction and that’s okay labels can change you’re bisexual. But I’ve literally had this inner debate for over 3 years now on a daily basis. I’ve spoken so much about it with my friends and they’re always like ‘just go with the flow.’ I can’t! And now I’m realising it’s not normal to stress over your sexual orientation on a regular basis… And it comes back to the OCD problem of I MUST know!! I need to know 100% who and what I am or nothing makes sense!! Anyway, every day I am learning new ways OCD has been a part of my life and I never knew, ha. Any other LGBT people with the same thoughts? Seems a lot of het people who worry they’re gay/bi whereas I’m the opposite 😅

Username: ihatethatshhhhh

Date posted: 65d ago

i have similar problem, im asexual, but because of ocd, i have doubts bout that and i need to know 100% who i am too :( its so hard

Username: CB1992

Date posted: 65d ago

@holyshhii It sucks having to accept that you can’t be 100% sure of well… anything really. The OCD curse…

Username: ocdgirl123

Date posted: 65d ago

unfortunately sexuality is really weird and not quantifiable in a lot of ways. a straight woman is capable of feeling attraction to another woman. a lesbian may feel a flicker of attraction to a man. what really matters is where you put your sexual or romantic energy and if that’s solely towards women, that’s okay! ocd really makes us want to explore every single avenue of our sexuality when that really doesn’t matter. sometimes other human beings are hot. it doesn’t mean we have to date them. i hope you’re doing well!

Username: opheliajoslin

Date posted: 65d ago

i struggle with this all the time and i’m nervous that i’m faking it for attention but whatever the case may be i’m gonna trust my heart if you like a guy try it out if you realize this isn’t for me discuss that with him sexuality can be something we think once we know it our life will be easier but that’s not the case it’s okay to not know and it’s okay to try new things

Username: tizwiz91

Date posted: 51d ago

I’m bisexual and struggle with this so badly! Can’t be happy in any relationships cos I worry that I should be with the opposite gender, it’s exhausting!