Has anyone on here ever had thoughts like,what if I had sex with a dog?this thought has me in its clutches and I feel really abnormal and bad,my therapist says maybe maybe not, but it’s trying to really dig in
I've had those kinds of thoughts before for sure! I'm so glad you were able to talk about it with your therapist. That's something that was really hard for me to do, but ultimately helped a ton. I don't know if you have ever learned about mindfulness, but what has helped me a ton is the practice of doing a "maybe, maybe not," acknowledging the thought as a thought and then refocusing my attention on something that I care about doing. You may have to refocus a bunch of times, but it's all about learning to catch yourself and refocus when you start to spiral.
Yeah OCD is creative in such a nasty way! It's like an adolescent scrawling horrible drawings all over the school desk. Your dog sex thoughts are a false signal from your brain which thinks it's in a dangerous situation. That's all. The "Maybe, maybe not" thing doesn't work for everyone - there are lots of tactics for exposure. Maybe talk through some creative options with your therapist. Maybe you can out-creative the naughty adolescent that is OCD!
@Marc D Great analogy I’m just imagining my OCD laughing like Beavis and Butthead
@Agrokat! Exactly that! It also helps so much to find a sense of humour about all this. Seems impossible sometimes and like the least funny thing ever. But if you can get to a place of being the Beavis to your OCD's Butthead, the whole world seems a lot brighter.
I feel bad enough for sharing the thought
You really don't need to feel bad. You wouldn't feel bad for having strange blood sugar levels because of diabetes. Equally - don't feel bad for having strange thoughts because of OCD. You don't want these thoughts and you're doing a very brave thing by facing up to them and learning how to get some freedom from them. You're great!
@Anonymous That’s what we’re all here for. Share your intrusive thoughts without shame or judgment. We all have OCD, we can all relate. Hang in there.
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My OCD has swapped around in the past- primarily focused on HOCD and then I just accepted maybe I was attracted to both men and women, (men primarily, women only sexually occasionally) after I had sex with a girl - I didn’t know at the time it was OCD - and now it has focused on beastiality. I’m terrified. I hate HATE to admit this but when I was younger I let a dog lick my private area, and ever since I can’t stop thinking maybe that was because I wanted it? Even though I know deep down it was just sexual curiosity - the actual act of intimacy and not the animal, but now I get scared. In the past few years I have seen images and checked my groinal response, sometimes I can get really aroused and I feel disgusting. I love animals, I would never want to hurt them in anyway, I don’t know whether I just have a fixation on the idea of having sex that is intense - sort of like a ‘I need you now’ thing - as comes with the term ‘doggy style’ but then this just makes me think maybe it’s all rooted down to animals? I’m so honestly terrified I feel like the government will arrest me based on searches of laws and me trying to figure out if I’m attracted to animals going on forums etc. I once read an erotic literature page and it had a beastiality section, I looked at it and was repulsed but again my groinal response was different. I feel so guilty, but I can’t tell if this is my OCD or if I am actually attracted to animals. I would NEVER have sex with one, the idea repulses me, but somehow I can get aroused by the stories (not particularly the images) and I’m so stressed and upset I don’t know what to do I’m too scared to tell my therapist incase they lock me up for it and it hinders my future jobs :(
This is something really weird to share! When I was 12 I was with my dog on my lap and the touch of his paws made me aroused! I was naturally watching TV! Then I thought what if I used him to have sexual pleasure? And then I felt really disgusted by that thought! Like I was an animal pervert but I think it was a pretty irrational thought and totally a thought not a want to do! But now I remembered that moment and I can't stop feeling that I was horrible by having thought about it and asking myself if I had done it would I be nowadays a dog rappist? This scares me! Do you feel that this was a normal thought considering the age and situation or am I a disgusting person?
My zoophilia ocd is starting to be debilitating. I feel like just crying in bed I feel so guilty and terrible. I can’t even pet my dogs or give them a tummy rub without thinking I must have some sort of messed up motive or am somehow violating them. If I try to pick them up and accidentally touch them near their privates I feel disgusting like I must have done it on purpose. I love my dogs they are so sweet and I wouldn’t do anything to hurt them but these thoughts are ruining my life. Advice please!!
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