I keep getting anxious about this one situation, I have all the facts and they all prove my ocd wrong but I’m still getting anxious about it even when the facts point to this thing not being true. It’s so scary because it’s a really serious thing, but I have all the facts and they point to it not being true but my ocd is still saying ‘what if?’ Someone help lol
I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now. Cutting to the chase, OCD does not care about facts - it thrives on casting doubt on your facts. For example, if I were driving down the street and hit a bump in the road and I know it was a bump and I did not see any pedestrians in the vicinity, the OCD may jump up and offer this thought - perhaps you don't remember seeing someone walking - and then we would be off to the races to prove it wrong. It won't work because OCD is never satisfied - it wants complete certainty, and it will cast doubt on your memory and will create false memories - like you think that you may have seen a pedestrian. The best thing to do is sit with the anxietty without any response - and try your best to hold off on compusling because the more you compulse the louder OCD gets. I hope this helps you.
@Jeffrey Thank you this really helped :)
@Anonymous. Same way - say your ocd tells you you did something to your friend’s phone - you immediately acknowledge the thought, and you can even acknowledge it’s an intrusive thought, and then you let the thought be there without responding to the OCD with a compulsion. It is okay ti say something like, that’s an interesting thought l, or maybe I did and maybe I didn’t, or higher level exposure tou could say of course I did something ti my friends phone but not only my friends but everyone I coke into contact with I mess with their phone. It’s fun. Then you sit with the anxiety and allow it to come down on its own.
@Anonymous. In all cases of intrusive thoughts we must stay away from compulsions as much as we can. So if ocd is telling you there is proof somewhere on your friends iCloud, say maybe there is and maybe there isn’t. I don’t know and I don’t care. Or you may say something like of course there is all over the iCloud and my friend is going to go to the police and I will go to jail and everyone will know I am a liar. This is a high end exposure so if you are not there yet try and stick with maybe maybe not. The key here is the ocd will implant doubt - and our job is to sit with the doubt in a non-committal way. Remember the OCD is not going to be satisfied with any answer so if you can go with the high end exposure - that is good because it does not give ocd anywhere to go.
Have been with ocd for about a year and I know this exact feeling all to well. I get these feelings after a night of drinking where the night was alittle blurry. You will have every bit of evidence you didn’t act in a way your thinking and still think you did. It’s horrible and the one thing I can tell you is you just have to accept it as hard as that is and accept the discomfort. It’s gets better I promise. Good bless
@Mrmanye Thank you 😊I hope it gets better for you too
@swyd7 Same, it’s so distressing
Jeffrey very helpful. Thanks.
OCD LOVES to feed on doubt
I feel this everyday, and the only solution is to accept the discomfort and the sense of not feeling right and direct focus on things the matter. Hang in there.
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I’m so sorry to hear that OCD is latching onto something very particular in your life. You are not alone! It sounds like there may be some rumination going on and a lot of intrusive thoughts beating you up. The best way to counteract this is by using non-engagement techniques in response to these intrusive thoughts. “Maybe something is true, maybe it’s not” or even agreeing with the statements! You got this!
@EmilyCruce Thank you so much!!!
Is it a situation that passed already?
@Hexoonie Yes
I'm going through the same. It's so frustrating.
Does anyone know why ocd still finds ways to dispute facts? I’ve had so much confirmation I don’t have STDs and my brain still finds ways to pick holes in it, and convince me I have reasons to be scared, why is this? I have tangible proof I’m okay and I STILL can’t fully relax?! I don’t get it I thought when I had std tests I’d be instantly fine
If the uncertainty leads me to accept the thing i am running away from how was that not true and if the uncertainty the may be or maybe not in the future gets me to do something i might be in denial of what then?!? This is a possibility and a big one cause if i would have been so sure if myself why would i even question in the first place…And with uncertainty how do i know anything for sure and people who don't know will say they are gender queer so how am i not that.….. ¡ have stopped feeling the anxiety and all these feel real and I don't even react to it cause i am tired and numb to them its like I don't know who i am anymore and everyone with soocd constantly says they know they are straight or whatever and i used to earlier and now I don't why dont i?! Why do i feel like thats a lie or could be a lie and my brain has confused my emotions and feelings to the point where nothing feels real anymore and i feel like an imposter and someone who doesn't know who she is and is suffering…… is this ocd doing this or my thoughts being real just me not realising? Is this ocd i am constantly trying to figure out if the thoughts are real or not and then i say if its real i type all this because i am scared and fear and in denial like where does this end?!
Why does it feel like we have to accept more uncertainty than most? I know I may be wrong, but I cant help but feel that it is so wrong to not worry about potential issues, if I’m making the wrong choice about my relationship especially if there were and can be real problems involved, if I’ve harmed, if I’ve been harmed, if this is not even OCD. It feels like Im being kept in the dark and it feels so unfair. Is there really no way other than to accept uncertainty? These are such important things (to me at least) and I’m supposed to not be sure about them? How is ERP going to help with OCD mixed with « real » problems? Ive been feeling so sad and frustrated about this lately, especially with « is it even OCD or am I supposed to be doing something else? Can someone please let me know how they overcome this?
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