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Username: Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

39 weeks and 6 days pregnant. Almost a mom.

Okay so im pretty much just putting this out there to see if anyone will comment and help me. This is my first and only baby I will be having. I have pretty severe ocd with multiple themes and have for years it fluctuates from better to worse you know like this disorder usually does but especially with this pregnancy it has been so bad. It got bad in the second trimester and then it got worse in this last trimester. Idk if it’s because I’m just anticipating his arrival so much so my minds just left to wonder and create scenarios regular and intrusive, of what it’ll be like to be a mom and have him here and also to be exposed everyday to a source of anxiety for me. My stress level is so so high almost everything triggers a thought for me everyday and i ruminate on all of them everyday. I try not to but right now it feels impossible eventhough I know it’s ocd. So what I’m asking is any mom, dad, parent whatever on here I need advice on managing this with a new child. He is about to come out and I’m so anxious about how this will affect me I want to be a good mom and of course ocd makes me worry what if I’m just constantly anxious around him and can’t function and don’t want to be around him? What if I hurt him or want to? All the terrible what ifs and worrying that I won’t be able to enjoy being a mom that this shit will take any enjoyable part of the experience away from me and just make me miserable so please anyone who’s been through it before just tell me how you managed or are still managing what you did to prepare/how you cope? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Hello, Breath remember to breath. I have my daughter it took me till I was 35 to trust myself to have a child. I promised my daughter when she was being created in my womb that I would not let OCD rule our lives together. I focus on the love I feel inside for her and I tell OCD this is one place you are not allowed to enter. I draw a line in my mind, it cannot be passed. OCD cannot be more powerful than the love I have. It takes a lot of work. Centering yourself. Stay present in the moment, calling out what if thoughts so they will lose their power. I believe in you!!!

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you!

Username: opossumfan opossumfan

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous That was so beautiful

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Being present in the moment is so important, it is a big change yes, but again rest right now, prepare for this beautiful change in life.

Username: MentalHealthMatters!MentalHealth...

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi there! I'm 28 weeks pregnant with our 4th child and I also suffer from many themes. However with God & prayer, adding different coping skills in my life and doing healthier things has helped manage, walk away, and say no to ocd. With the right help for ocd you can live a healthy life. Stay strong you'll be a great mom!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I hope it helps

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous I think it will. Just super stressed right now cause of this and everything is about to change and at the same time I’m excited and just so ready to be done being pregnant so I’m also anxious like alright you can come out now lol. Nervous about postpartum too.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Sometime I have a hard time telling the difference between fear and excitement. So I say it’s excitement. Your hormones are raging as well and that is food to OCD…. Be kind with yourself, give yourself grace. You deserve this. Remember some of what your feeling is just normal…. OCD is adding and extra spin on it.

Username: dph044@yahoo.comdph044@yahoo...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Do you have a therapist? If not I really advise getting a NOCD therapist they are great. You may experience mood changes witty the hormone changes. Please discuss any postpartum thought changes with yo ur doctor. As a parent I would just say take one day at a time. Find someone you can trust to confide in and help you.

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@dph044@yahoo.com I do have a therapist. Just hard to stay motivated to do sessions as often as I need to cause sometimes it makes me feel like if I talk about what’s going through my head instead of just trying to move on from it it’ll make me spiral further into ruminating about it. Which I know it’s just part of the cycle but it’s very discouraging.

Username: dph044@yahoo.comdph044@yahoo...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Ugenefits1 Do you have an OCD therapist? If yes you must do the work no matter how hard. No safety behavior or distraction. Accept the thought. You can learn to handle it. Please please see your ocd therapist

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@dph044@yahoo.com I do have one. I hadn’t seen her for a bit but I have a session next week. I do try my best to keep up with it. Sometimes it just catches up with me. But I always go back to my regular sessions and exercises just sometimes it’s hard to always keep it up cause you don’t realize you’ve been stuck in a cycle until you’ve actually been stuck.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi there, I had my first baby in April. He's seven months now. I have had harm OCD for about 20 years now. Sometimes I go years without having harming thoughts, but once something changes in my life they come back. So, when I had my baby boy, those thoughts came back. In the beginning all, now much better, but still they come sometimes and it makes me feel so so guilty. Ok, here's what helped. I've told my mom and my husband the thoughts I was having (they knew I had them before), I reached to my psychiatrist and increased my meds, I joined this group to help me realize that my thoughts are disturbing, but they are just thoughts. I feel much better. Thank you so much for sharing how you feel. It helped me a lot to know I'm not alone.

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Thank you! And congratulations on your baby. Yeah reading all of these helps me feel not alone too it really helps.

Username: dph044@yahoo.comdph044@yahoo...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@Anonymous Congratulations on your baby. I find that stress even happy stress increases ocd thoughts. Medication my help but ocd therapy really works. Tune in to the utube pat mcgrath ocd info sessions.

Username: Ugenefits1Ugenefits1

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you all of you. I’m grateful for every response they all make me more hopeful that I can do this and I’ll be okay!

Username: Mij

Date posted: 5y ago

(quick disclaimer that this is very hard for me to talk about and I’m thankful for any input you ladies could offer.) I’m a first time mom and loving it. However, I noticed my OCD spiking near the end of my pregnancy and it has only intensified since then. It manifests itself in sooo many different ways, at this point it’s getting impossible to manage. I bounced between therapist as a teenager but once I was living alone with my fiancé, I immediately developed a habit of “blacking/blanking out” at the time of my therapy sessions. I tried to reschedule but the same thing would always happen somehow. No pretty way to say it, we’re poor. Lower middle class.. if even. And as I was getting the courage to inquire about a state healthcare-covered therapist, I got a letter saying I was no longer eligible for insurance. I don’t know what to do. My OCD is truly putting my relationship to the test. My fiancé really has no clue how my mind works anymore, he can’t understand my logic (or lack of) and gets frustrated quickly. I’m scared it’ll eventually affect my daughter. Going to my family for help would be a mistake (been there, deeply regret that) and I’m against prescription drugs for many reasons. Does anybody else have OCD? How do you keep it from controlling your life?

Relationship OCD

Username: arirene

Date posted: 2y ago

any moms on here?? I'm a first time mom and had a baby two months ago. my ocd is back with a vengeance. I'm struggling and just looking for people I can talk to who understand what I'm going through. I don't want to worry anybody so I've been keeping things to myself but it's hard.

"Pure" OCD

Username: hereintheUK

Date posted: 1y ago

Parents and mums to be…….

Hi everyone I’m new here. I’ve been to hell and back in the last 5 months with my OCD which has affected me with various themes in various ways for since childhood but I’ve only this year discovered I have OCD. I have been suicidal 3 times and very close to ending it all. I have a question for all the parents out there/mums to be suffering with OCD…… I already have a 9 yr old boy and 8 yr old girl and have just found out I’m pregnant again…… I really want to be happy about it but my OCD is determined to make me terrified of having another baby and I am living in fear and dread of changing nappies etc as I know it will start affecting me with POCD type thoughts. I didn’t have OCD anything like as bad as it has been this year when I had my two eldest so never had any issues when they were babies. But I don’t even know how to feel except I am terrified now and very seriously considering abortion just to not go through what the OCD may do to me mentally! Though it would devastate my partner. I have had minimal therapy so far since August but no ERP therapy, I’ve lost faith in therapists as I’m yet to meet one that actually knows what OCD is like for those of us living with it. Is anyone else currently facing this situation with being pregnant or been through/currently going through it? How are you coping? Please don’t give too many details as I am scared of being triggered

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