Unconditional acceptance
Anyone have any advice on how to work of acceptance? i struggle quite bad with real event / false memory ocd and the guilt just eats me up everytime. i want to recover but it seems so impossible to just try and live my life not caring if im a good or bad person?
i’m struggling with this a lot too
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The therapist Alegra Kastens of the IG account @obsessivelyeverafter recently posted this metaphor, which I think is helpful to describe how to practice non-engagement! For me it helps to remember that the goal is more to accept the PRESENCE of the fears/thoughts (without trying to push them away or fix them with compulsions), than it is about “agreeing” with the content of the thoughts. I highly recommend working with an ERP specialist, too, if you are interested in taking that step toward recovery! https://www.instagram.com/p/CmhAtSvugQ4/?igshid=YWJhMjlhZTc=
Hi! This was very hard for me to accomplish as well. Whenever I get these kind of thoughts I try to lean into the uncertainty and think “maybe that happened, maybe it didn’t”. Even if I have to fake it, I still try to have this mindset as it lays the foundation for the future. Try leaning into the uncertainty for 1 minute and then allow your mind to think about it. Then do 2 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes, etc.. No matter what, during those times, you refuse to give the thought attention and you accept maybe the event did happen but you are moving on.
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Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
How can I accept uncertainty about a real event that my ocd is latching onto (past mistake)? How can I do erp for it and does anyone have any tips that could possibly help me out? It’s about a mistake I made a long time ago, I think a few years ago, that is haunting me and I feel like it’s so bad that no one could possibly understand and there’s no way I could get better. If anyone has overcome this, do you have any advice that I could use to possibly heal from this or maybe learn something from it? I would truly appreciate it
Is it just an excuse for people who rightfully feel guilty for wrongdoing? My therapists and loved ones have assured me that nothing I did was abusive or traumatic to anyone, but it's hard to listen. Is it time to forgive ourselves if we've received this type of assurance? I know reassurance seeking is bad in OCD, but you have to have at least some idea of how others view you I think if you're going to move on.
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