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- brittches
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Be up front about wanting to go slow. That’s a reasonable request from anyone, not just someone with OCD. It might also help to feel more in control. Rather than waiting to see if they put their arm around you, see how you’re feeling, and if you want touch, snuggle up to them. You might feel anxious at first. Breath. Don’t do compulsions. Sit with the anxiety until it lessens. Whether you touch or not, don’t put so much pressure on tomorrow. Great dates don’t always involve touching. There’s plenty of time for that.
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- The UK GuyThe UK Guy
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Good luck brittches. As pureolife said above, just be open and honest about wanting to go slow. My intrusive thoughts come and go, and have done for around 15 years, but I remember a few months into my new relationship I had a bad night, which was a in turn a bad month, and I was open and honest with her. She didn't understand but you supported me, and 10 years later we're still together. Good luck.
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- brittchesbrittches
- Date posted
- 5y ago
oh you’re an angel :’-) thank you so much for this ♥️♥️♥️
- Username
- brittchesbrittches
- Date posted
- 5y ago
thank you so much the uk guy!! i really appreciate it ? my ocd always just. Centers so much around relationships it’s scary to even think about but your kind words have definitely helped
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- leham
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Anyone with HOCD/ROCD have any tips about going on a date when the thought of it makes you want to die of anxiousness? I’ve been talking to this guy on tinder who seems nice and everything but every time in the past that I’ve started talking to someone and say yes to a date, I literally cancel the next day cause I’m so deathly afraid. This isn’t even necessarily ocd’s fault I’ve always just been scared to death of this kinda thing but obviously having hocd, and what I believe is pre-rocd thoughts, make it seem literally impossible. But I WANT it. I think about having a boyfriend all the time. Ocd is so detrimental to everything you want it’s so frustrating. Ik- news flash haha. Anyways. Should I go? Is this bad timing- will I make everything worse for myself? He’s really cute and seems really nice. Jeez idk idk idk.
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- hannahflorence
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Me and my partner have been going out for a couple of montjs now, and there hasn't really been much physical contact, the odd brush hear and there. On our last date we went out and after a while he held my hand and later on he asked my permission to hug me. I said yes but I immediately felt scared and had an anxiety attack. I don't know whats wrong with me, when my friends and family hold my hand, touch me and hug me I feel fine but when he touches me I get so scared and freeze up. It might be because its my first proper relationship and these are my firsts (I'm 15 by the way). This is then triggering my soocd and telling me because I don't like being touched, I'm gay and the touched my girl best friend give me are more comfortable because I'm secretly gay. I like this guy a lot, and I am sure I'm not gay but my ocd is giving me so much rubbish for it. From what I can tell this isn't normal. I should feel comfy right? I'm sure with more touches and time I'd get more comfy. But I just wanted to let that out cuz it's been brewing inside of me for a while.
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- Anxiousaddie
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Dating advice with ocd
Hey guys so I have HOCD and real event OCD and false memory OCD and this guy i know is interested in dating me and I want to date him too, but I'm really scared. I don't know if I can date someone ever again honestly 😕 I just feel too guilty and like I have to tell them everything ya know? Especially with real event. What do I do? I just feel like I'll never be able to date someone
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