getbetter33
- Date posted
- 2y
it feels so real
my false memory of cheating feels so real and like it must’ve happened. the only thing keeping me a little bit sane is the reassurance that it didn’t from someone who was there
nervousbeansnervousbeans
- Date posted
- 2y
Hi there! I’ve been there and still struggle with this from time to time. It’s hard, but you need to accept the uncertainty and move forward. I know, it’s VERY hard. You ask yourself if it’s fair to your partner to go on like nothing happened, but you have to keep walking and accept whatever the result. It’s such a sneaky disorder. Im here for you!
getbetter33getbetter33
- Date posted
- 2y
@nervousbeans yes this! i feel guilty acting like nothing happened because what if i did and i’m going around acting like nothing did
nervousbeansnervousbeans
- Date posted
- 2y
@getbetter33 Exactly! I feel this way a lot so I totally understand. Like the poster below me said, you have to move forward regardless if it feels counterintuitive. Feeding into the cycle only fuels OCD more. OCD will always want more proof and more certainty. I believe in you. I’m always here if you need to talk :)
KillianKillian
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
I’m sorry you’re going through this, OCD is so good at convincing us our fears are real. That’s because our brain is basically malfunctioning, sending us alarm signals—a fear response—even when there’s no danger. I know the guilt and fear are so hard to live with. 😰 One thing to know is that while reassurance can feel comforting in the immediate/short term, it also strengthens the obsessions in the long run. So, even though it’s counterintuitive, it is actually making the anxiety worse. OCD will always crave more and more certainty, even when it’s impossible to have. If you are interested in getting more support right now, I highly recommend connecting with an ERP therapist who can help you through the fears and work on responding differently to the doubts you’re having. You can always schedule a free call with NOCD you feel like you’re interested in taking that step! We are here for you ✨
nervousbeansnervousbeans
- Date posted
- 2y
@Killian Yes!! You hit the nail on the head! OCD will always crave more certainty! So true!
AnonymouseeAnonymousee
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
I’ve been feeling the same way I have videos and texts and I know I didn’t do anything but my ocd is making me feel like I did and it’s so frustrating.
getbetter33getbetter33
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous it feels so real like i wouldn’t have anxiety over the real event if i didn’t cheat
AnonymouseeAnonymousee
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@getbetter33 I know me too. But I’ve had another instance of this happening and it was just my ocd. I thought that I did something but I never did. And I know I never did anything like that but it makes me feel like I did
AnonymouseeAnonymousee
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@getbetter33 And it’s frustrating becuasr I have cheated in the past with an ex boyfriend when I was drunk, I made out with someone and I remember it all. I then broke up with him a few days after cause I couldn’t take the guilt. So I know if I did do something it would’ve hit me when it happened not now months later
AnonymouseeAnonymousee
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous Cheated on an ex bf not with an ex bf
getbetter33getbetter33
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous this! i didn’t have this thought until a few weeks after the event and even if then it was “what if you did something and forgot about it”
getbetter33getbetter33
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous and then the false memories come in and try to say i do remember it
AnonymouseeAnonymousee
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
@getbetter33 Trust me I’m struggling with the same issue here. Just don’t give into the confession because i did once before and it made it so much harder for me and made my bf think that I did do it even though I would never do something like that.
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