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How can I accept the uncertainty ?
How can I accept the uncertainty ?
Exposure for me feels like a leap of faith. Whenever I do an exposure I choose to sit with the feeling of uncertainty even though it’s hard work and invest my attention in anything else (for example peeling chestnuts in my case) and let the “what if’s unanswered jn the back of my mind. The more experience you get with these exposures over time the more you will learn that eventually you can handle uncertainty, in my experience. You got this!
@Maddy211 Thank u
!Good question Brian:)
Would you like to connect Brian? I am dealing with Scrupulosity, religious ocd etc.
@Lauren12 Yes I would absolutely love to ! I could use some ocd friends .
@Brian :) What would you like to connect with?
@Lauren12 Hi Lauren, just saw your comment. Are you doing ERP for your religious/Scrupulosity OCD? If so, how’s that going? I’m struggling with ERP for this theme feels so hard. (I am a Christian)
@Anonymous 99 I haven't started it yet! I am tracking my symptoms first! What about you? Would you like to connect?
@Lauren12 Oh ok! How can we connect? Is there a way to message on here??
@Anonymous 99 I don't think so! Snapchat, FB, email, Telegram, text. What would you like to use?
@Lauren12 I just downloaded Telegram! How can I message you on there?
@Anonymous 99 My username is @Lauren4you
Recovery is a gradual progression and it takes time and practice of the accepting what already exists, which is uncertainty. When you're feeling the urge to seek the certainty, lean in to the uncertainty of "maybe or maybe not". OCD wants you "trick" you into seeking the certainty when it is unattainable.
@NOCD Therapist - Ruthie B. Thank you! I’ve told my therapist how even though I’m so aware of being tied into this scenario million times, it’s still tempting to give into ...one after one . It can feel quite degrading sometimes on the aftermath of an exposure . My brain will automatically signal me I should worry or be anxious just for not giving into the normal routine when something is alerting
@Brian :) So many years :/ battling this monster . I just turned 20 and I’ve been dealing with this since 14. High school was hard to maintain and prioritize while having rumination in mornings . My themes switched up on me during sophomore year . Pedo ocd c contamination, real event wws one of my worse ones to deal with , and now I have 3 years with TOCD.
I use neutral statements for my "what if's". In a way it makes them seem less scary while letting them exist. Overtime the questions feel unimportant, like you don't need to answer them because let's be real: how many times have you tried to answer them and you were just led in circles? Enough times to be diagnosed with OCD 😅 (Same here!) So it's more of, "I don't know and I don't care". Eventually you won't need to reassure yourself
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
I've been told a lot that in order to get better, we need to tolerate uncertainty, which yea I get that and I'm trying every day more and more to reach that point!! But I've also been told that we need to tolerate uncertainty AND "our worst fears becoming true". Like how does that work, especially with POCD, OCD about a///ault, SA and all of that? Like that is really difficult for me and I don't really understand how I'm supposed to just shrug stuff like that off
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