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How can I accept the uncertainty ?
How can I accept the uncertainty ?
Exposure for me feels like a leap of faith. Whenever I do an exposure I choose to sit with the feeling of uncertainty even though it’s hard work and invest my attention in anything else (for example peeling chestnuts in my case) and let the “what if’s unanswered jn the back of my mind. The more experience you get with these exposures over time the more you will learn that eventually you can handle uncertainty, in my experience. You got this!
@Maddy211 Thank u
!Good question Brian:)
Would you like to connect Brian? I am dealing with Scrupulosity, religious ocd etc.
@Lauren12 Yes I would absolutely love to ! I could use some ocd friends .
@Brian :) What would you like to connect with?
@Lauren12 Hi Lauren, just saw your comment. Are you doing ERP for your religious/Scrupulosity OCD? If so, how’s that going? I’m struggling with ERP for this theme feels so hard. (I am a Christian)
@Anonymous 99 I haven't started it yet! I am tracking my symptoms first! What about you? Would you like to connect?
@Lauren12 Oh ok! How can we connect? Is there a way to message on here??
@Anonymous 99 I don't think so! Snapchat, FB, email, Telegram, text. What would you like to use?
@Lauren12 I just downloaded Telegram! How can I message you on there?
@Anonymous 99 My username is @Lauren4you
Recovery is a gradual progression and it takes time and practice of the accepting what already exists, which is uncertainty. When you're feeling the urge to seek the certainty, lean in to the uncertainty of "maybe or maybe not". OCD wants you "trick" you into seeking the certainty when it is unattainable.
@NOCD Therapist - Ruthie B. Thank you! I’ve told my therapist how even though I’m so aware of being tied into this scenario million times, it’s still tempting to give into ...one after one . It can feel quite degrading sometimes on the aftermath of an exposure . My brain will automatically signal me I should worry or be anxious just for not giving into the normal routine when something is alerting
@Brian :) So many years :/ battling this monster . I just turned 20 and I’ve been dealing with this since 14. High school was hard to maintain and prioritize while having rumination in mornings . My themes switched up on me during sophomore year . Pedo ocd c contamination, real event wws one of my worse ones to deal with , and now I have 3 years with TOCD.
I use neutral statements for my "what if's". In a way it makes them seem less scary while letting them exist. Overtime the questions feel unimportant, like you don't need to answer them because let's be real: how many times have you tried to answer them and you were just led in circles? Enough times to be diagnosed with OCD 😅 (Same here!) So it's more of, "I don't know and I don't care". Eventually you won't need to reassure yourself
I’m having a big OCD relapse and would like to hear anyone’s tips on how to be present and healthily deal with these intrusive thoughts and the “need” to preform compulsions. Thank you!!
whats up guys what are some tips dealing with ocd and what to do when a thought makes u anxious ??
I used to get caught in a loop with existential thoughts very frequently. Every question made my stomach drop: (TW: existential questions) … … ... "Why does anything exist at all? What will death be like? Is anything even real? Is there any meaning to this? Is the universe infinitely big, and if not, what's beyond it? Are there multiverses? Has the universe been around forever? Will the universe end for good, or will it keep going forever? What is forever like? What even IS reality?" It would get so overwhelming that I remember lying on the floor in a fetal position for hours because I felt like there was no escape. I spent most of my days reading articles and watching videos about theoretical astrophysics and philosophy in a desperate attempt to "figure it all out." Of course that only made me more anxious, raised more questions, and kept me trapped in the cycle. Things started to improve once I learned to turn TOWARD reality, rather than away from it, and ERP really helped me do that. I learned that these questions weren't the problem. I learned that I can actually handle the anxiety that arises when exposed to these ideas and concepts. I don't have to figure anything out to make the anxiety go away; it arises and passes away on its own. Ironically, bringing myself into the present moment and becoming more aware of reality helped me escape the cycle of existential dread. Because of that, this topic no longer takes over my life. If I'm triggered by something I see, hear, or think, I may still feel a little twang of anxiety, but then it just goes away. "Maybe, maybe not" has been the single most useful phrase of my life. Do you ever get trapped in a cycle of existential questions? Are you worried that the ERP approach would be too scary to handle? If so, I'm happy to give my advice.
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