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@pureolife that’s very nice of you. Thank you
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I’m sort of new to this app and I have my own ocd but from what I’m hearing I used to struggle and sometimes still do with asking if people are mad at me. Like I used to and still do ask my mom if she’s mad at me and then I used to get upset if she was actually mad and I wouldn’t feel better until she said she wasn’t mad anymore. I don’t have the problem as much anymore though because I’ve learned that people are going to get mad and you can’t please everybody all the time. And just because someone is mad doesn’t mean they will stay mad forever. Also if your friends didn’t invite you because your clingy or have ocd just know that God made you just how he wanted to and maybe they aren’t true friends because true friends would love you no matter the ocd or being clingy. So my advice would be to find some good friends who maybe have ocd too or just some good friends who will be there to support you.
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@Hannah2004 that’s true. That’s rly hard tho
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Hi astroworld ?? I’m sorry you’re feeling left out right now. I hope you know that everyone feels left out sometimes. Even the people who were invited may have felt left out of certain games or conversations once they were there. Feeling left out is a really common human experience for everyone. You may want to ask them why you weren’t invited and tell them that it hurt your feelings. Just be aware that you may not like the response (if you do get negative feedback, try not to take it to heart. Use it to better yourself if it makes sense, and ignore it if not). But no matter what, keep working in yourself. If you think you’re too clingy, see if you can try to give others more space sometimes. If someone doesn’t like you because of your OCD, that’s okay; others will like you anyways. Maybe they just weren’t the right friends for you. Get out and meet some knew people or talk to people you normally wouldn’t. You’re at a time in life where everyone is still figuring out what type of people they want to be friends with long term. You can also be someone who chooses others, not just someone who waits to be chosen.
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Also, normal 14 year olds don’t get invited to stuff ALL THE TIME. No matter how cool they act or seem.
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Mann this isn't any ocd problems but like I feel like some of my friends just ignores me or like I know they like me but they just don't interact me back and they block me then unblock me and never followed me back am I too annoying for them or am I just this annoying for my whole life I mean I made it my whole persona I do jokes i make them laugh but I feel like its not enough of them I'm already crying can someone comfort me ...
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the past month ive been ruminating about a time last year where i hurt a friend by unintentionally bringing up a traumatic memory when i was really drunk, enough that i didnt remember it, so i went 6 months without apologizing until i was worried when they werent talking to me anymore. so they told me when i finally tried to talk to them. i apologized and they told me we were ok now, and still want me in their life, but now they stopped talking to me again and its been 3 weeks, and im terrified that i did something again, especially since they stopped talking to me when i made a mistake before, and wont tell me outright. the event triggered horrible horrible guilt over what i did, mostly guilt About the guilt i was feeling, because its not a normal amount of guilt for a regular person, and eventually my compulsions for confessing and ruminating reached a high point. and when they stopped talking to me again they got even worse . they are aware i suffer from ocd and anxiety to an extent (we've been friends since we were teenagers) so its hard for me to believe they wouldn't do this unless i did something wrong again, especially due to the events of my past mistake. lately ive been wondering, 'have they found out my abnormal reaction to what happened ?' 'did a friend who knows about it tell them?' ive been avoiding asking them if i did something wrong again, because i dont want to make it a habit since i can fall very deeply into that hole of asking for reassurance and i feel even regular reassurance, without the ocd, im the last person who deserves that right now. im scared they somehow found out about my compulsions (which isnt entirely irrational) and i feel the need to apologize to them again. ive been having panic attacks about this. i feel like no matter what i do i cant fix our friendship, and its going to end badly. i feel like a terrible friend, and im too mentally ill to have friendships. i don't know what to do.
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I’ve been in a really difficult situation recently and this weekend I’ve been looking forward to for ages. I had a concert and then nights out planned with my cousins. But I’m a tad bit older than them and they’re a lot closer in ages, as are all their friends from uni, so I’m kinda just stuck here with nothing to do. They’re off flirting with people their age and dancing and I’m getting no attraction or even attention (not in an attention seeking kinda way just an I’m lonely kinda way). At the concert they left my 5 or 6 times to go to the toilet and get drinks, when I went to the toilet I went alone. I was left alone to the point people around started to notice and I had one guy say “left alone are you? You need to get better friends” I just feel very left out. I’m a lot older than them and I know I have to keep a mature head but I’ve already fallen into a pit of depression recently and very very low self esteem to the point I barely wanna go out in public, that I’m now sat here all anxious and in a really bad mood. I don’t even know exactly why or when it changed but last night I just snapped. My sister was off meeting new people, my cousin was dancing with creepy men, a guy I found attractive was more interested in my cousin, she started dancing all provocative on him and I was just kinda there. I then had people asking me if I was neurodivergent and bisexual which just sent my ocd spiralling and nobody quite understands how horrible it is to be in my head. There was this lovely guy saying how amazing stunning and beautiful I was but it kinda just made me go “you’re saying that because you feel bad for me, because you know they’re getting all the attention and I’m this ugly duff person on the side”, it’s insanely exhausting. I’m tired of it now. I don’t wanna be in a mood anymore but I can’t seem to shift it, I’m stuck
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