There has been 2 birthday party’s for two people that I consider to be my some of my best friends that I haven’t been invited to. I feel like me being clingy and asking if people are mad at me and my ocd makes people not like me or hanging out with me. I just wish it would all go away and I could get invited to do stuff like a normal 14 year old.

@pureolife that’s very nice of you. Thank you

I’m sort of new to this app and I have my own ocd but from what I’m hearing I used to struggle and sometimes still do with asking if people are mad at me. Like I used to and still do ask my mom if she’s mad at me and then I used to get upset if she was actually mad and I wouldn’t feel better until she said she wasn’t mad anymore. I don’t have the problem as much anymore though because I’ve learned that people are going to get mad and you can’t please everybody all the time. And just because someone is mad doesn’t mean they will stay mad forever. Also if your friends didn’t invite you because your clingy or have ocd just know that God made you just how he wanted to and maybe they aren’t true friends because true friends would love you no matter the ocd or being clingy. So my advice would be to find some good friends who maybe have ocd too or just some good friends who will be there to support you.

@Hannah2004 that’s true. That’s rly hard tho

Hi astroworld ?? I’m sorry you’re feeling left out right now. I hope you know that everyone feels left out sometimes. Even the people who were invited may have felt left out of certain games or conversations once they were there. Feeling left out is a really common human experience for everyone. You may want to ask them why you weren’t invited and tell them that it hurt your feelings. Just be aware that you may not like the response (if you do get negative feedback, try not to take it to heart. Use it to better yourself if it makes sense, and ignore it if not). But no matter what, keep working in yourself. If you think you’re too clingy, see if you can try to give others more space sometimes. If someone doesn’t like you because of your OCD, that’s okay; others will like you anyways. Maybe they just weren’t the right friends for you. Get out and meet some knew people or talk to people you normally wouldn’t. You’re at a time in life where everyone is still figuring out what type of people they want to be friends with long term. You can also be someone who chooses others, not just someone who waits to be chosen.

Also, normal 14 year olds don’t get invited to stuff ALL THE TIME. No matter how cool they act or seem.