- Username
- jmc0630
- Date posted
- 1y ago
having a crush
how do y’all handle having a crush when you have ocd and severe anxiety? idk i just feel just super anxious ab it. especially the uncertainty of like being in the “talking stage”
- Username
- humanpersonhumanperson
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I simply don’t handle it lmao. I honestly hate having crushes because I feel too obsessive and anxious over everything and it causes me to feel creepy and ashamed and gross, and every rejection experience I’ve had just feeds into all of it. I hate uncertainty and I always want to know what to expect which I know is very unrealistic but the anxiety and self-deprecating thoughts just take over very easily when I have no idea what is coming next. I just try to avoid pain by making it occur faster, and I’ve put myself in positions where I knew I’d be rejected but I wanted to rip off the bandaid so I could just stop thinking about all of it.
- Username
- OneDayAtATimeOneDayAtATime
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I am in the midst of this right now… I didn’t think of it till now but I am feeling a lot of anxeity in the talking stage… it is like every time she doesn’t answer I think I did something wrong… the best idea is to just sit with the uncertainty, the future is so unknown but right now we are exactly where we are! Thats the only way I see it honestly
- Username
- humanpersonhumanperson
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@OneDayAtATime I had no idea OCD was so related to feelings of uncertainty until I got this app and I feel like I would’ve been much better off if I knew this a long time ago. I’ve always struggled very deeply with uncertainty. It’s so hard. I feel the same as you but I don’t think I’ve ever truly been in an actual talking stage with anyone, I just try and befriend the person I like, anxiously wait for them to at least be platonically reciprocal, they do so for an extremely brief time and then get bored, and so I just feel like shit and let them forget me or I tell them I like them really normally and casually literally just so I can move on and it freaks them out and they stop talking to me. This is why I’ve never dated. I’m demisexual and I barely like anyone in the first place which helps nothing. Bleh.
- Username
- traingirl10traingirl10
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Relationships are so hard to begin with. So many people struggle to get it right. It's why there are 100s if not 1000s of books out there about relationships. And there are so many single people on dating apps. Add anxiety and OCD on top of it... oof... I feel that. I am new to the concept that I struggle with ROCD... but I think there is a lot of room for us to be gentle with ourselves in this process. I mean, really be kind to ourselves and take a breath, because so many people struggle to get this right,not just those of us with OCD.
- Username
- humanpersonhumanperson
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@traingirl10 I am freaked out by dating apps. I tried them but my anxiety couldn’t take it, I just think everyone on them is going to hurt me. I hate strangers so much, they freak me out. And I don’t like the concept of commodifying dating. It just feels icky to me. I wish it didn’t because then I could meet more people but I just can’t
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- leham
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- wildflower
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Username
- Animaniash
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Can any of you with relationship ocd please share your experiences below?? Don't be afraid to give details!!! I want to know your experiences and relate to you guys!!! Mine was when I first told my crush I liked him. A month or two after that, we became official. That's when all the anxiety kicked it and when my life turned upside down. I got lots of ugly thoughts like my boyfriend wasn't attractive, me hurting him or killing him, all these awful ugly things that ruined everything and made me depressed and anxious. Whenever I thought someone else was attractive I would feel so so bad and thought I didn't love him. It was awful 😞 now I just for us on his imperfections and makes me fear he's unnattractive even though he's not. Ugh I wish this would end
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