For anyone that has gone through relationship OCD, are there times where you literally cannot think about anything else but the relationship and can barely even function otherwise? Like itās debilitating but you donāt want to give up.
Yeah and sometimes I feel like maybe I should break up with this person, even though they are really just my thoughts
@janasilva me too š i just realized i was triggered about this and it kills me so much
Iām sorry to see that. I feel like mornings are the worst too.
yeah, i'm always like that, my brain is always busy obsessing on my relationship and i barely have energy for other stuff
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Hi there! I am so sorry you are dealing with ROCD right now, I know how challenging that can be. It can feel very debilitating at times when you are constantly doing compulsions. Have you ever tried ERP therapy?
Iāve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. Iām in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? Thereās this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I donāt care enough, the things I do arenāt enough and that Iām not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these āproblemsā just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesnāt like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
no clue if this is compulsive, but Iām interested to hear any obsessions others have that arenāt the ācommonā ones you see online about what ROCD is? a few for me: - thoughts about their partner being with someone else instead (sometimes a specific person) and then trying to analyze your reaction to it? e.g. does it *feel* more right than us, do I actually feel happy for them, etc. - trying to imagine your partner in your current situation or maybe a specific future situation (when theyāre not around) and trying to decide if they āfitā in it? - being super scared of losing them, then suddenly feeling like you donāt care much for them at all, and just constantly cycling? - I almost never fully enjoyed sex because I was constantly obsessing about whether or not I was turned on, turned on āenough,ā if I was just having groinal responses and wasnāt actually turned on, looking at his face just to decide if I find him attractive enough, comparing my experience with how I feel watching content alone, etc.
I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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