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- Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Toxic relationships
Has anyone else been in a toxic relationship or suffered from narcissistic emotional abuse and your OCD got so much worse?
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- charissepisces2021charissepisc...
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Absolutely. I felt like i was qbout to have a mental breakdown. I only dated the guy for a month and i was ready to go to the loony bin. All the gaslighting and manipulation always makes you doubt yourself and so it makes it so much worse. My advice would be to leave, usually even with rocd you can logically see their treatment of you isnt good, it took a lot of bravery for me to take that chance bc i doubted myself that the whole thing was just in my head (like he said it was) but im so glad i did.
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- Neutrino Neutrino
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Gaslighting + OCD is such a bad combo, I feel like it hits us way harder since our disorder feeds on doubt
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- Honeyshark Honeyshark
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Neutrino Agreed
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- Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Neutrino 100%.
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- FactsOverFearFactsOverFear
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I relate to this post so much. Was in a relationship with a narcissist and after we broke up it took me two years to start feeling better. My OCD was so bad when I was with him because he would constantly gaslight me (tell me my feelings weren't valid, tell me things never happened the way they did) and every day was an emotional roller coaster. If you are still in that relationship then LEAVE ASAP! Narcissists will destroy every part of you. Wishing you the best!
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- Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Anonymous I left last July. He moved on right away. But of course since then, he sends me messages all the time about how he loves me and misses me and doesn’t love his girlfriend. I’ve tried blocking him but he always finds a way to message. I feel like it just keeps making the OCD worse.
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- Honeyshark Honeyshark
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Catlove9 What’s coming up for your OCD with him contacting you?
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- Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Razz14 It’s hard to explain. I feel like it’s just triggering. Because it gives me anxiety so when I get anxiety, my intrusive thoughts run crazy.
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- FactsOverFearFactsOverFear
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Catlove9 - Of course he moved on quickly. Narcissists always need to have "supply". If you keep answering him, you'll continue to be his "supply". The only way is to go no contact. Do not speak to him. Do not engage with him in any way. This can feel torturous, but you know that he'll hurt you again. He won't change, but you can change what you do from here.
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- Honeyshark Honeyshark
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Catlove9 Yeah that sucks. I had a similar experience and the doubt was intense. He kept trying to maintain contact but I had to stop responding also I told him he was the problem which no narcissist wants to hear.
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- Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Razz14 I have tried no contact but I always cave. I will keep trying
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Does anybody have origins of their OCD?
I believe I’ve always had intrusive/OCD thoughts. When I was younger I always repeated phrases because my brain went “if you don’t do this your whole family will die” but it wasn’t anything too bad. However, when I was 15 I entered my first relationship. I had divorced parents and didn’t know what love was - so it ended up being abusive and I did not know. He forced me to disclose all the people I found attractive as well as all the “unpure” thoughts I had. He deemed fantasizing cheating - which I respected - but also caused for a lot of intrusive thoughts to make me freak out. He also gaslit me and accused me of cheating for the lightest things (gave my cousin a side-hug) and prohibited me from getting male friends because he thought I’d cheat (I’ve never been unfaithful or even flirted w another man. I’ve always had strong morals about it) I believe this trauma is what made my ocd what it is now, since I’m used to being accused for stuff I didn’t understand or have control over. I believe that understanding OCDs roots allows me to heal because it reminds me that I could exist without this thoughts and still had a good moral compass.
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