kohner10!
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- 2y
Question
If you dont want to break up with someone does that mean you shouldnt? Like how do you know if you should or not
kohner10!kohner10!
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- 2y
@matt9876 thats the thing when ive told her that i want to make sure shes with someone who shes happy with and can love her how she deserves she says that she would rather go through this with me than to be with anyone else and id rather go through this with her than be with anyone else
matt9876matt9876
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- 2y
Don't break up with her, true love is something that isn't easy to find, as a person who has been in love it's one of the greatest feelings, but sometimes we can take love for granted. That's the mistake I made, taking it for granted, I wish I didn't have, I wish that me and her worked it out but I'm afraid that it's too late between me and her. Don't break up with her because she loves you and she's willing to help you, try thinking, thinking of a life without her, will life be better or worse?
kohner10!kohner10!
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- 2y
@matt9876 honestly it depends in which form becausw i know i love her and shes everything i could want in a girl its just i have this constant anxiety talking to her and idk what its from we are also long distance and we havent met which i know how that sounds but falling in love and you havent met its incredible but i constantly have anxiety so i fear that breaking up with her that im going to maybe feel relieved that i dont have to worry about the relationship but im gonna feel that i lost someone who i could potentially marry one day and is pretty much exactly what i want in a girl so overall i think my life would be worse without her in the long term look of things and my advice to you is its not to late man if the girl wants to fight to make things work with you i say give it a try just make sure its what you both want and if she doesnt then shes not the one but theres always a chance man
matt9876matt9876
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- 2y
Believe it or not, the relationship that I had was also long distance, it's really hard. In a relationship, communication is always important, communication helps a relationship by making things clear, by being true to to each other. It's important to talk about what your thoughts are with your partner, that's what I did with my ex girlfriend because she always supported me. Your partner loves you, she's willing to fix things. That's something special, you mentioned that it could feel like you lost someone who you could potentially marry by breaking up,I see it as sign that you're in love with her, don't let her go.
kohner10!kohner10!
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Thanks man!
matt9876matt9876
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- 2y
No problem
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