I have scrupolosiry ocd, and I fear going to Hell. Alot of it I believe comes from things I've heard other people say, but if I didn't have OCD, the fear of me going to Hell would not be with me 24/7. I have prayed and tried to reassure myself I'm saved and forgiven by God. It might work for a while, but the what ifs creep back in my mind. I have the compulsion to repent over and over at night before I go to sleep. And while I dont mind asking God to forgive me, Repenting has started feeling like a onging, neverending task instead of just a simple prayer where I tell God Im sorry and I ask Him to forgive me.
I wish I could tell you what helps. I am just now about to start ERP therapy at NOCD at the end if the month. The thing I thought helped, which was me trying to convince myself, I am saved and forgiven, I now realize may have just been another compulssion of self assurance. I realized that after listening to a Dr. from NOCD speak on youtube last night.
So if arguing with OCD won't help, what does? Well I haven't started ERP, so I don't know exactly how to deal with OCD. But what I am trying to do is just say ok OCD, I know your trying to bug me, but I'm not going to think about what you are trying to make mw think about now. I don't say those words, but thats what I'm doing. The OCD thoughts comes in my mind, but I am just trying to not argue with them anymore. Trying not to figure out if I'm a good enough person, or if I'm a bad person in some ways, or if I will go to Heaven or if I will go to Hell (I believe I will go to Heaven, but OCD makes me doubt my own beliefs) - so I just shrug my shoulders, and I'm like, I don't have all the answers I want, but I'm trying to not allow myself to figure out all the answers anymore. And it's hard, really hard, but arguing with the OCD was hard too. So I am just trying to accept that I have the OCD thoughts and just not interact with the OCD about what it's making me think.
I'm not just ignoring the OCD and getting my mind on something else. That only works temporarly. I acknowledge I had the thought, and I may respond to OCD one time in my mind, but then I stop. I don't let myself keep talking with the OCD, trying to figure everything out and make sense of my OCD, because OCD doesnt make sense. Like at night now, I only ask God to forgive me once. And when my OCD tries to make me ask a few more times, I am just not doing the compulssions, to repent again, and think about where I will go when I die, to Heaven or Hell.
I hope this helps, and I encourage you to get ERP therapy for OCD. But until then you may want to Google Search Ways to deal with OCD. Go to youtube, type NOCD, and you will find the NOCD channel. They have alot of videos with information that might help.
This is how I'm dealing with OCD now at this time. I'm not telling you to do what I do, I'm just sharing what I'm doing, trying to help myself. I haven't learned enough about ERP and OCD, to know that I am doing all the right things concerning my OCD, but I think I'm dealing with it better than I used to.