Visited my boyfriend over the past weekend and my thoughts were still very much there but does anyone get more intrusive thoughts or deal with SO-OCD and feel it more prevalent before and after seeing your significant other. I’m back home and the fact that I feel like I’m lesbian is back more than ever. Wondering if anyone in a long distance relationship feels like this?
I am in a long distance relationship and can relate for sure. Struggle with so-ocd and rocd as well and it’s tough. Specially being in a long distant relationship. Not alone
@Anonymous415 I’m sorry you are dealing with the same thing :(
Hello! I’m in a long distance relationship and I’ve never related more. We are going to be ok.
@Veronicaa Thanks for the optimism!! i appreciate it. Do your symptoms every get worse right before seeing your boyfriend and right after??
@Mamba24 This happens to me- it’s very normal for our brains and OCD to come up with all sorts of expectations and meanings as to what the upcoming visit will be like and what it “means” for our sexuality/relationship. It’s okay for these thoughts to be here. It’s critically important to continue making decisions that make you happy in the moment and go towards our values. Do all of the things that make you anxious and sit with it- this allows us to show our brains that it isn’t dangerous!
Yup
@Anonymous It’s funny because that was all the thought I was going to give this but yeah, this definitely happens. Stuff like “what if now that I’m gonna finally see him I don’t enjoy it enough” or “well that weekend wasn’t as great as I wanted…should we break up?”
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
So I identify as a lesbian and I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful girl. But i’m stressing that I have crushes on boys I go to school with. I get anxious around them, which I think I mistake for excitement. I obsess over it in my head which confuses me a lot. Idk I also never think about them sexually or romantically but I think about them often which is scaring me. Any advice?
I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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