How do you live with these thoughts without the fear of actually being in denial and having to leave your relationship. I don’t have any sexual attraction to a guy but my brain and thoughts put that in my mind. Soocd sucks.. any advice? Tired of these thoughts and feeling like I’m lying to myself. Diagnosed with ocd as well btw
This is very very common in OCD. OCD is all about doubt. It inserts doubt all the time, especially about things that we care about. It makes sense that it would latch onto the people we care for the most. Know that this is what OCD does. Have you done ERP yet? The key really is allowing the feelings of distress and living your life. Take it day by day- don't try and figure out the future- today I choose to_ and even if I doubt, even if it feels uncertain, I will live my life towards what I value. You can do this.
@NOCD Therapist - Stacy Q. Stacy are you still booked? I tried to request you when I first started but you where all booked up.
Hey!! I’m a girl with ocd like that and i always use a statement that’s true and I like to repeat it in my head “these are fears things i am afraid of they are the opposite of what I want” because it’s true. Those are unwanted thoughts and they are fears that’s all they are. When you have those thoughts remember they are the opposite of how you actually feel.
@No name11 Has that statement helped you
@Anonymous415 So much you have no idea because it’s the truth. These intrusive thoughts bother you so much because you want the opposite. Intrusive thoughts are lies they aren’t what you actually want. And trust me i’ve gotten to rock bottom with questioning my sexuallity in every way possible but i’ve overcame it because it’s not true now all those weird sensations and checking to see if i’m attracted to someone went away proving it was all just a fear.
@No name11 Did it feel real for you as well
@Anonymous415 yes i got sexual sensations that felt real or i would check past memories and think they were proof i’m gay or anything like that i would look at people in public to check if i’m attracted to them or even freak out around my friends but it’s just all fake and once your able to keep telling yourself it’s all a lie it will all start to fade.
@No name11 Great analogy!!
Because OCD doesn’t control me, I do. Thoughts aren’t facts and I don’t need to pay any attention to my thoughts if I don’t want to. I have personal agency and I decide how to go about my life. Not my OCD, not ANY of my mental illnesses.
@Nica Powerful!!!
I have the exact thoughts.
I’m there too. Starting my first sessions today. Something I’ve lived with for 10 years now, and am finally getting real help for. Opening up to your loved ones about it is scary; I expected the worst but they’ve been supportive. However, get real help and do the work - over sharing and continual confessing will only start to put a divide between you and them. I’m learning that now, and now that’s become another theme in my OCD and anxiety. Hope you can start your recovery and wishing the best for you!
Hi! Anyone dealing with SO OCD and have a partner? I am having the hardest time with this. The thoughts and feelings feel so real and scary but there’s moments where I have felt love and attraction for my boyfriend, but right now it feels so hard to believe that was true.
Not officially diagnosed with OCD, but will I ever get over this or is it just a part of my life now. Have been constantly having thoughts every single day for almost a year it feels like. There has barely been times where I’m not thinking “I’m gay” or having it in the back of my mind. This just brings extreme guilt as I’m in a relationship. Not sure what to do. Everything from my past is proof. This morning I was just bombarded with “ I’m gay” “im gay”
My intrusive thoughts with my SO OCD have been flaring up horribly for the past couple weeks, I think due to stress. Today has been especially bad. I’ve been experiencing false attractions with every woman I’ve been seeing today and it’s making me feel so gross that I feel anxious and sick to my stomach and that I’m going to cry. I cannot shake all the feelings in the body that make it FEEL like I’m « attracted » to them even though I know deep down it’s all fake!! I don’t know if I’m dealing with it right. I’m trying my best to just ignore the thought but the minute it stops, my ocd convinces me that I am in denial because I was able to stop and then I can’t stop thinking about that this confirms im in denial and I freak out and the process starts all over again. I don’t know if I should respond to the thought or ignore it or if what I’m doing is denial or really SO OCD. I have been ruminating on it so much the past couple weeks and it’s starting to take a turn to where I don’t remember anything except my intrusive thoughts and feelings and I am having a hard time getting things done at work and showing up to things and being fully present. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and I just want it to stop. If i was bi or gay or whatever, that’s fine!! I don’t care. But the thought of being with a woman when the fake attraction I feels makes me want to vomit makes me feel dread at the idea of dating a woman. Im currently dating a wonderful man who is a great fit for me and makes me incredibly happy. It feels like if im in denial and my intrusive thoughts are right, i will have to break up with him and that thought alone destroys me. I could go on about how I have only liked, loved and been attracted to men my entire life and have never wanted to be with a woman in any other way besides a friend but I feel like that will just make my anxiety worse. I have been dealing with SO OCD on and off since puberty but it got incredibly more severe the past couple years. Does anyone have any constructive advice about how to deal with the rumination? Should I ignore it? Should I sit with it and accept the fact that it might be true? Anything would help thank you!!
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