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Christians with ROCD?
Are their any Christian’s with ROCD who would want to talk to me? It’s kinda an issue specific to that
Are their any Christian’s with ROCD who would want to talk to me? It’s kinda an issue specific to that
For me, one of the things that has helped with my ROCD is recognizing what thoughts are false. I remind myself of what is true about my husband and what I feel for him, and God’s plan for marriage. Those are my weapons to use when unwanted thoughts and “what if” questions come my way. Sometimes, unwanted feelings show up too. I remember that feelings follow thoughts. I then pinpoint, “Well, what thoughts was I struggling with?” “What was the ‘what if?’ question that was hanging around?” The feelings of anxiousness or anything else is based off those thoughts, and not reflective of my true feelings toward my husband. One place ROCD comes from is the fear of something wrong in the relationship. You can thank your brain for trying to help, and finish with, “But no thanks.” Continue to surround yourself with the counsel of wise friends. Check out the wisdom of those Christians who are married. Doesn’t matter if you both are just dating. Thise that are married have been in this stage of relationship you both are in, and therefore might be able to answer your questions. There’s a lot of great podcasts out there of married Christians. Google will show you the way. 😉 Most of all, remember the most important weapon, the Word. See how it can lay to rest those feeling and thoughts that plague you. And take it all to the LORD in prayer! He is our author and our Father. HOW MUCH He cares for you. How much He longs for you to not struggle with this on your own (whew, I needed to hear that myself). Praying for you friend! 🙏🏻
The relationship that you were experiencing ROCD in, was it the one you're in now? Did you marry the partner you experienced ROCD with?
@MurphChicken That’s good and one thing I haven’t done is talk to people who are already married. I’ll do that. What’s really messing with me is that I found out that my gf went through a patch in her life where she was having a lot of back-to-back relationships with guys and doing things she said she’s not proud of (not sex she said but she didn’t really go into detail) and it’s eating me alive. She’s absolutely incredible now and it’s not at all who she is now but I can’t get those images of her with other guys out of my head. And my heart constantly hurts now. Why can’t I just forget about it!! Why can’t I just not care?? Gods forgiven her completely so why I can’t let it go
@Sunshineflowers7 This is my first experience with ROCD. It didn’t come about until recently. I’ve been married to my husband for 3 years now.
I definitely hear you on this. I’m so sorry your heart hurts. 😞 It’s so awesome how you see the work God has done in her, and that YES He’s forgiven her! 🙌🏻 It’s hard to let go because your OCD has latched on to it. Because she is someone you care about. What if you prayed for God to give you eyes to see her as He sees her? And for Him to help you focus on the future? Personally, I’m working on overcoming some trust issues in my marriage. I feel like God has highlighted the qualities in my husband that are reflective of Him. Seeing my husband’s pursuit of God’s character, to be the man God has called him to be, has helped me to move forward and not focus on what happened in the past. It’s helped us to be on the road of healing. I know you’re not necessarily struggling with trusting her, that it’s more of not being able to shake the images. But maybe by focusing on who she is now and how she is continuing to be the woman God has called her to be, it’ll help push those images out. I supposed the ERP thing to do would be when those images come, acknowledge them and say, “Yep. That’s who she was. Thank Jesus that’s NOT who she is now.” Give yourself grace just as God does to you. This will all take time. Again, praying for you friend. 🙏🏻 Also, sorry for writing small novels. 🤦🏼♀️😅 But hope this helps!
@MurphChicken The small novels are more helpful then you realize. Thank you, there’s not really anybody I’ve found who can empathize so you’re really helping. Also I don’t really wanna talk to anyone who I know because this is her thing and not for me to share with others who would know her. That’s a good thing to pray for, i never thought to ask for that. I hope it gets better with time cause this sucks so much but I would never wanna break up with her, Im so in love with who she is now it’s almost annoying hahaha. And so I want to work through anything because I can’t stand the idea of us not being together. But dang this is really proving hard to work past. I’m sure I can it’s just gonna suck for a while. But I will definitely be praying for what you said and Thank you for praying for me/us. I’m really glad God had you see and comment on this. It’s really helped a lot
We should start a chat group for Christians with ROCD! ✝️🙏❤
@Sunshineflowers7 We absolutely should. What platform do you think we should use?
@itsbgb Facebook? I don't have any other social media accounts
@itsbgb I love hearing how special she is to you and your love for her! 🥰 It is going to be tough. 😞 But it won’t be you powering through this on your own. As you keep praying about this, it’s God’s strength and His power that will get you through this. Maybe you could start praising Him now for what He’s going to do? “Thank you LORD for the work You’re doing in me. Thank you for what You’re doing for us!” I will absolutely keep praying for you both! Cheering you both on! 🎉❤️
Hey everyone I just created a Facebook group for Christian’s with ROCD! Here’s the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1565986067230081/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF
I’m not a Christian anymore due to the abuse I received but I was and am willing to talk to you. I’m spiritual now;)
Christian with ROCD here. Can’t guarantee that I’ll have the words to help, but I can definitely listen and agree with you in prayer. Also, check out https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-for-anxiety-and-ocd/id1541042680?i=1000599737469 It’s a Christian based podcast. This episode in particular deals with ROCD. Might be helpful. ❤️
@MurphChicken Hey. I’m struggling in my relationship with my gf. Idk if you have any advice but maybe you do?
I'm a born again believer in Jesus Christ and I was never formally diagnosed but I think what I've been experiencing is ROCD.
Yeah that sounds good. That or GroupMe
I dont know group me
@Sunshineflowers7 Ok then I would definitely be on board for a Facebook group
@Sunshineflowers7 Do you wanna start it?
@itsbgb I currently don’t have Facebook right now, although I do have Messenger. @Sunshineflowers7 if you start it, let us know. 😊 I’ve seen different people on NOCD wanted to start group chats like this. Maybe NOCD will notice and make it a feature on here some day. 🤔
Please help anyone else here with Religious ocd and is a Christian? My brain is going hay-wire and want to know I'm not alone... what do your thoughts say and how do you overcome compulsions? Im going through a rough moment and feel sick with anxiety and stiff. I want to obey God but my thoughts won't stop. I surrender to the Lord and then I have peace with the compulsions and they go away but the thoughts are the scary part please - is this spiritual or is it mental? Or is it both? Would love to hear a Christians opinion on this... because my thoughts latch on and won't dissappear but I know that the Bible commands us to take control of our thoughts and to renew our minds...yet God has grace for this and mercy for our every need... I know God is in control (completely) and my mind creates a lot of the issues for me without any spiritual stuff (it's a very powerful thing) but it's still scary. Lord help me, I surrender myself to you Jesus, counsel my soul and help me.
Hey guys, just responded to a post about someone having their ROCD struggles and thought I might share in other groups as well in case it helps. While not everyone has ROCD, maybe some of my message can help others with this battle if it’s not something you guys already know. Maybe some of you guys can add your own thoughts as well. I’d encourage you guys to read my message even if you don’t share the Christian faith as I do. I encourage you guys further to read the Bible yourselves (what does it even say, anyway?). I’m only just a newbie to it, too, but it has helped a lot. The context: This is a response to someone who’s having guilt about their thoughts, partly because it goes against their faith. Anyway, here it goes: I can empathize and relate, especially when faith starts being thrown into the intrusive thought loop. My suggestion is to live your life according to your faith and your values, not your thoughts or feelings. Previously you might have used your thoughts and feelings to guide you as a compass, but try making God and His teachings your compass instead. Read the Bible, heck read it with your partner- that might help with feeling connected with him. Live your life according to your morals, not the world as “the heart is deceitful” (Jeremiah, 17:9) and the world has a way of demonizing certain relationship struggles (“you should be attracted to your partner”, “you shouldn’t question your relationship”, “you should have the same interests as your partner”, “you shouldn’t feel abc because it means xyz”). Make yourself a list for all the things you like about your partner, continually add/review them, and you will relearn to feel the feeling of appreciating them. What qualities about your relationship/partner have you enjoyed/make you stay? Love and loving relationships are built, not found. Notice how the reasons why you “don’t love” or “shouldn’t be with your partner” go against what God would want for you and are shallow lies from the world disguised as truths. Challenge these beliefs you’ve heard/held about relationships that are sabotaging yours. Have you considered maybe God wants you to stay with a loving partner who is good to you and cares for you? (assuming your bf is.) And lastly, find a therapist who SPECIALIZES in ocd. I’ve tried therapists who didn’t know what it was and not only were they unable to support me in the way I needed it but they kept unknowingly feeding my doubts. You are not a bad person or bad partner for having these thoughts. If you have not physically acted on your distressing thoughts, this is an extremely good sign. The fact that you know it’s wrong is a very good thing. Keep trying, even if you lose hope. Best of luck
In order to continue treatment, I need to find a therapist who shares in the Christian faith and is also a believer, please put me in contact with someone like this. Thank you.
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