Please any advice!!!

Is this why people say talk therapy isn’t helpful for people with ocd?? I haven’t been able to get the help I actually need so I’m self diagnosed but I go to talk therapy I’m just obviously unable to talk about my intrusive thoughts because they involve being a p***. My intrusive thoughts haven’t flared up and I’ve actually been feeling good for about two weeks but my therapist knows I’m dealing with intrusive thoughts but I don’t want to open up about them. The only thing I tell him is I’m scared of being a bad person who does awful things and he said something in between the lines of “what if only you think it’s bad but it really isn’t” and that sort of triggered me because he doesn’t get it my thoughts are awful but it’s difficult to even talk about it when I could possibly be reported if he didn’t understand.

Username: Eric23Eric23

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Many therapists don’t understand OCD so it’s important to find a therapist who does. Many of my therapists would just provide reassurance about my intrusive thoughts, which as we know feels good in the moment but isn’t helpful in the long run. “That doesn’t seem likely, you don’t have to worry about that.” I heard that a lot.

Username: Jtsuz145Jtsuz145

Date posted: 1y ago

@Eric R I noticed that I was looking for reassurance today as well. I basically told him “I don’t think a bad person would be worried about being a bad person” expecting him to agree but he said it was subjective.

Username: ada110ada110

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I'd be really cautious with this one, they may well just offer reassurance or try and get you to analyse whether the thoughts are true or not which isn't going to help. It sounds like you know it's OCD you're dealing with - maybe be bold and ask your therapist if they have any experience with OCD and if they can tell you how it should be treated. At the end of the day you need to find the right fit for you, maybe that therapist was good for another time in your life but not now. If they're professional they should know that and be honest about what they can and can't support with. The truth is, you need someone who knows about OCD and a therapist who doesn't could be a damaging experience. An OCD therapist has heard it all before! Also a reminder that you are not your thoughts, they feel awful but the goal is to change how you respond to them - they're just annoying background noise that has no value or meaning, and they don't mean that you're a bad person.

Username: Christiansg2_3Christiansg2_3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

When I went to cognitive therapy, they would specifically tell me to challenge the thoughts or to replace them with thoughts that were good. In reality, this is the opposite of what I needed to do.

Username: Jtsuz145Jtsuz145

Date posted: 1y ago

@Christiansg2_3 I was told this as well and to basically distract myself.

Username: Will86Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I do talk therapy and have an ERP therapist. Have done talk therapy for years. I tell my therapist all kinds of stuff I don't hold back. You should find someone you trust. Also the rules for reporting aint as loose as "I had a unpleasant/unwanted thought" and you cuffs or a padded cell. I think it'll also benefit to discuss and/or read your privacy policy and patient rights. :) it should help with a lot of your worries. Especially since you won't get full benefits by playing dancing around topics games with them.

Username: Jtsuz145Jtsuz145

Date posted: 1y ago

@Will86 Yes basically the patient rights are you’ll get reported if you have plans on hurting yourself or others but I get worried that if I tell him what I’m going through he’ll misinterpret it as me actually being a p***. I have heard that there have been instances where people with undiagnosed ocd have been misdiagnosed as a p***

Username: Will86Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

@gt123 So your rights say that it has to be an immediate threat to oneself or others. Having distressing (ocd thoughts are distressing) does not and will not equal out to paraphillia. Paraphilla isn't typically even diagnosed until it causes harm to another person which thoughts alone cannot do however I do see others suggest finding someone who has ocd experience and I can lean into that idea but just from talking to people openly I can tell you everyone has experience in uncomfortable or even taboo thoughts.

Username: MarioooooMariooooo

Date posted: 1y ago

that doctor was kinda dumb, ill just say that

Username: Will86Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Interesting cause what I read is the therapist attempt to get the person to open up about a topic they are only hinting about. Challenging perception is the basis for almost all modalities of therapy.

Username: Wildcat14

Date posted: 5y ago

So I’ve had some anxiety crop up related to POCD this week. Intrusive thoughts, etc. it’s happened once before but I wasn’t educated on OCD then or seeing my therapist so I’ve never talked about it. I’m terrified to tell my therapist because I’m terrified of being reported. I’ve never done anything harmful or even WANTED to do anything harmful. I am NOT a danger and I know it! I just want help dealing with the thoughts but am scared to share in therapy. Anyone else experience this?

POCD

Username: pluto

Date posted: 5y ago

Talking to a therapist about pocd. So I'm not actually diagnosed with OCD officially but we've talked about it I'm not sure I have typical compulsions though which is why maybe they didn't give me the diagnosis? But I have the obsessions. I've talked about harm fears but although I've said I'm afraid of doing something to children I've not been able to come out and say my fear about pocd. Any advice?

Username: Celi

Date posted: 2y ago

Advice For Someone Undiagnosed

i'm sorry in advance for how long this post is and if it's to much information. i'm undiagnosed but have been struggling with compulsions and intrusive thoughts since i was 7 or 8. My worst intrusive thoughts theme has been about p*d*phil*s. I've been dealing with it since my freshman and sophomore year but these thoughts didn't become debilitating until June of last year. I had a panic attack and confessed to my parents about these intrusive thoughts. They were obviously shocked and share. I felt so ashamed and like a monster. After talking with my dad he said we would see a therapist about it. Sadly we never did the first appointment we were late and missed are spot and the second appointment i sprained my ankle the night before so instead i was in the hospital. After that i closed myself off i tried dealing with them on my own using sources like NOCD and stuff. I did try to bring up going to therapy to my parents. Every time they would ask me if the intrusive thoughts were back and I would lie saying "no i just would like to go to therapy" I was so scared they'd be afraid of me and stop loving me, especially my mom. Eventually after awhile my parents forgot about it and I tried ignoring these intrusive thoughts because I was so focused and stressed from school. I decided I could just wait till I turn 18 and schedule myself into therapy. recently though my intrusive thoughts have gotten worse. I recently had a convo with one of my friends who has intrusive thoughts as well and she's encouraging me to talk to my parents. I'm asking y'all what should I do. As much as I'm scared I want to get help because I'm sick of living and feeling like i'm day away from acting on my intrusive thoughts.

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