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Yes. Mental compulsions can be soooo tricky. They are very automatic and we allow them. For example, the fact that you are occasionally checking if your attraction is back is a tiny covert compulsion. They are so tiny and seem so harmless that we don't realize they are hindering our progress. For example, I am in this 4 day challenge with zero compulsions and I just realize how much I would engage in covert compulsions. The right attitude is, as Phillipson says: Irrelevance(Just the way it was before we got into this obsession). An attitude of: Who cares? ---- OCD: You don't have your attraction back!!!! YOU: ???? What? Attraction? What's that? I don't care - I am still gonna enjoy this show watching these beautiful women.
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I feel like I've had the back door spike for months to! Can I ask, do you think we do compulsions with out even realising it? Like does it become a habbit? My anxiety is no where near as bad as it once was, but my naturally attraction hasn't come back? Just as I feel like I'm improving, I go back to the beginning.
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Sorry to hear that. If that's the case most likely you are doing tiny covert mental compulsions. When you completely disregard the spike won't last longer than a couple of hours. At least that has been my experience with both approaches.
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Checking and thought erasure are two of my main compulsions but I don't know how to stop them. I do them almost automatically and I do them even more now cause I no anxiety and I can think about them without having a reaction which is what makes them feel even realer. I'm starting to become hopeless. I'm not getting many intrusive thoughts but I still obsess about it 24/7
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Have you tried some mindfulness exercises like meditation?
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I feel the same, like for example I could be driving down the road, is see someone of the same sex, I'd naturally look at them, doesn't matter they are attractive or not, I just look and notice them all the time! Then I question why I notice them all the time, and because my natural attraction to women hasn't come back, I question that, I guess because there's no anxiety, it makes me wonder even more! I do get intrusive thoughts now and then, but I shrug them off now!
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Wanting your identity back is likely causing your distress, I think.
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I guess. I haven't stopped doing compulsions but I don't know how to. I don't even know what's supposed to happen after a backdoor spike. Does the anxiety raise up, does it go into remission? It's all a blur
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Yes, but I don't know how to do them properly. They calm but I don't know how are they supposed to help me with the rumination. I've tried to detach myself, but I guess it's because I haven't figured out how to them properly yet
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It sounds like you are in the last stages of recovery, like me, which can be tricky because of these quick covert compulsions. In my case, starting a mindfulness practice in Zen as helped a lot.
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@FernandoV being in the last stages of recovery sounds like a dream. But I don't feel like it, kinda. Like the rumination is strong but I'm trying to fight it. And it still feels real tho I get moments when I'm like "this is bull" and then I don't know what's real anymore. I can deal with uncertainty but I just want my identity back. I'm going to therapy so I guess things will look up soon
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@rile20 do you still think about it or do you feel like it just when triggered?
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That, definitely
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@notfortalk I do still think about, some days are better than others, I still get triggers over certain situations as well, yet again some days better than others. But like Fernando said, I may be doing compulsions with out even realising, and I really think that's what I'm doing! You sound like your at the same level at me? With hocd I've noticed it goes through different stages.
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Yeah it does, but it's confusing. I still haven't gotten my attraction back and still get the images and they very real. I've tried to look and look at different stages of ocd but to be honest I don't know where to place myself. I still do some compulsions and I truly have no idea how to stop them
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I haven't either, i believe that's what's holding me back, I feel a bit better today, and yesterday, but then it changes! I think trying to stop them will almost make you do them even more, because your being thinking about it! I think it will happen naturally? I'm not sure. I just hope that slowly it all goes back to normal, and we will look back and go what the hell?
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