- Username
- Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Rocd
Can anyone either private message me about this. I really need advice and I feel so defeated
Can anyone either private message me about this. I really need advice and I feel so defeated
So I experienced this big time as soon as I made it official with my man. I had a lot doubts. Do I actually like him? Do I really want to be with him? I felt so ambivalent for a while, despite feeling perfectly fine prior to taking things serious. For me, I realized in past flings I was so mistreated that now that I was receiving normalcy and the right type of love and treatment, I didn’t know how to react to it and almost wanted to push it away because I was used to toxicity. What I did is I told myself to just take things day by day, and that soon enough, it would work out and it did.
@BlueGlasses I’ve been mistreated a lot and he treats me like a princess. I don’t wanna mess it up. But I feel numb and sick to my stomach can rocd make you feel that way ?
@Rachel2727 Absolutely. I feel the same anxiety as you do. I am with the man of my dreams and I’m so scared of screwing things up that it makes me physically ill. I don’t always have that anxiety. Sometimes you have to learn to live in the moment. It helps.
@BlueGlasses Thank you !!
Thanks for sharing. So yes what you're describing definitely sounds like ROCD. At its worst, any OCD obsessions can make you feel like rock bottom, whatever that looks like for you. ROCD also doesn't usually come into play when you're not in a relationship but of course when you are, it can spike. I would recommend not doing anything in the relationship that you may regret until you're sure of what you're feeling and want to do. Talk to your bf if you can and ensure he understands what's going on. If you can't then I understand but hopefully you can talk to someone. If you are working with a therapist you will likely look into creating exposures related to this situation. Best wishes and let me know if anything else. Also looking online is not always the best since it can be a compulsion in itself, especially as you describe it
@SamL I have talked to my boyfriend about it. He’s very supportive. I just don’t wanna ruin it. I’ve been very open about it
@Rachel2727 I know the sharing part is tough but the more your partner understands, the better they will hopefully be able to support you. Our OCD plays on the fear that something bad will happen if we discuss it because it doesn't want us to...
@SamL Thank you !!!
Thank you so much guys !! I really appreciate it
What's going on Rachel? Happy to provide any advice I can :)
@SamL I think it’s rocd but I just have questions. Like can it make you sick to your stomach? Can you have rocd in the beginning of a relationship? Can it make you numb? I just need answers because I don’t wanna break up with my bf. I keep going back and forth because when we’re not together I miss him and I’m like I love him but when we’re together my head has all these doubts and I’m stressed
@SamL I keep looking for answers but nothing is satisfying me
@Rachel2727 Everything you described is me. I wake up feeling sick to my stomach. I instantly start overthinking. & yess now I am at a point where I am completely numb. We got an a disagreement & I felt blahhh. I can’t get sad or happy or anything. I even tries testing my feelings with a sad. & I mean sad insta video & I literally felt nothing
@Monii0294 I’m sorry you’re going through it ! I hope it gets better for you
anyone wanna share any things on rocd that they have went through. i’m struggling hard now
if you see this and you have any positive stories dealing with rocd please could you respond to this, i’m feeling so completely hopeless and confused
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