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- Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Rocd
Can anyone either private message me about this. I really need advice and I feel so defeated
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- BlueGlassesBlueGlasses
- Date posted
- 1y ago
So I experienced this big time as soon as I made it official with my man. I had a lot doubts. Do I actually like him? Do I really want to be with him? I felt so ambivalent for a while, despite feeling perfectly fine prior to taking things serious. For me, I realized in past flings I was so mistreated that now that I was receiving normalcy and the right type of love and treatment, I didn’t know how to react to it and almost wanted to push it away because I was used to toxicity. What I did is I told myself to just take things day by day, and that soon enough, it would work out and it did.
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@BlueGlasses I’ve been mistreated a lot and he treats me like a princess. I don’t wanna mess it up. But I feel numb and sick to my stomach can rocd make you feel that way ?
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- BlueGlassesBlueGlasses
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Rachel2727 Absolutely. I feel the same anxiety as you do. I am with the man of my dreams and I’m so scared of screwing things up that it makes me physically ill. I don’t always have that anxiety. Sometimes you have to learn to live in the moment. It helps.
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@BlueGlasses Thank you !!
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- SamLSamL
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Thanks for sharing. So yes what you're describing definitely sounds like ROCD. At its worst, any OCD obsessions can make you feel like rock bottom, whatever that looks like for you. ROCD also doesn't usually come into play when you're not in a relationship but of course when you are, it can spike. I would recommend not doing anything in the relationship that you may regret until you're sure of what you're feeling and want to do. Talk to your bf if you can and ensure he understands what's going on. If you can't then I understand but hopefully you can talk to someone. If you are working with a therapist you will likely look into creating exposures related to this situation. Best wishes and let me know if anything else. Also looking online is not always the best since it can be a compulsion in itself, especially as you describe it
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@SamL I have talked to my boyfriend about it. He’s very supportive. I just don’t wanna ruin it. I’ve been very open about it
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- SamLSamL
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Rachel2727 I know the sharing part is tough but the more your partner understands, the better they will hopefully be able to support you. Our OCD plays on the fear that something bad will happen if we discuss it because it doesn't want us to...
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@SamL Thank you !!!
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Thank you so much guys !! I really appreciate it
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- SamLSamL
- Date posted
- 1y ago
What's going on Rachel? Happy to provide any advice I can :)
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@SamL I think it’s rocd but I just have questions. Like can it make you sick to your stomach? Can you have rocd in the beginning of a relationship? Can it make you numb? I just need answers because I don’t wanna break up with my bf. I keep going back and forth because when we’re not together I miss him and I’m like I love him but when we’re together my head has all these doubts and I’m stressed
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@SamL I keep looking for answers but nothing is satisfying me
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- Ariesgirl94Ariesgirl94
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Rachel2727 Everything you described is me. I wake up feeling sick to my stomach. I instantly start overthinking. & yess now I am at a point where I am completely numb. We got an a disagreement & I felt blahhh. I can’t get sad or happy or anything. I even tries testing my feelings with a sad. & I mean sad insta video & I literally felt nothing
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- Rachel2727Rachel2727
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Monii0294 I’m sorry you’re going through it ! I hope it gets better for you
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- giuseppe
- Date posted
- 23w ago
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- monthofmaiya
- Date posted
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Rocd even while in a healthy relationship
Hey y’all this is my first post. I’ve known I’ve had ocd for around 6 years now, but haven’t had much specialized help (just a standard therapist, who is great, she suggested this app) I’m mainly just posting to vent and for people to hopefully make me feel a little less alone in my current situation. I’ve developed coping skills for many of my ocd obsessions in the past, but haven’t really made a dent in what I’m realizing is pretty bad ROCD. I was in an abusive relationship for about 4 years, and it was this weird thing where like I would not only be unhappy from the abuse but also have intense ROCD. Which is relevant, because I’m now in a super happy and healthy relationship, but am unfortunately still experiencing ROCD. And of COURSE that makes my brain feel either like love is just never going to work out for me, or that this new relationship is wrong for me, which I know isn’t the case. But it’s just so exhausting feeling like I have this horrible brain fog around my partner half the time. I never felt like this when my partner and I were just best friends for 6 months, and all that’s changed is that she is even sweeter and more attentive to me. This just all sucks so bad, and I think I should talk to a specialist about it.
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- Crystalv18
- Date posted
- 20w ago
Rocd
I have this constant feeling of needing 100 percent certainty in my relationship of being wanted physically and sexually by him. Plus also reassurance of if he still loves me.. it’s a loop!!!
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