Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
Rocd
You guys I’m having an episode .. but I don’t need reassurance I just need advice
mtkenumbmtkenumb
- Date posted
- 2y
I don’t think that’s weird at all, it’s just an intrusive thought you’ve come up with. She’s your friend and you expect her to be there for you when you need. You dissociating from your partner is a temporary feeling that your mind has convinced you of because you didn’t get the reassurance you needed in that moment. You will eventually work through it and feel love for your partner again. You have every right to feel like you want a friends attention because they’d probably feel the same if in the situation. Don’t let the anxiety get to you, you’re just trying to figure things out. Our mind is our greatest enemy and sometimes we just have to let the thoughts pass, without hurting us.
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
@mtkenumb It sucks because now I’m asking myself if I even love my partner because for those 2 days I was kind of ignoring him because I was anxious waiting and focusing on her answering me
mtkenumbmtkenumb
- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch I went through a phase of questioning if I loved my partner as well. I had to seek reassurance from them every day and “convince” myself. Your feelings are stronger than thoughts, if you don’t want to be with them you’d definitely be gone by now. Be patient with yourself, and don’t be so harsh. We are all humans, life is about learning and growing.
Leo1000Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
@mtkenumb Exactly I don’t even want to tel him anything anymore because deep down I know I do love him . Love is a choice not a feeling
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
That’s what eveyone tells me , if I didn’t love him I wouldn’t feel bad for breaking up.
mtkenumbmtkenumb
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- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch yes, you’re not going to always feel the “love” with your partner. the whole point of being with someone is learning more about them each day, that could take a life time. You can’t expect to always feel the same way about them, but as long as you know you want to be with them and grow mentally, and emotionally that’s all that matters! Don’t even tell them you’ve been feeling that way because it’s just your thoughts distracting you
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
@mtkenumb YESS ! Also this is tmi but I haven’t been feeling like having sex is that normal ?
mtkenumbmtkenumb
- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch Yes, when you worry about something sex is probably the last thing on your mind. Heck some relationships aren’t as sexual as others. Me and my partner haven’t had sex and we’ve been together for almost a year. I know i love them and they for sure love me because they tell me/show me it every day. You’ll eventually get back into the feeling of being sexual once your mind has calmed down. Don’t give yourself a certain period of when you’re hoping to feel better. These things take time, patience is the key!
Leo1000Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
@mtkenumb I feel like shit tho because sometimes I’m like fuck it I do want to have sex , but I just be overthinking and it’s not peaceful ! At all :( I wish I was normal lol
mtkenumbmtkenumb
- Date posted
- 2y
@1234ocdisabitch 1. You are extremely normal, some of us just have crazy thoughts and that’s okay. As long as we don’t act on them!! This is just a temporary stage in our life, and honestly you should see it as a way of the universe challenging you. Once you’ve completed it you will be so so happy and enjoy life a lot more. The challenge won’t last long if you’re patient and take time for yourself. 2. Sex is nice but i’m sure your partner enjoys having you around as much as they would sex. Appreciate them and just wait until you’re ready to be intimate again!
IamtheonewhooverthinksIamtheonewho...
- Date posted
- 2y
Well this post helped me Lolol.. just the advice comments ! When we get in our heads you are right ! It’s all just temporary.. we eventually get back to our normal selves when it subsides .. something we need to keep reminding ourselves ..
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
@Anonymous Yess !! I’m glad this helped
mtkenumbmtkenumb
- Date posted
- 2y
what advice do you need?
Leo1000Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
Okay so 2 days ago my friend was taking forever to answer , and I hate when people take long to answer a message her phone was on dnd but she just needed free time for herself which is absolutely good !! But the thing is I kept having anxiety because I wanted her to answer me because I needed advice and reassurance about my realtionship . So I didn’t even focus on my relationship for those 2 days and I dissociated and now I feel disconnected from my partner ? And now I’m thinking oh what if I’m lesbian because I was obssesing over the fact that she wasn’t answering just the same way I do with my boyfriend when he takes long to answer back
Leo1000Leo1000
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- 2y
And now all I can think of is my friend .. which is fuken weird to me
Leo1000Leo1000
- Date posted
- 2y
It’s like I’m more focused on her which I don’t want that it’s weird
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