Intrusive thought: “Is my bf a serial killer?!”

Hey, good for you, having the thoughts and doing it anyway! Since you asked for tips, I love Shala Nicely's idea of talking back to my OCD. Now, instead of when my brain is asking for reassurance, as to why this specific thing won't happen, I say to myself, sometimes out loud :), "nope, not going there, OCD is not taking this away from me, whatever!" then I jump into action, either doing what I want to do or setting the stage for that activity. Enjoy your trip, and the time with your boyfriend!

I just need to say that your post made me feel like I’m not alone. For years I’ve been struggling with similar intrusive thoughts that men like my brother, my husband and dad are secretly trying to harm my children. This has made me suffer and struggle for years as a mom. I always thought most people who struggled with intrusive thoughts had to do with them doing harm to others, but never loved ones turning out to be “evil” people. My thought process is very similar to yours. How many wife’s had no idea their husbands were doing these harmful scary things… For years, what worked for me was putting my phone down because I would do research, notice the thought and say to myself “ok, let’s stop right here”, meaning I would give the thought no importance and I would not engage in ruminating.