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That’s horrible! I’m so sorry this happened to you. Remember it’s okay to cry. It might actually make you feel better. I hope you’ll be able to have that good relationship with him again, but take one day at a time. Right now, you’re in a safe place❤️❤️
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My God what happened to you was really awful and hard to endure. You are such a warrior. I agree with what they've told you: family is part of the therapy. Your dad could join you when you attend therapy. It's important to educate our loved ones, this disease is difficult to graps for those who don't suffer from it directly
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Awww bless u my love. I feel so sad 4 u. I wud feel bad about my situation. My dad has schizophrenia. But he is ever do kind to us all. Never ever violent. When I was little my older brother was abusive. We stopped talking n that kept the peace. Just stop talking 2 ur dad 2 protect urself. It's good the police were called. U need 2 b safe hun. If u like we can talk over email. I have a lifetime experience of OCD. My OCD was sooooo bad. Now I can go swimming something I thought I cud never do due to contamination fears. N also a dog 2. Albeit against my will. But I love her so much. Also hun I think their is a link with OCD and schizophrenia. U need 2 be in a low stress environment. Keep a humble quiet life. Sometimes that's the only way. Trust me I tried going 4 a career, uni n job n all. But never worked out. We r homebodies. Thankfully with the internet we can do things from home. I love 2 listen and create ASMR vids on youtube. Maybe we can play online gaming 2gether. I have agoraphobic phases where I'm 2 paranoid n scared 2 go out. So wud b nice 2 have an online freind. What kinda games u like? I love all sorts like car race, ping pong and monopoly.
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Hi... Be quite as you can... Do you met a psychologist for your ocd? Have your father ever came with you? If not yet, it's necessary that he will meet your psychologist... The family is also a part of the therapy. And maybe it's also a good moment for your father to realize what he did... Good luck
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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Page 11 & 12 of this guide has some helpful tips for family members to help them understand ocd. Sending the very best your way. https://www.ktph.com.sg/uploads/1493878296A%20Handbook%20for%20Caregivers%20on%20OCD.pdf
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Hello, sorry for the late reply to all of you, I went to bed after posting this. My dad's been very involved with therapy actually, it's just that his anger issues never get addressed. In fact, everyone denies them he has them in the first place and says it is all because of my OCD that he does this. And I know living with someone as severe as me is hard but at the same time... I almost feel blamed for being beaten honestly... because I have a disorder which I can't seem to get a grasp of. I've tried ERP on my own but never had a specialist guide me as they are either not available in the area or too expensive with online stuff as I don't have an income right now. The crisis service is the only help I get but they do not do ERP with me. I'm honestly so stressed being in another house right now, needing to use a different toilet (I have avoided it for 2 years), all of that... I just can't. I can't seem to sleep much either, I keep having nightmares of what happened, I wanna go home but at the same time I don't. Because my dad makes me feel unsafe. It's an awful feeling and I don't know how to cope with this on top of severe OCD. Even when I have literal bruises I'm being told to stop playing the victim and understand it is because of my actions (crying, yelling out of frustrations because I am beyond stressed from doing compulsions and stopping them also stresses me so I feel trapped whenever I want and need some rest) that he hurt me. I don't know if I can forgive them. If we were not a good family prior to OCD I would've cut ties with him for sure but now I don't know what to feel or do. I just feel depressed and I wish I could sleep and never wake up in this living hell again.
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I have OCD, but my parents don’t understand what I’m going through. All I wanted was for someone to be by my side and support me, but they dismiss my struggles, telling me to "just stop thinking" and that I’m making a big deal out of nothing. When I asked for a new therapist because my current one isn’t helping—she isn’t even an OCD specialist—they became angry and didn't believe I need therapy and instead blame me for everything. My father was so mad, he insist to gave me a knife and kill myself. He threatened to isolate me completely, cutting me off from school, the internet, and everything else. My mom cried and shut me down when I tried to explain my pain. They refuse to listen and my dad said it’s all my fault. That day they threw me outside the house for a night, and called me back in telling me to forget everything and forgive them, but I understood that I will not be able to mention anything about my mental health or seeing an OCD specialist ever again, I am completely alone now. With no financial support, and now I don’t know if I’ll ever get the proper therapy I need. I’m only 15, but it feels like I’ll be trapped in this suffering forever, I feel hopeless, I feel like shit, I am going to suffer forever with no support and help.
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Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore
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Tmi warning I was being intimate with my bf and I kept getting the name of someone else pop up, but I didn’t feel anxious. Afterwards, as much as I tried to delay confessing, I couldn’t help it. I confessed. My bf was fine he said I probably didn’t feel anxious because I’ve gotten used to the anxiety and it’s okay, it doesn’t define me any more than it would if I was anxious. A few minutes later, he got upset and said that the confession kinda ruined a blissful moment. I’m so upset that my head feels so turbulent I didn’t even notice it was a blissful moment for him and could’ve been for me. I feel so awful. I haven’t slept in a day, I can’t stop crying. My bf is afraid that because this specific name keeps popping up, it might mean something and he feels less than sometimes because of it. I know I shouldn’t have confessed but I felt so safe that it was like a dam broke loose. I feel so awful. What’s worse is that I’m still scared it means something, I’m scared that my boyfriend’s fear is right. He’s very understanding of OCD and how it manifests in me and everything, I think I just kinda messed up a sacred moment and I feel so much guilt and confusion and just horrendous. I’m not even fully anxious. I don’t know what to do. I apologized a lot but I feel like I don’t deserve him and so selfish
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