- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Scared I don’t actually have OCD
Anyone else scared that they don’t actually have OCD, and their relationship is doomed?
Anyone else scared that they don’t actually have OCD, and their relationship is doomed?
Honestly the "maybe I don't have ocd" thought is such a common intrusive thought. I try to view it this way: might as well treat it like OCD if it's similar to it. No matter what, therapy, guidance, and working at obsessive feelings or thoughts, can't hurt. ERP helps with things you're scared with, not just OCD. On my worst days, I also just try to answer this question: "Regardless of what thoughts I'm having right now, whether they are true or not, whether it's ocd or not, am I willing to stay in and work on this relationship?" That way I make the active decision to stay with my partner regardless. Making this "decision" helped a lot in the long run.
Yes, and I know I have strange circular Intrusive thoughts then panic that will doom my relationship… I always think I am the problem, they are better without me. Then my mind will clear no thoughts and I feel fine, just doomed to never have a meaningful healthy relationship, like I am not allowed to.
@tdb138 Exactly! Like they deserve better! I feel weird because I never have felt these kind of doubts before in a relationship before. But then again, no one really has committed to me the way he has though. It’s very confusing.
@songbird1 Currently I am working 2K miles away from him.he says don’t worry “I love you” I’m like how can you I’m broken
@tdb138 My bf and I live together, and it’s really hard with my thoughts. Are you thinking about getting treatment?
@songbird1 I currently have a therapist that I see… but I didn’t realize that the thoughts I have .. others have them too- I have been afraid to tell my therapist many of the thoughts. But, I am thinking that I might be able to express them now. If I do not, I fear that I will destroy the first healthy relationship I have had. I can literally drive myself into the ground obsessively thinking and worrying.
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@Kingkj2 @Kingkj2 I work in an environment with numerous types of psychiatric disorders… I obsess about imposter syndrome very often… what if they realize I’m just like them? That I’m a fraud .. or am I really like them? Fear fear fear I’ve been in this profession for 10 years and I keep expecting any day that they will burst through and find out I’m a fake…. Repeat , obsess, over compensate …I would love to one day go to work and feel like I know what I’m doing and belong
@Kingkj2 Same!
@Kingkj2 I always feel like I am in denial about my thoughts and that maybe I am “settling” in my relationship and that it is doomed to fail
Same here on the worrying and obsessive front!
@Kingkj2 Trauma/ER/Psychiatric ER with a lock down unit
i’m terrified to get a diagnosis. What if it’s not actually OCD??? I made a list of reasons why i think so and then i think what if im lying and i actually don’t do this stuff and am just dramatic and i just want to have OCD so then my thoughts are justified?? I have struggled in the past year with Pocd & Rocd and then also some bits of thinking im constantly in danger or being watched? I’m scared.
I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
is it possible to even have a relationship while i’m suffering with real event ocd and ocd in general. i’m just so scared they’ll find out everything bad i’ve done and leave me
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