- Username
- songbird1
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Scared I don’t actually have OCD
Anyone else scared that they don’t actually have OCD, and their relationship is doomed?
Anyone else scared that they don’t actually have OCD, and their relationship is doomed?
Honestly the "maybe I don't have ocd" thought is such a common intrusive thought. I try to view it this way: might as well treat it like OCD if it's similar to it. No matter what, therapy, guidance, and working at obsessive feelings or thoughts, can't hurt. ERP helps with things you're scared with, not just OCD. On my worst days, I also just try to answer this question: "Regardless of what thoughts I'm having right now, whether they are true or not, whether it's ocd or not, am I willing to stay in and work on this relationship?" That way I make the active decision to stay with my partner regardless. Making this "decision" helped a lot in the long run.
Yes, and I know I have strange circular Intrusive thoughts then panic that will doom my relationship… I always think I am the problem, they are better without me. Then my mind will clear no thoughts and I feel fine, just doomed to never have a meaningful healthy relationship, like I am not allowed to.
@tdb138 Exactly! Like they deserve better! I feel weird because I never have felt these kind of doubts before in a relationship before. But then again, no one really has committed to me the way he has though. It’s very confusing.
@songbird1 Currently I am working 2K miles away from him.he says don’t worry “I love you” I’m like how can you I’m broken
@tdb138 My bf and I live together, and it’s really hard with my thoughts. Are you thinking about getting treatment?
@songbird1 I currently have a therapist that I see… but I didn’t realize that the thoughts I have .. others have them too- I have been afraid to tell my therapist many of the thoughts. But, I am thinking that I might be able to express them now. If I do not, I fear that I will destroy the first healthy relationship I have had. I can literally drive myself into the ground obsessively thinking and worrying.
Same here on the worrying and obsessive front!
@Kingkj2 Trauma/ER/Psychiatric ER with a lock down unit
So i use to get a lot of relationship OCD. I recently got into a relationship two months ago. i have been experiencing some relationship OCD thoughts like “do i like my partner enough” and to complete the compulsion of telling them that i am having this thought. I use to be able to conquer them but after bringing it up in therapy it got worse. does anyone have any recommendations on how to conquer this compulsion and thought? I don’t want to scare my partner away.
Hello, I recently discovered I may have relationship OCD. I haven’t been formally diagnosed yet but I started experiencing thoughts like “I don’t really love him” or “I’m gonna break up with him”, and sometimes even thoughts that he doesn’t love me or he’s gonna leave me. This all started when I got a text from a former partner, and it was very surprising. I thought since it affected me so much that it meant I still loved him and that I didn’t love my current boyfriend. Before this event, I struggled with intrusive thoughts and compulsions but never about relationships and I didn’t think I had OCD. I wasn’t experiencing any of these specific thoughts before I got that text, and it’s really scary and I’m afraid my thoughts are true. I really do love my boyfriend but these thoughts are really making me depressed.
How have you dealt with this? OCD definitely has affected my relationship but he’s been and stayed with me for over a year and a breakup hasn’t happened. Yet in my mind I’m not worthy of a relationship because of my mental health. Help?
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