I keep questioning if i like my partner and daugther? And if i like anything i used to love… its like i can’t feel joy when im being with the ones i love anymore??? Is this normal ocd??
I feel like this with my partner. Like I am the one responsible for sucking all joy out of the relationship. Instead of doing things to make things better I just freeze and become quiet. When I get like this I need activities to distract me that don't require much effort e.g. going to the cinema together or meeting with friends for a bit. It's not a cure, but it stops things from getting worse and gives me necessary time to see things a bit clearer.
@TheBeachFromHere But what is it? Ocd compulsive feelings?
@Ohhnocd - I have relationship OCD so we could be celebrating my birthday and instead of enjoying the moment I am crippled by intrusive thoughts about my partner. Which in turn makes me feel sad and she can't understand why I am unhappy when it's supposed to be a happy moment. This makes me feel guilty and I spiral from there. It's the constant mental checking or "reassurance trap" that gives me sadness and exhaustion. Am I attracted to her? Would I be happier with someone else? The need to know 100% for sure. I'm still in therapy so I don't get it right all the time. CBT has been useful. Also the book "Needing to know for sure" was a great comfort as I could read examples of other people that had similar thinking patterns. The most helpful thing for me has been to remind myself that OCD is a disorder. From there you can start to be kinder to yourself.
You're probably just depressed. Depression on top of OCD is an entirely different can of worms. You still need ERP to deal with the feelings overall, but you may need help breaking through feeling flatlined. If you can summon the energy, do the opposite of what your brain is telling you to do. Go outside and do vigorous exercis.
@Asdfjklz Ever since i got ocd i felt this way… so i don’t think i have a depression… but sure it can be
@Asdfjklz Its mostly in the morning
@Ohhnocd I also get that in the morning. In fact, I often feel my worst in the morning. I think it has to do with Cortisol adding to the problem. But this seems like textbook OCD. You will lose interest in the things you like, sometimes you'll even feel disgust for them and that's OCD trying to drive you away from a healthy outlet to "save" you.
@Asdfjklz Why would ocd try to drive me away from it? Just to make me sad?
@Ohhnocd It's usually a personal reason for each person. One example is that socializing with a really anxious or depressed person is bound to be a completely different quality of conversation than if you were to converse with someone who feels fine. It sounds like it's a defense mechanism. Maybe subconsciously you don't want certain people to see you at your lowest so your brain feels the need to avoid them. You would have a better idea than any of us what your case is.
Yes. Ocd can make you feel everything you don’t want
Its not the relationship it’s OCD. ERP is the only thing that’s worked for me.
@Honeyshark How do i erp… cant feel stuff in my relationship? And can feel joy often?
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