McDucko
- Date posted
- 2y
Parenthood
Me and my partner are sorta trying for a child but I'm really worried I'll end up giving them this disorder. Am I being irrational? Are there any parents who could chime in and give me advice?
JazzCrabJazzCrab
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Maybe your kid will wind up with ocd, maybe not. Good news is if you’re aware that you have it, you’ll know what to look out for if your child develops symptoms so you can get them help earlier on.
ivefailed.ivefailed.
- Date posted
- 2y
True !!
McDuckoMcDucko
- Date posted
- 2y
You know... I'm surprised OCD hasn't picked up on it yet. It's crazy because I can see it in one of my parents and even my siblings. I can't really convince them to get tested but that's a good point, I'd be the caretaker and I'd know already.
DutchgirlDutchgirl
- Date posted
- 2y
@JazzCrab Absolutely what I was thinking! I suffered into adulthood before receiving help.
ocd_junkieocd_junkie
- Date posted
- 2y
your concerns are valid. from what i understand, OCD itself isn’t necessarily genetic, but anxiety can be. i am the product of generations of anxiety disorders — from PTSD, GAD, and OCD. i have your same concerns. my advice would be to just check in with yourself further down the line and see if the concerns are still there. the thought of someone i love going through what i go through…i couldn’t take it. so, if there’s even a chance, i’m not risking it. not a huge loss though — i didn’t exactly win big in the genetic lottery. but, it’s a personal decision, between you and your partner. if you go to therapy, i would also try voicing these concerns to your therapist. they might be able to help you work through your concerns and understand them better
McDuckoMcDucko
- Date posted
- 2y
Spoke with my shrink about it and they told me to never let it get in the way of the experience. It's still hard for me to take that advice because of how bad my bad days get.
ocd_junkieocd_junkie
- Date posted
- 2y
@Asdfjklz if they said that, i support them and you 100%. they’re right, don’t let OCD steal that joy from you. it will all turn out just fine, keep reaching out for help and doing the hard work. i’m rooting for you!
Ro__Ro__
- Date posted
- 2y
I just gave birth to my first child a little less then 6 months ago, obviously it’s way too early to know if he will have ocd but I definitely will make it known to him that it’s okay to have difficult thoughts and feelings and strategies to work through them! I’ve had ocd symptoms since I was a child and I think if you learn tools young it can really help to change the way you deal with your thoughts. I would suggest really really taking care of your mental health during and after pregnancy I’ve had almost debilitating anxiety since my son was born and it’s been extremely difficult. I wish I would have sought out help and worked on myself sooner so that I could get the most out of this time.
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Is there less than a 50 percent chance developing it?
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 24w
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- Date posted
- 17w
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mamabear0202
- Date posted
- 11w
Irrational fears as a mom.
Hi everyone, this is giving me so much anxiety even saying this out loud because my OcD is telling me that somehow someone will know who I am on here and report me this goes with what I’m about to say about my irrational stuff. Since my baby was born I’ve had a lot of majorrr anxiety about him getting sick. From there my postpartum ocd spiked. I had this irrational fear someone would falsely report me as a bad mom and I’d get my baby taken from me. I’ve NEVER had anyone tell me I’m a bad mom, as a matter of fact, almost every day I get praised for how good of a mom I am. My child is so loved and taken care of. So why did I have that fear? it CONSUMED ME. Obsessively cleaning my house in case a social worker came. Stopped posting myself having occasional girls nights out for dinner because I thought one of my followers would think I’m a bad mom for getting a break. Not being able to talk about ANYTHING or send pictures of my baby to family and friends to update them since we live out of state because somehow I thought I would say something wrong or do something that would make someone think I’m a bad mom. I was convinced my baby was gonna be taken for zero reason. I still sometimes catch myself over analyzing myself and what I say because I don’t want to say the wrong thing and someone think I’m not a fit mom. I would even replay every scenario I remember and then second guess myself if that really happened or if I said something or not and freak out and spiral from there. with driving, if I go over a speed bump I have to double check it wasn’t magically a person. Then I panic even though I know for a fact it was a speed bump. I hate living like this. I feel crazy. I don’t open up because I feel like I’m the only person in the world. The one time I opened up about driving it was used against me. I feel like I’m drowning and I’m failing as a mom. I don’t even open up to a therapist about my irrational fear about baby being taken bc I don’t want them to think I’m a bad mom. It just doesn’t stop.
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