- Date posted
- 2y
Help me stop my compulsions :(
I struggle with real event ocd, scrupulosity, and pocd my main compulsions are: - self-reassurance - self-punishment Like my main problem is: I get thoughts that are statements, like - you’ve done [insert terrible thing] and my nearly automatic response is to reassure myself, or at the very least to not let the thought fade out of my awareness. The fear is that if I’m not feeling sure at every moment that I’m okay, there’s something wrong, and stopping my reassurance and focusing will somehow “make the thought more real/true”. If I stop doing this compulsion, then my other default response becomes to “say the thought is true”. I end up saying this to myself very often and nearly automatically, so I end up getting depressed over time, even if my head feels “clearer”. This feels horrible and makes me less functional, so I avoid it and stick with the former compulsion. I do it so often that my head literally feels split in two. On the one hand, I go about my day and do surface level thinking on other things, and with my medicine I don’t feel that anxious. But a “layer” deeper, I am still doing the compulsions. I realized this because I’m a lot slower at a lot of things. In particular, I’m a college student, and my memory and mathematical skills are severely affected by this. And when I try to focus deeply and fully on something else, without reassurance (like when I try to study) I feel like I’m gonna start having a panic attack. It also takes so much effort, I can’t do it as I go about my day. The only time I can do it is laying in bed because I get so tense and hyperventilated. I also get a headache right after trying to let my mind wonder, and I don’t feel like I ever habituate to my anxiety because I get triggered and respond compulsively merely seconds after I stop my exercise and return to my everyday life. And again, if I force myself to stop my compulsions, I feel so much anxiety that I can’t function. So I inevitably do compulsions, no matter how much I want to stop. My thoughts are that I need a much stronger medication to curb my extreme anxiety so that I can actually do my exposures correctly. I don’t have any other ideas. Anyone else relate to the experience I described? If so, did you overcome it? Any tips? How do you manage to be mindful when you get extreme anxiety and your mind tells you that horrible things will happen if you “forget” your thought or let it out of your awareness?