Ok so I thought I’d just come on here to say that I have realised that everyone with HOCD is different. Some may be more open to experimenting and others really don’t want that. Just because we have HOCD doesn’t mean we are all the same! I used to get really bad anxiety from hearing that other people have chosen to come out or are open are to being with the same sex but that’s their decision, not mine! If you really are not open to it then you don’t have to be and likely won’t ever be. Everyone is different and we are all just trying to get through this

Yeah if we were actually what our ocd was trying to tell us I don’t think we would be so confused. Like we would accept that and move on with our lives. It wouldn’t be so debilitating and make us so sad if it was true. Also I did see someone on here who said she was bisexual and she finally figured it out. But she explained that she’s had ocd all her life and she thought what was going on was ocd, but she didn’t worry about it like everyone else. She said she always kind of liked girls, so she’s different from us??‍♀️

But people with hocd that come out dont make sense (unless they come out as bi or gay with the purpose to get their old selves back and to realise hocd really was them lying to themselves) to me because thats litteraly their biggest fear. Hocd aint hocd if ur acc gay or coming out.. idk if thats just me who feels like this

I also feel the same as you. I wasn’t clear enough in my response. I just don’t want the rest of us to get spiked by other people who chose to do so. If they are open to that then that’s on them and whether they have HOCD or not is questionable but not our problem. It’s all very confusing. I just worry that if they really have HOCD then what would be preventing all of us from just “coming out” like you can’t just come out when you don’t really want that. That would be nothing to do with sexuality. When I feel like it’s so real, I always come back to the fact that I don’t want that, therefore that would prevent me from coming out as anything other than straight no matter how confused ocd makes me.

"testing" by "coming out" is nothing more than a compulsion. You try do that and maybe get some instant relief because you realise "oh maybe I'm not gay" and then in a few days you'll start thinking "how did I really feel when I came out?" Or "maybe I secretly liked it. Let me test again to see how I feel". You can never defeat OCD by doing what it tells you to do or feeding into the theme that you have. Stop testing, stop analysing, stop reading stories about gay people or people with HOCD who "came out". OCD is all the same regardless of theme, read about OCD recovery techniques, watch OCD YouTubers like Ali Greymond and employ the techniques they lay out. Reading about HOCD is a compulsion at this point.

Thank you for the advice

Oh i see, thats very kind of you to post so you can stop other people from feeling trigggered by people saying they came out! I get what youre saying tho. Personally ive never seen someone coming out that has hocd. But i did hear people coming out as bi or gay but jusr so that they can clear things up, they use it as exposure therapy u know. But i know that all those people told that it acrually didnt help and that they still were just as confused as they were when they identified as straight. Its like imagine this all going away and feeling a big relieve when you tell people your gay. Like thats impossible. If u were really gay you would feel a big relieve and you would get the old you back but thats not possible like all the sadness in us is created by hocd. So if we were to come out now it would change us at all, we would still be sad. We wouldnt suddenly feel joy and happyness again right. So people who suffer from hocd come out to basically test if they get their old selves and happyness vack if they come out but that never worked for anybody as far as i know lol.

Ahhh ok you have cleared things up for me too, that totally makes sense. This is why this app is useful!

Mmmmm interesting