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Always supported gay and lesbian people. They are human and just like the rest of us. Really don't like 'anti gay' people. Or the phrase anti gay.
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The word homophobic annoys me. Phobic means fear. So whenever someone says they are homophobic it's like what, you're scared of gay people? ? I really dislike those who are so small minded to think that gay people are any less human than the rest of us
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Gay people dont choose who they qre attracted to anymore than straight people.
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Exactly! Being gay is not a choice. They are just like the rest of us. It's something I feel quite strongly about being 'anti gay' is just as bad as being a racist
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I've always supported
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I wasn't particularly anti-gay, but I don't support it. I don't care what people want. If they are gay, that's fine. Everybody should do what they want to do.
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Never. I have more bisexual friends than anything else xd
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Progress not perfection yeah I do agree it's not homophobic to not want to be gay of course not but I just wish people didn't care so much about what they are., don't put so much importance on it. If you are you are. But then again I understand why they may not want to be. Family may not accept it, friends. I'm lucky to come from very accepting and understanding family who would support me if I was a lesbian I know not everyone is lucky enough to have that.
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I’m trying to unlearn all that I did in the past (I still got some work to do) because I don’t want to be that type of person.
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Thinking being gay is gross is being homophobic sorry but it is! It's no more a choice than the colour skin you are born with. Ffs. I'm out of this post now because I'm getting annoyed at the small mindedness. Sorry but going through life with that attitude does matter. Well it does to me anyway but that's because I'm from a family that accepts people for who they are and would never say such disgusting things about someone for loving the same sex. ?
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I mean I don’t have anything against them they can live their life how ever they want and I know that it wasn’t their choice the thing I don’t support is how they want to act like the whole world revolves around them
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No I've been around gay people in my family all my life. My first girlfriends mum was a lesbian who was married to a woman. I've shared a house with gay and lesbian people and enjoyed their company
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I grew up in an anti-gay environment but I later accepted it because I thought it was silly to hate people because of how they identify.
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Like some of y’all I wasn’t anti gay I just didn’t know anything about them so I didn’t support them
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But its not homophobic to not want to be gay. Just like it's not racist to not want to be black. Gay people and black people face challenges that straight people and white people dont. It is easier to be straight. It is easier to be white
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Sorry but you are homophobic. Saying its gross.?! I'm gonna shut up now cos I'll snap and say some stuff I don't wanna. I don't wanna be angry but that comment has pissed me right off. ?
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Even growing up in a homophobic/Christian environment, I personally didn’t care how people identify, specifically my friends. They’re still that person that I became friends with no matter who they are. And also, I believe that we should love EVERYONE like we’d love ourselves and be more accepting because at the end of the day, God loves all of us.
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Esosa it's great that you grew up around that but still manage to have your own views and not be homophobic ❤️ I like people like that ?
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Good for you esosa ❤️
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Thanks it was just a simple question but you know how people are I was asking this because before hocd I just didn’t support the lgbt community and I was wondering if it was only me
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Why would I want to try it
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Because its important we see the common humanity we all share whether straight or gay, ocd not ocd we all deserve support. When gay people win we all win
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Whether you’re an HOCD sufferer or not, there has to be some tolerance and acceptance towards the community and yourself in order to resolve the obsession and also because people in the community are people too.
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Same I have hocd and I understand that they have it hard and like you I also have some type of homophobia
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I don't recognise the latter as a definition of homophobia, non factual or factual. I think that's something else. I'm saying that I hold homophobic beliefs and have homophobic thoughts, but I don't speak or act out of fear towards gays. Any avoidance of gays has not been directed at gays but rather myself. It is a self centred inward fear linked to my hocd and my environmental conditioning and how I reacted to it. Noone fears being straight because there are no negative consequences in fact it is celebrated every day as opposed to pride
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I wasnt anti gay i just didnt know a lot of lgtb people so i want really invested or something
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Although I went through periods of avoiding gays or feeling uncomfortable around those I thought were gay or camp. I also avoided talking about gay people, celebrities, events like Pride etc
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Yeah. I feel the same way as all of these comments. I just want people to be them and they shouldn’t feel any less of a person because of the way they choose to live. I didn’t really care too much about lgbt or pride because I guess I just didn’t know too much about it. I loved the people that were though.
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Don't knock it till you've tried it
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What do you mean
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I'm here because of hocd too but I have some homophobia I'm recovering from I admit
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Its internal
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Yes I 100% agree but homophobia is a spectrum just like sexual orientation. Im just acknowledging I'm not 100% free from homophobia in my mind. In my words and actions yes
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Yes I understand why you said that but ultimately the human body can be really beautiful male or female. We both share a lot of the same body parts. Women can be hairy too like men and they have every right not to shave if they want or wear makeup. Why is it ok for men to show nipples but not women?
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Exactly
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What do you mean bt not supporting them?
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Does anyone else experience ocd around the topic of non monogamy and hookup culture and stuff? Im not hating people who are into these things, intact I thinks it great that people have ways of experiencing relationships how they want to and I will always support and advocate for that, but non monogamy and hookup culture is not for me. However because its not for me and I really don't want to partake in any of these things by brain keeps telling me things like: 1. Monogamy is toxic and fake and polyamory is the only real way to have relationships 2. I secretly want non monogamy and casual relationship 3. I'm experiencing these feelings because im a bigot 4. Everyone's involved in non monogamy in some for these days even if its things like open relationships, threesomes etc so monogamy will become rare and you will never have a relationship Those are just some of the thoughts but I have many more. Like I said I'm supportive of people who engage in those things, but I don't want it and I feel as though I can't justify my reasons why I don't want it and that I'm a fake or a bigot. I'm constantly googling "benefits of monogamy" "why monogamy is better" etc to justify to myself why I want what i want. My googling is so obsessive though and I'm up all night doing it and watching videos and things. I can't sleep because of my worries. Everytime I see anything, anywhere relating to non monogamy wheather that be open relationships, polyamory, threesomes etc I feel so sick In my stomach, my anxiety sky rockets and I just want to cry, it's how I am with seeing gay relationship and things with my sexual orientation ocd. (I feel the same when I things about hookups and stuff too). It's like a voice in my head is going "see it's working for these people, you actually want it, your lying if you don't". I have thousands of screenshots of articles and posts that's reassure me about my wants but my ocd always makes be doubt myself. I need some advice on how to deal with it, because im at breaking point and feel like a horrible person. I also want to know if anyone else is dealing with what I'm going through.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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