Was anybody on here anti gay before hocd or just didn’t support them

Always supported gay and lesbian people. They are human and just like the rest of us. Really don't like 'anti gay' people. Or the phrase anti gay.

The word homophobic annoys me. Phobic means fear. So whenever someone says they are homophobic it's like what, you're scared of gay people? ? I really dislike those who are so small minded to think that gay people are any less human than the rest of us

Gay people dont choose who they qre attracted to anymore than straight people.

Exactly! Being gay is not a choice. They are just like the rest of us. It's something I feel quite strongly about being 'anti gay' is just as bad as being a racist

I've always supported

I wasn't particularly anti-gay, but I don't support it. I don't care what people want. If they are gay, that's fine. Everybody should do what they want to do.

Never. I have more bisexual friends than anything else xd

Progress not perfection yeah I do agree it's not homophobic to not want to be gay of course not but I just wish people didn't care so much about what they are., don't put so much importance on it. If you are you are. But then again I understand why they may not want to be. Family may not accept it, friends. I'm lucky to come from very accepting and understanding family who would support me if I was a lesbian I know not everyone is lucky enough to have that.

I’m trying to unlearn all that I did in the past (I still got some work to do) because I don’t want to be that type of person.

Thinking being gay is gross is being homophobic sorry but it is! It's no more a choice than the colour skin you are born with. Ffs. I'm out of this post now because I'm getting annoyed at the small mindedness. Sorry but going through life with that attitude does matter. Well it does to me anyway but that's because I'm from a family that accepts people for who they are and would never say such disgusting things about someone for loving the same sex. ?

I mean I don’t have anything against them they can live their life how ever they want and I know that it wasn’t their choice the thing I don’t support is how they want to act like the whole world revolves around them

No I've been around gay people in my family all my life. My first girlfriends mum was a lesbian who was married to a woman. I've shared a house with gay and lesbian people and enjoyed their company

I grew up in an anti-gay environment but I later accepted it because I thought it was silly to hate people because of how they identify.

Like some of y’all I wasn’t anti gay I just didn’t know anything about them so I didn’t support them

But its not homophobic to not want to be gay. Just like it's not racist to not want to be black. Gay people and black people face challenges that straight people and white people dont. It is easier to be straight. It is easier to be white

Sorry but you are homophobic. Saying its gross.?! I'm gonna shut up now cos I'll snap and say some stuff I don't wanna. I don't wanna be angry but that comment has pissed me right off. ?

Even growing up in a homophobic/Christian environment, I personally didn’t care how people identify, specifically my friends. They’re still that person that I became friends with no matter who they are. And also, I believe that we should love EVERYONE like we’d love ourselves and be more accepting because at the end of the day, God loves all of us.

Esosa it's great that you grew up around that but still manage to have your own views and not be homophobic ❤️ I like people like that ?

Good for you esosa ❤️

Thanks it was just a simple question but you know how people are I was asking this because before hocd I just didn’t support the lgbt community and I was wondering if it was only me

Why would I want to try it

Because its important we see the common humanity we all share whether straight or gay, ocd not ocd we all deserve support. When gay people win we all win

Whether you’re an HOCD sufferer or not, there has to be some tolerance and acceptance towards the community and yourself in order to resolve the obsession and also because people in the community are people too.

I don't recognise the latter as a definition of homophobia, non factual or factual. I think that's something else. I'm saying that I hold homophobic beliefs and have homophobic thoughts, but I don't speak or act out of fear towards gays. Any avoidance of gays has not been directed at gays but rather myself. It is a self centred inward fear linked to my hocd and my environmental conditioning and how I reacted to it. Noone fears being straight because there are no negative consequences in fact it is celebrated every day as opposed to pride

I wasnt anti gay i just didnt know a lot of lgtb people so i want really invested or something

Although I went through periods of avoiding gays or feeling uncomfortable around those I thought were gay or camp. I also avoided talking about gay people, celebrities, events like Pride etc

Yeah. I feel the same way as all of these comments. I just want people to be them and they shouldn’t feel any less of a person because of the way they choose to live. I didn’t really care too much about lgbt or pride because I guess I just didn’t know too much about it. I loved the people that were though.

Don't knock it till you've tried it

What do you mean

I'm here because of hocd too but I have some homophobia I'm recovering from I admit

Its internal

Same I have hocd and I understand that they have it hard and like you I also have some type of homophobia

Yes I 100% agree but homophobia is a spectrum just like sexual orientation. Im just acknowledging I'm not 100% free from homophobia in my mind. In my words and actions yes

Yes I understand why you said that but ultimately the human body can be really beautiful male or female. We both share a lot of the same body parts. Women can be hairy too like men and they have every right not to shave if they want or wear makeup. Why is it ok for men to show nipples but not women?

Exactly

What do you mean bt not supporting them?