AyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
Loss of attraction
Still got loss of attraction. Kind of bored now, but still scared at the same time ? Maybe uts because im desperate to become attracted again. Not sure. Anyone relate? X
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
Someone told me earlier today that ocd feeds off of your deepest fears and tries to play with your confusions and uncertainties. But one of the most beautiful things I heard was that your desires and thoughts are naturally what you are without the ocd involved, I am telling you, whatever mindset or thoughts you had before your ocd are what you actually are and there is a way to change the way you think. Lately I’ve been reading the Bible everyday, because that truly gives me joy and happiness. Now listen I’m not trying to convince y’all to be Christian’s, but I consider it because it give you a clear mind. A thought process that is controlled by God and him alone. For me this was the best form of reassurance. Although everyone says that reassurance is a form of compulsion. I’ve only gotten better form reading the Bible and taking the life principles and using them in my daily life. Just know that you will gain your attraction back, and this opportunity to understand the way your brain works is also a gift. It is truly a learning experience. Much love to everyone fighting ocd and learning to process. Love y’all be safe. And don’t be hard on yourself. Learn to live yourself before trying to gain that attraction back. ❤️🙏
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
Sure can. It sucks! But don’t try so hard. I know easier said than done. If you do the work in treatment things start to get better naturally. Almost without noticing.
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
I truly respect your faith but God won’t save you from this disorder. You must do the ERP work with the proper specialist. The real faith is to the process of exposure therapy and staying with it no matter how hard it gets. Believe in the process.
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
@Luke33:) I completely agree with you. It is battled by hard work, erp and so on. God is just something ive had in mind. Not to “cure” it, just to allow a “reason” for all this. Makee sense in my head for some reason lol 😭 x
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
@AyseTetik To me there is no reason for this. OCD is a malfunction in the brain. Some people get it. Others have different afflictions. This is what we have to deal with. I think searching for reasons could lead to more confusion. Why doesn’t matter? It’s what we do with it that matters. The science and research is out there. The best approach to OCD is possibly medication and definitely working with a specialist guiding you through ERP. Seeking reassurance any way you spin it is a compulsion when you have OCD. Anything in direct response to an intrusive thought to try and feel better in the moment can be a compulsion. Even reading the Bible.
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
@Luke33:) Youre right. I know that it would lead to confusion, and blaming God would just be a random step in the wrong direction. I suppose, the reason i considered “God” was because i see ocd as a hurdle, a very high hurdle that is in mine and our way. I shouldnt ask WHY it is there, but just try and get over the hurdle using proper techniques. I dont know with God, its just, ocd made me nearly consider it if yiu know what i mean. Probably its sneaky way of looking for an answer. 😞😊
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
You’re faith in God will alway determine how hard you work in this life. God is the most powerful force or nature. He will turn your life upside Down in an instant if you repent and believe in him
Luke33:)Luke33:)
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous It’s dangerous to spread this message on a site such as this one. We have OCD and need to follow the science in mental health. God won’t save us from it. Turn your life upside down in an instant? That’s simply not true with this disorder. The work to get better is long and painstaking and frustrating. It takes time and patience. There are no quick fixes.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
You just need to believe
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
Thanks for your comments! I have actually considered turning to God as i have thought about the things you have said about him. Everything happens for a reason is what I believe, and maybe, it is God. Still, im going to work hard to ignore these thoughts and become my original self again ❤️
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@AyseTetik The past two months have been the hardest, two months of my entire life. I have learned to understand that these intrusive thoughts, emotions, feelings, have all been fake. They have all been driven by fear, and the constant worry that I might be something that I never knew that I was. until I really thought about it, I believed that the word of God was more important than any feeling that I’m feeling right now. Just hearing that you said you consider turning to God put a smile on my face because I know if you do that, your heart will be filled with joy. I want show you this verse if you do consider this decision, because my life has taking a drastic turn in so many positive ways. Romans 8:38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from Gods love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our fears for tomorrow- not even the powers of hell can separate us from Gods love. This is saying that your fears on not from you. The devil is giving you these fears to hurt you and convince you of things that you aren’t. God wants to change you and guide you on a path of forever joy that can’t compare to anything or anyone. God loves you and wants you to give him your fears, your worries, your troubles, and your uncertainties. The only reassurance you’ll ever need is from the love of God. God gives is reassurance. That’s the only thing that will never change. He has a path for you. And he loves you as is own. He cares for you and so do I. Cherish this uncertainty in your life and God will show you how to overcome this by trusting in him and his word for you. I wish you much love and unimaginable blessings for your life.
abib1001abib1001
- Date posted
- 2y
@AyseTetik I’m a girl and hoping to feel attracted to men again. I’ve been afraid to turn to God w/ this because I’m not sure what He can do with this. How have you prayed about this if you have at all?
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
@abib1001 I havent prayed. Ive never been religious. Nothing serious. Just want some faith. I always believe in the idea that everything happens for a reason. Xx
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
@abib1001 Like, it doesnt have to be GOD, but just something to put this ocd on. Youre not alone. I really wanna get my attraction back 😅
outofbraincellsoutofbraincells
- Date posted
- 2y
@abib1001 I did, but you have to be careful with not reassuring yourself too much because it may affect recovery. I prayed for strength and guidance because in my case I know it's God's way of trying to make me better myself and my life
AyseTetikAyseTetik
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous Thank you so much for your comment!! Im sorry you have to go through this too, but im glad you found your place with god, perhaps, i will do the same 😊
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