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My story/Maybe worth the read
December 17, 2022 I woke up at my parents house for Christmas vacation/visit. I felt off, weird, not right but didn't know why. The day prior I got my PoTs diagnosis and was relieved, believing this answer has proved I won't die anytime soon. My biggest fear was dying, leaving behind my partner. While also, having the fear that he would die as well. So on this day, the 17th of December, something went wrong. It felt like my brain just stopped working, I didn't feel like me, my memories didn't feel like mine, and the memories of me and my partner felt like a dream, like the past 4.5 years of our relationship didn't happen at all. I told him about how I was feeling, almost like I couldn't recognize my life and he came to my parents home to help out. When he walked in the door days after this had started, I looked at him and I did not recognize him, it was as if a stranger had walked in, hugged and kissed me and told me everything was ok. Pure anxiety rushed through my body, I will never forget it, ever. This is when the thoughts began. My brain has gone through every possible thing, even the tiniest of "problems" which aren't even problems, and have used them as a reason why my partner is not right. Not only did he feel like a complete stranger, but I felt like a stranger in my body. Non of my interests interested me, things that made me happy were simply dull and muted. Getting tattoos? Something that has ALWAYS been a huge thing for me , nah you don't want tattoos anymore, you don't like the tattoos you have. Tiny home? Nah you don't want that, that isn't what you want. Become an artist? Create a buissness? Naaaaaaaaaah. I could go on. It didn't just affect how I saw my loving, beautiful, amazing partner, it changed me and who I am. This disease is pain. It changes you. 10 months of dealing with this now, and it feels like its been an eternity. Though it has got better, some days are still as hard as the first. The one thing I know, through ALL of this pain, the thoughts the feelings, is that my partner is incredible, my partner is loving, is caring, is supportive, ALWAYS has my back, is my best friend, will always try to make me smile when I'm feeling down, and has helped me through this journey without hesitation, even though I know it has been so difficult for him too( even if he doesn't admit it). Thats how I know I have someone special, and I will hold onto these things. It sucks that the good days get overshadowed by the bad days, almost like you can't remember the good days at all. But I know they happened, I know how I felt, and I know those days will come the more I help myself, get the help I need, and do the work. My life changed in December, but that doesn't mean its over, or that this struggle is forever. For whoever read this crazy amount of words, know that good days will come, if you have a loving supportive partner, don't let this disease rip that away from you. You are strong, you are important and you deserve happiness and love in your life. OCD wants to protect you, but in the worst way possible. Even though it feels like you've been robbed of your own identity, you are you and you are in there fighting to get better, and thats what matters. ✌🏻& 💖 Side note- DON'T READ RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ONLINE, MOST IF NOT ALL OF IT IS SHALLOW NONSENSE AND HONESTLY RIDICULOUS.