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- 2y
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- Date posted
- 2y
This happened to me with my ex about a year ago and just hearing you put it into words is still so validating. You aren’t alone and there are definitely so Kant of us are feeling or have felt this same thing.
ocdallthewayocdalltheway
- Date posted
- 2y
This is the first time someone has described my experience with rocd and my "obsession". It's this constant hyper awareness of any female presence where you can't even exactly tell what the obsession or compulsion is, you just know it's OCD's fault. The worst part is, you really can't do the opposite. If my ocd is hyperfixating on this woman, should I look at her or ignore her? Since I'm only fixating on her because of my OCD, both these options are "OCD options". I would say it's a neutral obsession and the best way to deal with it is to let your attention drift away, let the thoughts exist but then refocus on your task, approach it mindfully and redirect yourself. That's what helped me although there still are tough periods. Just be aware that the is no "right way" to approach this, acceptance is usually the best way.
ocdallthewayocdalltheway
- Date posted
- 2y
@Martin89 Sorry for my late response but of course. I have a memory of my male classmate in high school going for a pen that fell on the floor and brushing his hair against my leg (we were sitting next to eachother) and this weird tingling sensation that I couldn't decide on if it was comfortable or uncomfortable (and the thoughts/doubts went crazy the instant it happened). It's probably the first time it happened that strongly, that's why it's such a vivid memory. After that it started to happen with anyone I touched. I got over it by just accepting the feeling, if a female colleague touches me and the feeling/thoughts pop up I just kinda agree with the thoughts and move on. It's like that sensation/doubts package that I don't care too much about. Sometimes it does catch me off guard but it's rare. Agreeing with the thoughts and doubts is for me the step before viewing the whole experience as just an experience, I don't judge it. It's also really hard to do, that's why I have faith in this method 😅
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