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- Spiral
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I mean, the thing is everyone experiences groinal sensations, even non OCD folk. Sometimes it just happens randomly and sometimes if we see something sexual. It’s just how our brains work. The amygdala of our brain is very primitive in that sense. Sex is just sex, even if what we see doesn’t align with our sexual preference. This is even more common amongst women. Women typically get more aroused by anything related to sex, regardless of what it is. You can look up non-arousal concordance. It’s super interesting stuff to read about. Just makes sure you don’t fall into the trap of reading that stuff all the time for reassurance like I did lol.
The groinal used to be the absolute worst for me. It was what definitely kept me stuck because sometimes it would just genuinely feel like actual arousal. And I couldn’t accept that possibility so I would do weird rituals to make sure to “undo” it. But I promise you the less you question it and just allow it to happen, the less frequent it will become. You can simply acknowledge the fact that you experienced a movement/sensation in your groin and not question it. It sucks at first, but it will get easier over time.
Ah thank you for this haha, I'm glad someone else also struggles with the same symptom! And I guess you're right about not questioning it. Probably the less you pay attention the less likely it is to happen again
this is absolutely a symptom i still struggle with. you are not alone. i wish i had advice but the person above me really hit it all!!
@Koko Puff Ahah yes I actually did find out about non-concordance, and it was a bit compulsive to read it for me too haha. Since I started stopping compulsions my anxiety about has increased (which I guess makes sense, and I know it'll go eventually). You explained that really well though actually - it always helps me to know about stuff and to know it's not just me ! Thank you :)
I want to get this off my chest... I'm not sure which OCD type I have. It started with fears of being gay but now I don't have as much gay thoughts (but still enormous amounts of anxiety, and no feelings for girls) but I'm doubting about recovery. I have been in treatment for two years but every time I fully decide to accept the OCD, then OCD finds a new way to doubt about this recovery tip. After OCD has latched a doubting thought about the recovery tip, it doesn't work any more and the more I try to use the tool (e.g. Notice the thoughts and return to present moment, meditation, mindfulness) the stronger the OCD gets. I try to remain positive but OCD pulls me into negativity. I feel like every thought I have is illogical and even the sentences I wrote here in the post feel like not real. I get so many questions in my head (that I know are OCD questions) but the more I try to resist answering them, the stronger they get. Basically like I want to recover but the more I want to come out of OCD the stronger it gets. I'm so confused and don't know what to do... I tried to confront the anxiety and I started liking the feeling but then OCD told me you hate the anxiety and it overtook me .. so so illogical and I'm really sick of it. 6 months of this back and forth between OCD and recovery and it's tiring me... Being so inadequate all the time and exhausted.. it seems like it's impossible to overcome the OCD when you just have no energy and you have the feeling as if you can't distinguish yourself from the thoughts. What to do when you are so overtaken by OCD and every decision you make, is actually OCD telling things in my head? Like my deciding part of my brain would be broken...
How detailed can thoughts be? Can it make you question if it even is OCD or just denial? I have talked to friends and therapist in the past and they have said based on everything you've told me you aren't what you think you are. And it felt like a weight had been lifted. But doubt creeps up saying "you are a pedophile, you are just in denial!" And that feeling comes in my gut followed by intense anxiety. I've heard OCD can make you question who you are as a person and I think that's what is happening now. I'll get a thought like "even if you are one, its not that bad" the I think but I don't feel like one and I've talked about this with mental health professionals in the past and they have agreed based on everything I've told them, then my mind claps back with but what if you are? It is a back and forth I get so exhausted having. I know I have to be ok with never knowing but it is hard to not want an answer because of the fear you may become your thoughts one day.
Basically. I’m scared that at some point I will feel no anxiety and ‘give in’ and accept it. I have a really hard time believing I have ocd (because I can’t get diagnosed because of my age) sometimes I feel like I do because I remember the days where I was crying on the floor with how real it felt and I DIDNT want it to be real. I worry that I am in denial and I’m just not accept it. Or that it’s suppressed. Or internalised homophobia. Anything really that means it’s all real. I have my moments where I feel normal again but they don’t last long. I wish I knew if it was hocd/ocd but then again I know I’d doubt it if I was told it was. But then again I feel like hearing a professional say ‘you have ocd’ would mean a lot to me. If anyone feels the same or similar I would love to know (btw reassurance very rarely helps me anymore. I just love knowing if I’m not alone and not going crazy) Maybe maybe not doesnt help. I always spiral more with that but I often use ‘I don’t need to know right now’ and that brings me some relief (not sure if it should but it does)
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