Can’t Stop Confessing

It feels like my mind scans for things for me to “confess” to my partner. Things that aren’t even important or necessary come into my mind and I feel so guilty about it and get super stressed and feel like the only way to get rid of that is to confess. I feel like it’s something I have to do. No matter how much I tell myself it’s something that doesn’t need to be said I still have to say it somehow. I don’t know if this is normal, but I just feel like my partner has to know everything. And this is causing arguments and making him upset. I don’t want to hurt my partner anymore as I can tell my OCD is really affecting him. If anyone has any advice that would be great!

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Hello Tiana I am a 24 year old guy and had the same thing happen to me in my first relationship at 19. Once you get over what is bothering you now it will be something else and your mind will dig for any more possible information, or ammunition if you will, on you. Your brain knows how to bother you and make you feel weird. We are all different but in this sense it is OCD forcing you to do something that you have complete control of. Don’t say things that are intentionally going to hurt him. Better left unsaid. Hope this helped. Just because your ocd talks doesn’t mean you need to listen. Sit in discomfort and find comfort and it will dissipate.

julia412

Date posted: 1y

I had the Same thing. Now my themes switched and it made me realize that the content of my OCD never mattered. It’s your reaction to it. I recommend to decrease your compulsion ( which is confessing). I know how hard it is.. you can start by post poning the confession if it’s too hard not to confess.

AdamLeonard94

Date posted: 1y

It’s impossible to be 100% honest – as I’m sure you’ve started to discover. There’s always another thing you’ll remember that you haven’t mentioned. The truth is your partner doesn’t need to know everything. Sit with the discomfort and avoid confessing if you can. Eventually it will get easier and you’ll realise it’s not necessary. Show yourself compassion: the reason you have this worry is because you love your partner and value transparency in a relationship. But you can still be loving and communicative without compulsive confessions. You might also be afraid that you’ve done something wrong and that your partner won’t love you unless you confess and receive forgiveness. But remember we all make mistakes. You don’t need to drag up each one out of the past and receive absolution from your partner. They already love you and that’s why you’re together

smokey32

Date posted: 1y

i’ve dealt with this and i still am. it was worse in the beginning because i kept confessing and then finding more things to feel guilty about. i’ve learned that the more time you sit with that discomfort and feeling the need to confess, the less discomfort you’ll experience. it’s really hard at first but the longer you go without confessing the easier it will get.

eric_f14

Date posted: 22w

False memory and need to confess

I’m having the need to confess that I was unfaithful to my girlfriend (even though I was not) because I drank too much Saturday night and don’t remember every single second from my evening. My OCD immediately goes to that I cheated on my girlfriend and I need to confess my sins. I know it’s only OCD, but the thoughts are extremely strong. Any suggestions? Thank you, community.

False Memory OCD

madalyndicie...

Date posted: 16w

hello everyone 🤍

i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.

anonymous737...

Date posted: 15w

Confessing things i don’t need to

I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Share your thoughts so the Community can respond

Can’t Stop Confessing

Related posts

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Be a part of the largest OCD Community