Can’t Stop Confessing

Hello Tiana I am a 24 year old guy and had the same thing happen to me in my first relationship at 19. Once you get over what is bothering you now it will be something else and your mind will dig for any more possible information, or ammunition if you will, on you. Your brain knows how to bother you and make you feel weird. We are all different but in this sense it is OCD forcing you to do something that you have complete control of. Don’t say things that are intentionally going to hurt him. Better left unsaid. Hope this helped. Just because your ocd talks doesn’t mean you need to listen. Sit in discomfort and find comfort and it will dissipate.

I had the Same thing. Now my themes switched and it made me realize that the content of my OCD never mattered. It’s your reaction to it. I recommend to decrease your compulsion ( which is confessing). I know how hard it is.. you can start by post poning the confession if it’s too hard not to confess.

It’s impossible to be 100% honest – as I’m sure you’ve started to discover. There’s always another thing you’ll remember that you haven’t mentioned. The truth is your partner doesn’t need to know everything. Sit with the discomfort and avoid confessing if you can. Eventually it will get easier and you’ll realise it’s not necessary. Show yourself compassion: the reason you have this worry is because you love your partner and value transparency in a relationship. But you can still be loving and communicative without compulsive confessions. You might also be afraid that you’ve done something wrong and that your partner won’t love you unless you confess and receive forgiveness. But remember we all make mistakes. You don’t need to drag up each one out of the past and receive absolution from your partner. They already love you and that’s why you’re together

i’ve dealt with this and i still am. it was worse in the beginning because i kept confessing and then finding more things to feel guilty about. i’ve learned that the more time you sit with that discomfort and feeling the need to confess, the less discomfort you’ll experience. it’s really hard at first but the longer you go without confessing the easier it will get.