Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
I’m done
How am I meant to tell what’s false memory & what’s real when intoxicated I feel so guilty about a night 10 months ago. I need help
SaraaSaraa
- Date posted
- 2y
You can't. You'll never know with 100% security. You really can't find certain proofs that you either did or didn't. That's uncertainty, and i know it's really hard for us with ocd to accept it, but the best thing you can do now is to sit with the discomfort, instead doing compulsions and keep trying to determine what the REAL TRUTH is...
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@Saraa It’s really hard I want a definitive answer, so I can relax and move on but without it it’s killing me
SaraaSaraa
- Date posted
- 2y
@Anonymous It would be awesome if we all can find definitive answers... bit they do not exists for this :/ We can definitely say if an object exists, but this are feelings, and we can't proove them... i know how bad you need to know, and how bad it makes you feel. I have rocd, and every time i feel anxious i start to wonder if i love my bf enough. I woul LOVE to have a secure answer. But it doesn't phisically exist. No one can mesure love, neither someone can enter in your mind and determine if it's real or not. We can't know, and that's what causing us discomfort.... we either can accept the discomfort or doing compulsions trying to answer it, without being able to know.
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@Saraa Firstly, hope your relationship is going well, u deserve it. I’m scared the reason I can’t accept it within myself as it would put me in prison, nothings came of it though, I’m scared to think what I’ve done, I can’t get out of bed and lived in hell for the last 10 months.
WeCanDoIt!WeCanDoIt!
- Date posted
- 2y
Saraa’s right. You’ll never know 100%. There are some lyrics that really resonate with me when it comes to seeking assurance. “If you fight, it’s automatically a fight.” Basically, if you seek reassurance about something, nothing you do is ever going to be enough. The real way out is through. Accepting that you’ll never know. “Maybe. Maybe not.”
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@WeCanDoIt! Yes I like them lyrics, thankyou for the comment, I do however think his can I accept something if it could put me into prison, hope your OCD is getting better too🙌
NicaNica
- Date posted
- 2y
Instead of seeking reassurance and making your OCD worse in the long run, here are resources and tools to help you instead: -ERP scripting: https://www.shalanicely.com/aha-moments/erp-scripting-for-ocd/ -The Hidden Power of Swearing at Your OCD: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/beyond-the-doubt/201711/the-hidden-power-of-swearing-at-your-ocd -Taking The Power Away From OCD: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/taking-the-power-away-from-intrusive-thoughts -Worry Script: https://www.anxietycanada.com/sites/default/files/WorryScript.pdf What is ERP therapy: https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/ocd-treatment/erp/
RMO2023RMO2023
- Date posted
- 2y
Well accept watever it is you are uncertain about; ask for forgivenes and forgive yourself.
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@RMO2023 How can I accept anything when I don’t know what’s true or not and it woud put me into prison, I’ve hated my life the last 10 months
SaraaSaraa
- Date posted
- 2y
Sorry for the typos, i'm jot English, i hope you understand anyway
RMO2023RMO2023
- Date posted
- 2y
Yeah.. so that is the thing right there. You jeed to decide by faith what you believe to be true.
Anonymous Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@RMO2023 Sorry might sound really dull, but could you explain that comment I don’t understand sorry to be a pain
RMO2023RMO2023
- Date posted
- 2y
For example, when everything around me and in me seems uncertain, the Word of God is an anchor for my soul. I believe His word is true; whether I understand it or not. I believe by faith (certainty of what I hope for and assurance of things not yet seen) I can be certain that His promises are true and are for me; that HE IS what it says; and so I am able to go on, because I have hope. So, you need to decide where is your hope and what you believe to be true (about yourself and the world around you) regardless of your feelings and your thoughts. You are not your feelings. They are like waves that come ang go.
RMO2023RMO2023
- Date posted
- 2y
I also myst add, that as I wait or continue to live in faith, I have seen the promises of God come true in my life, so that gives me more confidence to continue believing. I have personal experience as proof.
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